Conversations With Cinthia

If you’ve listened to the show for long, you’ve heard Cinthia talk a lot about “being your own best version.”  You’ve heard her teach that you (yes, you, personally) are alive for a reason, that God only made one of you, and that He did it on purpose.  No one else can be what He made you to be.  You’ve heard her teach that you can effect change in yourself and in the world around you.  You’ve heard her teach that pain is inevitable and that the effective management of it is imperative for being your own best version.  So are you learning to be your own best version?  And, if not, what is getting in your way?  Today Cinthia explores these established teachings in a new way.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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Finally, the moment we've been waiting for... Cinthia's latest book, Wars to Peace: Keeping Relationships from Going Nuclear, is finally here!!  And to celebrate, we are turning the tables with a very special interview, one in which Cinthia is the interviewee instead of the interviewer!  Join Cinthia's editor Michelle Savage as she interviews Cinthia about her newest book, including what inspired it and how it can help people transform their relationships and their personal relational functioning.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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How many people have you heard try to define what love is?  The poets, musicians, preachers, comic strip artists, teenagers, and so many others have been working on that one for millennia.  Today Cinthia interviews explores a book that considers love less for its existential definition and more for its behavior, specifically the behavior of the One the Bible claims actually IS love.  Join her for a conversation about Bob Goff's book Love Does.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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Have you ever been told that you are your own worst critic?  Is your own self-criticism so pervasive in your mind that it’s hard to even distinguish it from the rest of your thoughts?  With all you have heard about the negative impact of negative self-talk, why is it so hard to turn down the volume on that inner critic?  Today Cinthia explores the concept of the observing self, which is actually important for people to develop as they grow up, as well as some ways that observing self can (often in an attempt at self-protection, believe it or not!) become a caustic inner critic.  She also discusses what it might look like to give that critic a job-change and expect more and better things from it so that it becomes a compassionate witness instead of a tool for self-flagellation. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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Accepting ourselves as created beings who were not consulted about our own designs can be tough for humans.  We may not like certain things about ourselves, even things that God designed in us on purpose.  Sometimes we confuse our actual faults with traits we simply don’t like, or that others don’t like in us.  But becoming the best versions of ourselves requires accepting the way we were each made and learning to harness our unique temperaments for a purpose.  Join Cinthia to consider your own temperament and how accepting your own make-up (and that of others) can help you enjoy who you are, as well as work on the things that need work instead of constantly trying to be something you were never meant to be.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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Children and adolescents tend to define adulthood by the freedom to do whatever one wants to do.  Actual maturity, on the other hand, tends to involve skills like being able to wait patiently or do what needs to be done, even when one doesn’t feel like doing it.  The fact is that lots of people in our culture go through decades of adult life without ever understanding what it really means to grow up.  So how do we know if those people are us?  Is it possible to see our own immaturity clearly and forge a path toward true adulthood?  Join Cinthia to take a hard look at the marks of true adulthood.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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As Cinthia so often says, feelings are real but not always true.  The “real” part means (in part) that our bodies produce chemicals that wash through us – things like adrenaline and cortisol that can separate us from our logical brains and, if we’re not careful, influence our decisions in devastating ways.  The good news, Cinthia explains, is that it is possible to have emotions, notice them, and use them well without allowing them to drive us over proverbial cliffs.  If you have ever have ever found yourself “drunk on your own emotions” or woken up with an “emotional hangover” from things you did while you were angry, panicked, steeped in hopelessness, or high on excitement, this episode is for you.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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Humor seems to come naturally in some situations and for some people.  But sometimes humor is hard to come by, and there are times when it is seems to elude us.  While we never want to use humor as a tool to inflict pain, avoid reality, or devalue what matters, humor can be an amazing tool for helping us deal with pain, survive reality, and appreciate what is valuable.  In what areas of life can you let in a little laughter?  How can humor help you to enjoy what there is to enjoy and deal more productively with the things that are not enjoyable?  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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Toxic relationships tend to leave us with emotional baggage to unpack.  Unfortunately, there are some kinds of “unpacking” that don’t really help us to recover.  Blaming yourself for someone else’s behavior, trying to understand why an abusive or narcissistic person treated you the way they did, slandering and villainizing your ex in an attempt to get the support or validation that has been missing for so long – all of these can be “rabbit holes” that only lead further into the darkness.  Today, Cinthia encourages instead re-programming our minds with pieces of reality that got lost over the course of the relationship, especially when that reality is about who we are, why we are here, and what our purpose is.  Join her to consider your next step in building or rebuilding a healthy foundation after the wreckage of a toxic relationship or other destabilizing situation.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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There is life after the end of a toxic relationship.  At first, it may feel like you have lost the person you were before the toxicity started, as well as the sense of identity you developed in the relationship.  But you can reestablish your sense of identity, grieve the losses, and continue to grow more into the person you were created to be.  In fact, even while you are on this recovery journey, you can handle the situation with class instead of indulging in the kinds of gossip, slander, revenge, and other dignity-destroying behaviors we often associate with someone who has recently lost a relationship.  Join Cinthia to explore guidelines for re-learning who you are without allowing bitterness or resentment to shape your current identity.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

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