Conversations With Cinthia

Does the term “group project” make your hair stand on end?  Does the idea of another group meeting make you want to run screaming into the night?  Human beings en masse can present challenges, but there are also great advantages to being able to work together as a group.  We really can increase our group skills, but this involves accepting that group decisions will not reflect us fully, determining what is essential and what can be allowed to flex, and learning to listen and communicate well with others.  Join Cinthia to explore how to enhance your effectiveness in groups.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all want to make good decisions, but how do we make room for discernment in the midst of busy lives and complex sets of circumstances?  Today Cinthia discusses discernment as a gift, a virtue (which means it can be developed), and a process that (in most cases) requires time.  Whether you are making a decision by yourself, trying to make one with others, or simply trying to make room in your life to make decisions well when they do arise, join Cinthia to learn to cultivate the conditions in which discernment can flourish.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Having addressed romantic intimacy last week and intimacy with ourselves the previous week, Cinthia finishes February with a look at the bread-and-butter connections that make up so much of our emotional landscape throughout life: friendships and family relationships.  If we want to enjoy deep connections in these kinds of relationships, we have to be ready to navigate the murky waters of acceptance and how it differs from approval.  How can we accept and be in relationship with mistake-making people?  What is the difference between accepting people and tolerating unacceptable behavior?  And how do our policies toward ourselves impact our ways of relating to the people around us?  Join Cinthia to explore what it takes to have engage in relationship with human beings who are often frustratingly human.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How is your relationship with yourself?  Since we spend all our time with ourselves and experience all our own thoughts, behaviors, feelings, and circumstances, it might seem obvious that we would know ourselves well.  But exposure to ourselves doesn’t necessarily mean we feel safe enough to be honest with ourselves, or that we relate to ourselves in all the healthiest ways.  Join Cinthia to consider how you are getting along with yourself and what steps you might take to improve the relationship. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

True intimacy is knowing someone and being known by them.  Today Cinthia discusses six kinds of intimacy: physical (touch, physical experience of being loved and wanted, etc.), emotional (feeling feelings with or around someone, sharing them), experiential (shared experience), intellectual (knowing things about people), creative (engaging in creative endeavor with another person), spiritual (e.g. sharing a religion or sharing who you are with someone, including values, who you are, etc.).  Join her to identify areas in which you are already experiencing healthy intimacy and areas in which you may want to increase your capacity for healthy, fulfilling intimacy. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever look for answers you already know, hoping to find an easier way?  Do you spend time, energy, or money trying to increase your motivation because you find it difficult to keep plodding along once a motivation-high wears off?  After struggling with weight throughout his childhood, reaching 320 pounds, and trying to lose weight 27 different times, Aaron Knipp finally found what worked for him and lost 140 pounds.  Since then, he has maintained that progress and written Calories In, Calories Out: What It Took for Me to Lose 140 Pounds and How You Can Do It Too.  He has also founded the Cico Company (www.thecicocompany.com), which offers coaching, an app, and other help.  Aaron’s discussion with Cinthia explores the human (and perhaps especially American) struggle to keep doing what works in any area of life, even when it is slow and boring to do so.  Regardless of whether you struggle with food and weight or what direction your struggles with these things tend to go, you will relate to the struggle of accepting that sometimes we have to accept the math of life and take care of ourselves inside those boundaries instead of raging against them.  In what area do you need to put one foot in front of another?  Join Cinthia to take another step.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when you think there won't be enough of something?  Chances are, it doesn't make you more generous, less selfish, more willing to share or enjoy what you have.  The fearful belief that there won't be enough is insidious, and it doesn't go away just because your net worth increases.  As we continue our series on money, Cinthia delves more deeply into what is called scarcity mindset.  Join her to explore what this means and to consider how a change in your thinking just might help you expand contentment, generosity, and ability to make sound financial decisions, even without a change to your bottom line.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It may be true that opposites attract, but opposite values don't keep real intimacy going or growing, especially when those values are reflected in financial decisions.  Committed, long-term relationships require a shared value system for success, and money is one of the biggest areas those values tend to show up.  No wonder so many fights between couples are about money!  The good news is that we don't have to keep having the same circular conversations about this topic; we can approach it from the perspective of the deeper values we share and begin to find some common ground.   Join Cinthia to look at how to build a shared financial value system as a couple.

To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What don't you want people to know about your finances?  Do you feel guilt over money-related mistakes you've made, debt you've acquired, out-of-control spending, or a smaller portfolio than your friends and neighbors might have?  Do you feel embarrassed about making as much as you do, or worry that others would make assumptions about you if they knew how much you have saved, how much someone gave you, or how much or little you had growing up?  Money shame can come in so many forms, but it all comes down to a misunderstanding of the relationship between money and identity.  Whether or not we have room for some financial improvements and changes, God doesn't look at any of us and see a bank account, a portfolio, or a credit card statement.  He sees us.  Join Cinthia to consider whether money shame might be getting in the way of your attempts to use money as a tool for accomplishing what really matters.

To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you feel about money?  Do you associate it with security, blessing, greed, need, stress, inadequacy, or something else?  Humans have a way of attaching to inanimate things like money, and, at some level, this is okay, even unavoidable.  Money is important.  It's a lot of things, actually -- but it's not the secret to happiness, identity, or making relationships work.  Join Cinthia today to consider your current relationship with money and what might make that relationship healthier and more effective.

To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.