Cool Mum Super Dad

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!

Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.

Your marriage shapes your parenting experience. Children in happy, stable marriages feel more secure, perform better in school and have less disciplinary issues. This is reason enough for us parents to pay attention to the state and quality of our marriage. Misunderstandings happen in the best of marriages. In this episode, I explain:

- why conflict occurs
- a 3-step strategy to think well of your spouse
- how to confront limiting beliefs
- emotional closure
- how to get out of an argument
- proactive step to sustain a marriage

You will gain valuable ideas on how you can get better at resolving conflict, especially by changing how you respond to disagreements. Getting into an argument is easy. Getting out of one takes humility. Think of what you can possibly say and do to create deeper understanding and respect between you and your spouse. Choose to be kind by not giving in to impulsiveness and the desire to win an argument just for the sake of winning. In an argument that has gone out of hand, nobody wins, even if it seems at the time that one side has the upper hand.

Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.
 
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MORE RESOURCES:
Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.com

BOOK ORDERS:
To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.

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REFERENCES

1) “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” by  Bianca P. Acevedo & Arthur Aron. (2009). Review of General Psychology. Volume 13, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014226

2) “The Social and Cultural Predictors of Generosity in Marriage: Gender Egalitarianism, Religiosity, and Familism” by W. Bradford Wilcox & Jeffrey Dew. (2013). Journal of Family Issues. Volume 37, Issue 1.
https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X13513581

3) "The Kindness Miracle: A 5-Point Plan To Make Your Marriage Work". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-3-5. 

Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!

Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.

Your marriage shapes your parenting experience. Children in happy, stable marriages feel more secure, perform better in school and have less disciplinary issues. This is reason enough for us parents to pay attention to the state and quality of our marriage.
 
In this episode, I explained the 5 Stages Of Marriage:
       Stage 1: The Honeymoon Stage
         
       Stage 2: Discovery
             
        Stage 3: Adjustment
              
        Stage 4: Acceptance
               
         Stage 5:  Everlasting Love
               
I also covered the subject of DISTANCING, which are like dangerous potholes in your marriage.  Distancing is a period when either spouse or both man and wife feel they are drifting apart.  

You can deal with Distancing  by having a SHARED VISION and applying the concept of the Emotional Bank Account or EBA for short. 

A SHARED VISION is a deal maker, a dream maker.  Shared visions make good things happen in a marriage. Your shared visions may cover 5 main areas: Faith (spirituality); Fitness (Health); Family; Finance; and Fulfilment.   

The EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT or EBA is a simple but powerful concept that you can apply straight away, to also pull you and your spouse together.   

Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.

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MORE RESOURCES:
Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.com

BOOK ORDERS:
To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.

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REFERENCES

1) “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” by  Bianca P. Acevedo & Arthur Aron. (2009). Review of General Psychology. Volume 13, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014226

2) “The Social and Cultural Predictors of Generosity in Marriage: Gender Egalitarianism, Religiosity, and Familism” by W. Bradford Wilcox & Jeffrey Dew. (2013). Journal of Family Issues. Volume 37, Issue 1.https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X13513581

3) "The Kindness Miracle: A 5-Point Plan To Make Your Marriage Work". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-3-5. 

Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!

Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.

Your marriage shapes your parenting experience. Children in happy, stable marriages feel more secure, perform better in school and have less disciplinary issues. This is reason enough for us parents to pay attention to the state and quality of our marriage.

In this episode, I debunk the top 3 myths about love and marriage:

Myth No. 1: Love Is Too Much Of A Mystery. You Can’t Grow It
Myth No. 2: You Must Be Perfect To Be Loved And Happily Married
Myth No. 3: The Magic Of Love Never Lasts

You can still be deeply in love with your spouse no matter how long you have been married. Not the kind of love that revolves around convenience: you-do-some-work-and-I-do-some; you share the workload as roommates do. Rather, the kind of love where you and your spouse look forward to see and talk to each other every day.   

The key to such an enduring marriage is KINDNESS. Discover  how deliberate and constant acts of kindness can grow love between you and your spouse, to create a more stable home for you to raise your children. With deliberate and constant acts of kindness, growing love is no longer a mystery but rather, an emotion, a feeling and commitment that will naturally develop over time.

Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.

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MORE RESOURCES:
Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.com

BOOK ORDERS:
To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements. 

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REFERENCES

1) “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” by  Bianca P. Acevedo & Arthur Aron. (2009). Review of General Psychology. Volume 13, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014226

2) “The Social and Cultural Predictors of Generosity in Marriage: Gender Egalitarianism, Religiosity, and Familism” by W. Bradford Wilcox & Jeffrey Dew. (2013). Journal of Family Issues. Volume 37, Issue 1.
https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X13513581

3) "The Kindness Miracle: A 5-Point Plan To Make Your Marriage Work". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-3-5. 

Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!

Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.

For parents in particular, stress is a short word with a BIG impact. For working parents, stress means juggling deadlines from demanding bosses, handling tasks that keep coming beyond office hours, even as they struggle to raise a family. A stay-at-home parent also works round the clock: cooking, cleaning, disciplining, making sure the kids get along most of the time while getting the chores done take all day and almost all night. Staying at home and staying sane isn’t a breeze either.

In this episode, we focus on prolonged, chronic stress, where, despite hours of sleep, you still feel exhausted and not looking forward to go through another day. You feel trapped, lethargic.  Not acknowledging that you’re highly stressed, not knowing how to deal with it can cause you to vent your frustrations and anxieties on your loved ones – children, spouse, family. They do not deserve to be mistreated just because you’re stressed at work. Learn top myths tied to prolonged, chronic stress, and  discover self-care strategies that can help you  deal with your stress better, that can lead to positive outcomes, physically and mentally.

Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.
 
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MORE RESOURCES:
Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.com

BOOK ORDERS:
To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.

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REFERENCES

 1) HARVARD Business Review: How to Recover from Work Stress, According to Science

2) World Health Organisation: Mental Health At Work

3) The Effects of Psychological Stress on Depression

4) The Link Between Stress and Depression

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Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!

Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.

Cool Mum Super Dad aims to be a lifeline for those moments when you feel like you're navigating the parenting maze blindfolded. Think of it as your regular dose of inspiration and practical insights. We'll be diving into effective parenting strategies, tackling the challenges head-on, and celebrating the victories, big and small.

Whether you're a Cool Mum or a Super Dad, or in the case of single parents, a bit of both, this podcast is for you. We're here to create a supportive space where you can find comfort, guidance, and the occasional tears and laughter because, let's face it, parenting is a wild ride.
 
Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.

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MORE RESOURCES:
Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.com

BOOK ORDERS:
To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements. 
 

Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips".