CoParentSpace: Co-Parenting & Divorce Support

The big religious or cultural holiday your family observes is more than a single day. It's a season, a gathering, often several days of extended family, particular foods, observances that have to happen at particular times, relatives travelling in, a whole structure of meaning and obligation. And now it has to work across two homes.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about religious and cultural holidays in two homes — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• Holding the neutrality
• The multi-day gathering problem
• When extended family gathers
• The mixed-faith family
• Plan early, hold it lightly
• The line you carry

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

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Your child's other parent lives with a mental illness, and it affects their parenting. Perhaps it makes them unpredictable, sometimes withdrawn and unreachable, sometimes volatile. Perhaps it makes them unreliable, or hard for the child to understand, or frightening in certain states.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about mental illness in your co-parent — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• The safety line, again
• What the child needs to understand
• Compassion and safety together
• Holding the relationship and the realism
• The line you carry

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

📖 Read the full written version: https://coparentspace.com/en-my/living/04-mental-illness-in-your-co-parent?utm_source=buzzsprout&utm_medium=podcast
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CoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.

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There's an article in the behaviour module about anxiety after a separation, the ordinary worry that comes with a hard change and eases as the child adjusts. This is a different piece, for a different thing. Some children have anxiety that goes beyond the expected response to a difficult situation, anxiety that's a clinical condition in its own right, persistent and impairing in ways that ordinary support doesn't resolve.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about anxiety in childhood: the deeper version — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• When anxiety is a condition, not a phase
• Supporting an anxious child across two homes
• The accommodation trap, again
• The line you carry

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

📖 Read the full written version: https://coparentspace.com/en-my/living/04-anxiety-in-childhood-deeper?utm_source=buzzsprout&utm_medium=podcast
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CoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.

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Tuesday morning. Your seven-year-old is at the breakfast table with their head propped on one hand, eyes half closed, staring at the cereal bowl. They don't want to talk. Their socks are inside out and they don't want to fix them. They're going to fall asleep in maths and the teacher is going to send another note, the third one this month. You ask, quietly, what time they went to bed last night. Late. You ask how late. Don't know. After the movie. You ask which movie.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when you disagree on bedtime — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• Why bedtime sits differently from other rule disagreements
• What sleep actually needs at each age
• What's a rule difference and what's a missing floor
• What you can shift in your own home
• When to talk to your co-parent about bedtime
• The hardest version

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 0–12.

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Bedtime. Your seven-year-old is already in bed. You've read the chapter. The light is out. You're sitting on the edge of the bed for a minute the way you sometimes do. They're holding the small soft toy that lives under their pillow. They look at the ceiling and say, quietly: was it because I was bad?

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your child blames themselves — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• Why children blame themselves
• The signs that this belief is present
• What you do in the moment
• What you do across the weeks that follow
• When the belief is more entrenched
• A note about real things the child witnessed

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

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CoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.

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The angry child is impossible to miss. The withdrawn child is the opposite, and that's exactly the problem. Your child has gone quiet. Less chatty, less playful, spending more time alone in their room, giving one-word answers, somehow further away than they used to be. There's no storm to respond to, nothing demanding your attention, just a gradual dimming of the child you knew.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the withdrawn child — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• Withdrawal is a coping strategy too
• The risk of the easy-to-miss child
• Presence without pressure
• A phase or a pattern
• The line you carry

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

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Eleven hours in the air, plus the connection, plus the drive at each end. By the time your child walks through the door, they've been travelling for the better part of a day, across however many time zones sit between the two homes. They're wired and exhausted at once. Their body thinks it's the middle of the night. And you, who haven't seen them in weeks, want to scoop them up and start the visit.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the long-haul flight visit — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• The flight is a long Relay
• The body clock problem
• Packing as continuity
• Both ends of the same trip
• When the distance is this big
• The line you carry

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

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CoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.

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Thursday evening. Seven twelve. Your ten-year-old is at the dining table with their maths homework spread out. They've been stuck on the same word problem for fifteen minutes. The frustration is building. Your new partner, who's been here for three months now and is making tea in the kitchen, walks over with a mug in each hand, sets one down for you, and leans in to look at the page.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the new partner's role: What they shouldn't do — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• The new partner isn't a parent
• Why this matters more than it seems to
• What the new partner shouldn't do, in year one
• What the new partner should do
• The conversation with your new partner
• When the new partner has children of their own

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

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CoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.

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The vaccination reminder from the surgery arrived a week ago. The booster is due. The appointment slot you booked is for Thursday afternoon.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about vaccinations and the consent question — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• The default: most appointments just happen
• The consent framework
• The hard conversation
• When you genuinely can't agree
• A note on information sources

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

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CoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.

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You're on session four. The mediator has been typing as you talk for the last twenty minutes. They turn the laptop around so both of you can see the screen.

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the parental agreement as a mediation outcome — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.

What we cover:
• What a parental agreement is
• What goes in it
• The categories of binding-ness
• How it functions in daily life
• How it evolves
• When you can't reach agreement on everything

Made for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.

📖 Read the full written version
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CoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.

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