CoreBrain Journal

Childhood Trauma: Tools For Mastery and Recovery

Vernon Brown – Reports that when considering childhood trauma: “everyone is looking for the magic key that will unlock their happiness, not realizing that we’ve evaded that key all of our lives. We take it for granted, getting caught up in the minutia of life, failing to stop and smell the roses and appreciate the things that are important to us. I believe your experience truly begins when you make happiness a tangible commodity that is non-negotiable.

Why is your happi vital to me? – Because happiness evaded me most of my young life based upon my own childhood trauma. It wasn’t until I reached adulthood that I understood the value of joy, which is somewhat a backward experience. Many people experience the wonders during a childhood of imagination and innocence – and then find that they to lose it as they grow older. Not me. Childhood wonder and innocence was foreign to me from the outset.”

In this Episode Vernon articulately tell us how he overcame childhood trauma, found internal happiness and uses that discovery process to help others.

Vernon’s Childhood Trauma Reviewed

“Before the age of 10, I’d experienced varying degrees of death, overdose, and abuse in my environment of repeated childhood trauma. I knew my mother loved me but she did not make smart decisions to benefit her family; she was more wrapped up in pursuing what she wanted instead of what we needed. As a result, we moved around a lot. My mother’s lifestyle alienated relationships with family and close friends, forcing us to exist in a silo, isolated from everyone else.

It didn’t help that I was an awkward kid, overweight and just out of place. My family circumstances caused people to look down on me. The result? I felt less than, broken and invisible.

One pinnacle moment stands out in my memory as a young boy. As the school bus pulled in front of my house to let me off, I noticed all my things from room lying in the street in front of my home. We’d been evicted and now everyone knew it. Everyone laughed at me, and I wanted to disappear. I could not understand what I could have done to deserve this life. I hated myself, not my mom – I hated me.

Recovery Perspective – Parenting Matters

When you shatter a vase on the floor, it takes time to pick up the pieces and put it together. And, once it is put together, it’s never the same; it’s now more fragile than it was, to begin with. I was that shattered vase. My grandmother was the glue that helped me begin to put pieces together when I moved in with her. She showed me how to be a child, something I’d never really known.

My childhood trauma experiences taught me how to observe people, mostly as a defense mechanism to protect myself. My awkward stage extended into adulthood. I did not grow into the person I am today until I turned 20. At that point, I learned that being happy is not something life gives you; you have to seize it for yourself and manage it.

Lessons From Pain

That’s one of the biggest challenges people face today; some allow others to hold the puppet strings on what makes them happy. I share my story with you because I want you to know that no matter your circumstances, you have the power to claim happiness for yourself. My life experience has not only helped me learn the value of happiness for myself, but it has awakened a passion in me to help others claim that freedom for themselves. I work with everyone I encounter to experience a revision, perception correction regarding their view of themselves.

Action Matters

I help others move out of crisis mode and more objectively reassess themselv...

How Molds And Their Mycotoxins Create Treatment Failure

ED Note: These notes on Molds and Mycotoxins are sparse because I’m a day late with this Episode’s publication because the computer/network servers beyond my understanding or expertise simply weren’t talking to each other correctly. CBJ crashed during my customary weekend writing time. More coming later.

See the excellent complimentary interview below from Dr. Woeller.

Dr. Matthew Pratt-Hyatt reports that he received his Ph.D. in cellular and molecular biology from the University of Michigan. He’s written over a dozen publications in leading research journals. He is currently am Associate Laboratory Director at The Great Plains Laboratory and specializes in developing tools that examine factors at the interface between genetics, toxicology, and mycotoxins from specific mold species.

The Great Plains Laboratory comprehensive testing for Mycotoxins is cost-effective, based on easy urine samples and available globally: GPLMycoTox references below. He makes it clear at the end of this interview that Great Plains also provides trained biomedical professionals to help understand and interpret these interesting, clinically provocative new findings.

Listen up as Dr. Pratt-Hyatt reviews his significant experience and clinical challenges with identifying and treating mycotoxin insults to improve brain function.

Additional Interesting CBJ Guests On Toxins/Testing

* CBJ/103 Dr. Joe Pizzorno – Toxin Solutions

* CBJ/037 Dr. Chris Martenson – Neurotoxins & World Economics

* CBJ/125 Dr. William Shaw on Measuring Environmental Toxins GPLTox

* CBJ/140 Dr. Kurt Woeller – Autism & Testing – Candida GPL-OATS

* CBJ/172 Dr. Jay Leanord on Genetic Testing For Treatment Failure

* CBJ/192 Dr. Kurt Woeller – Mycotoxins, Mold and Toxin Testing Details

References

* Great Plains Mycotoxins – Details 8pg PDF: https://www.corebrainjournal.com/mycotoxin

* Sample GPL Mycotoxins – Report 4pg PDF: https://www.corebrainjournal.com/mycotoxin-report

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Workplace Trauma Drives A Recovery Mindset

One believes things because one has been conditioned to believe them.

~  Aldous Huxley

Elizabeth Menzel is a 3-time best-selling author, speaker, and founder of The Happy Woman Academy, where she uses systems to address workplace trauma based in neurobiology, mindfulness, and compassion to teach women how to feel happy – even after traumatic events. She uses neuroscience to rebuild from within.

Elizabeth helps set standards for appropriate behaviors to prevent workplace trauma.

She comments here on the #metoo movement and workplace sexual predation. Her clientele is some of the most influential people in the world, including multiple billionaire industry moguls, Olympic athletes, international heads of state, and celebrity stars. She loves to travel and has delivered over 300 of her award-winning workshops worldwide.

Tune in to our CBJ show notes for specific giveaways with this interesting CBJ Episode – with notes on her next meeting planned in Tromso, Norway, Feb. 17.

Elizabeth’s Programs

Mulitple books and programs focus on ending the cycle of sacrifice, sabotage, and neglect so that women can enjoy massive success in their career, health, and love life. She has facilitated thousands of transformations over the last 23 years and combines proven neuroscience and physics-based healing systems with compassion and humor, so you get long-term results in a short amount of time.

Her live events & Happiness Training Programs teach busy women of all ages compelling “on the go” ways to heal their body, invigorate their romance, and boost their career – so they can receive more money while enjoying life more fully! She’s on a mission to teach 1,000,000 women “The Happy Woman Formula” by 2020.

Her Mission

“The mission of the Happy Woman Academy is to provide women with a safe and sacred space to transform their health, wealth, & relationships by using proven science-based healing systems and the power of communion and laughter. The vision of the Happy Woman Academy is to restore the Feminine to her rightful place of honor & value next to the Masculine in society, thereby restoring harmonic balance to humanity, the earth, & nature. It’s a big vision I know, but it’s the one I’ve got.”

*Photo by Alessio Lin on Unsplash

Website & Books

* http://www.TheHappyWomanAcademy.com

* The Nordic Workshop in  Norway: http://thehappywomanacademy.com/receive

* Supercharge Your Health Vibe – Menzel, 2016 – Global Amazon Link

* Supercharge Your Love Vibe – Menzel, 2016 – Global Amazon Link

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Additional From CBJ Guests On Mind-Body Health

* CBJ/111 – Hensely – Adrenal Fatigue and Qualia – Recommended cognitive and energy

* CBJ/168 – Cooper – Transform Stress Into Success – Mindset

* CBJ/178 – Udall – Sexual Trauma in the Workplace

* CBJ/187 – Gabelnick – Mothers Fit For Sanity

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Food Addiction – The Neurobiology of Food

A lot of people are afraid of heights. Not me, I’m afraid of widths.

~ Steven Wright

Micheal Leppo is a food addiction coach on a mission to address diet, weight loss, and self-management through understanding the neurobiology of food, called the You Will Succeed Program. His program is a 22-week video program that explains, provides coaching, and mentors client’s regarding how to achieve health and life benefits whilst managing food intake.

Please note that this program is more than just a weight loss program. It’s a program that is designed to help one live a longer, healthier, more successful life.

Personal Notes On Michael

“I am a passionate coach who has studied how food (notably processed GMO’s, sugar-laden and high carb foods) controls your brain. These fatty foods excite the reward circuit in the brain which in turn release the neurochemical dopamine.

Food directly connects with neurobiology.

This release of dopamine provides one with a feeling of pleasure on several levels. Eventually, the continued overeating of these types of food desensitizes the feeling of pleasure the dopamine originally provides, which in turn explains in part why one has to eat more and more to regain the feeling of pleasure.  These dopaminergic challenges provide an understanding of why someone cannot eat ‘only one cookie.’”

His Recovery Process

“What I set out to do and have achieved is to re-wire the brain to crave only healthy foods. Now, my brain is 99.999% re-wired only to want foods that help my body/engine run at optimal levels.”

The direct result of re-wiring his own brain includes:

* A loss of over 70 pounds in 7 months

* Feeling like I have found the Fountain of Youth. I feel younger, stronger, healthier.

* I no longer have any interest in processed, high sugar and carb foods.

* I now crave and get excited to have a delicious piece of fruit or salad.

* Mentally, I feel like you can put any dessert in front of me and it makes no difference to my resolve.

* Mentally, I am so much stronger facing any type of adversity.

* I now look forward to exercising & cannot imagine not doing something for my body & mind every day.

* I wake up every day feeling like anything is possible.

* I feel like I can achieve goals I never thought were possible.

*Photo by FOODISM360 on Unsplash

Website

* www.positivedailyfuel.com

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Additional From CBJ Guests On Mind-Body Health

* CBJ/109 – Thaik – Vibrant Heart Mind and Body Recovery

* CBJ/111 – Hensely – Adrenal Fatigue and Qualia

* CBJ/115 – Walsh – Methylation Imbalances & Treatment Failure [Most downloaded CBJ Interview]

* CBJ/164 – Lewis et al, Multiple Biomedical Markers – Testing Matters

* CBJ/168 – Cooper – Transform Stress Into Success

* CBJ/183 – Trenev – Probiotics Improve Mind Treatments

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Mothers Fit For Sanity

A lot of people are afraid of heights. Not me, I’m afraid of widths.

~ Steven Wright

Irene Gabelnick – Is a writer and coach with Mothers Fit for Sanity. Her true passion is health & fitness for herself and mothers everywhere. She’s an avid runner and for years she’s added hiking, rock climbing (mainly bouldering), mountain biking, doing yoga, Pilates, strength training and she even learned how to surf in Hawaii.  She is a pescatarian (a vegetarian who eats fish) and has created numerous healthy, delicious recipes over the years, and is finishing a cookbook.

For four years she was a member of the Disaster Action Team with the American Red Cross, taught First Aid and CPR, mentored a Refugee through the Priscilla Project, and now educate the public about giving blood and being an organ donor through UNYTS.

The Fit For Sanity Program

Her current goal is to help other busy moms to live a healthy & fit life – which she affirms as key to living a life of sanity. It was from this experience she decided to take her lessons and support to her Mothers Fit for Sanity newsletter linked below. You can’t take care of your children or your family if you don’t take care of yourself.

In this CBJ/187 Episode, she gives us some clear advice on productive, balanced next steps over time. See the several lists below on self-coaching, improved mindset and parenting interventions.

*Photo by Julia Caesar on Unsplash

Website, Newsletter & Book

* http://www.fitforsanity.com

* How To Zip It Up – Loose 5 Pounds Fast – Gabelnick, 2018 – Global Amazon Link

* How-Qualia For Mental Clarity and Fatigue – PDF Download

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Additional  From CBJ Guests On Mind-Body Health

* CBJ/109 – Thaik – Vibrant Heart Mind and Body Recovery

* CBJ/111 – Hensely – Adrenal Fatigue and Qualia

* CBJ/115 – Walsh – Methylation Imbalances & Treatment Failure [Most downloaded CBJ Interview]

* CBJ/168 – Cooper – Transform Stress Into Success

* CBJ/183 – Trenev – Probiotics Improve Mind Treatments

* CBJ/mindset – Summary Page: Expert Mindset Insights

* CBJ/teens – Summary Page: Expert Parenting Insights

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The Better Brain Solutions Detailed

If we knew what it was we were doing, it would not be called research, would it?

~ Albert Einstein

Dr. Steven Masley – is a physician, nutritionist, trained-chef, author, and the creator of the #1 all-time health program for Public Television, 30 Days to a Younger Heart. He helps motivated people to tune up their brain, heart, and sexual performance. He is a fellow with three prestigious organizations: the American Heart Association, American College of Nutrition, and American Academy of Family Physicians. His research focuses on better brain solutions and the impact of lifestyle choices on heart health, brain function, and aging. 

His passion is empowering people to achieve optimal health through comprehensive assessments and lifestyle changes. As a best-selling author, he has published several books: Ten Years Younger, The 30-Day Heart Tune-Up, Smart Fat, and his latest book, The Better Brain Solution, plus numerous scientific articles [some listed below]. He does a great job of translating imperative biomedical principles for listeners at any level of inquiry and awareness.

You May Already Know Him

His work has been viewed by millions on PBS, the Discovery Channel, the Today Show, and over 500 media interviews.

And He’s A Trained Chef

In addition to his extensive medical training he also completed a chef internship at the Four Seasons Restaurant in Seattle, WA, and he has performed cooking demonstrations at Cal-a-Vie Health Spa, Canyon Ranch, the Pritikin Longevity Center, and for multiple television appearances.

As a teacher during his career, Dr. Masley has spoken for over 300 continuing medical education (CME) events for physicians, and for over 700 public presentations on a variety of topics related to health, cognitive function, aging, and cardiovascular disease. He continues to see patients and publish research from his medical clinic in St. Petersburg Florida, and he offers weekly blogs on his website [linked below].

Dr. Masley is a must listen on several recovery levels – from the heart to brain to the challenges with chronic metabolic illnesses.

*Photo by j zamora on Unsplash

Dr. Masley’s Website & Brain Function Assessment

* http://www.DrMasley.com

* https://drmasley.com/check-brain-function-score/  – Strongly recommended

Books

* The Better Brain Solution – Masley – Jan. 2018 – Global Amazon Link

* The 30 Day Heart Tune-Up – Masley -Feb. 2014 – Global Amazon Link

* The Longevity Diet – Discover The New Science Behind Stem Cell Research –  Longo – Jan. 2018 – Global Amazon Link

Some of Dr. Masley’s Publications

* Masley SC, Roetzheim R, Masley LV, McNamara T, Schocken DD. Emerging Risk Factors as Markers for Carotid Intima-Media Thickness Scores. Journal of the American College of Nutrition 2015; 34: 100-107

* Masley SC, Masley LV, Gualtieri T. Cardiovascular Biomarkers and Carotid IMT scores ...

Reports on Depression Recovery

Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.

~ Wayne W. Dyer

Brent Williams, Wellington, New Zealand – Author of Out of the Woods, a graphic novel about his journey through depression alongside research and practical self-help strategies.

He founded the Wellington Community Law Centre, implemented the Care of Children Act and the Parenting Through Separation Program for the Family Court in NZ, and established the Legal Rights Resources Trust. His narrative is both personal and refreshingly utilitarian at any level.

His Evocative Book

Out of the Woods is a book to help people understand and overcome depression and anxiety. It is the author’s own story told entirely through 700 beautifully hand-drawn watercolor illustrations. It is an immensely practical guide for sufferers, their loved ones, and professionals as well.

The book’s graphic memoir format blends a compelling personal story with the latest medical research – ideal for people who are in the depths of depression and struggling to read and take on board information.

Out of the Woods doesn’t pretend there is a quick way out of these illnesses and instead encourages people to make small steps to slowly build their own lasting recoveries. This is an inspiring story that will give vital information and hope to many people.

Note: It’s easy to read – the story is told entirely through 155 illustrated pages with simple dialogue and narration.

*Photo by Dan Grinwis on Unsplash

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Drawing: Register for Brent’s Book – Closes 1-26-18

Out of The Woods

Enter Here

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Website & Book

* Out of the Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety – 2017 – Williams – Global Amazon Link

* https://www.outofthewoods.co.nz/

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Additional Interviews With CBJ Guests On Depression

* CBJ/005 – Cassani – Medication Challenges and Recovery

* CBJ/022 – Virden – Out of Depression and Suicide – Changing Perspectives

* CBJ/115 – Walsh – Methylation Imbalances & Treatment Failure [Most downloaded CBJ Interview]

* CBJ/126 – Farah – The Depression Imperative – A biomedical view

* CBJ/136 – Swirsky – Depression Anxiety and Self Management

* CBJ/177 – Lewis – Depression Imprecision – Misdiagnosis

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Synesthesia And The Mind

The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.

~ W. B. Yeats

Dr. Berit Oskar Brogaard – is a Danish and American philosopher specializing in the areas of cognitive neuroscience, philosophy of mind, and philosophy of language. Her recent work concerns synesthesia, savant syndrome, blindsight and perceptual reports. She is Professor of Philosophy and runs a perception lab at the University of Miami in Coral Gables, Florida.[1][2]

After co-authoring The Superhuman Mind, which is about how ordinary individuals can change their minds and brains, she continued looking at how we can bring about positive changes not just in the area of extraordinary abilities but also to mood, personality and the meaning of life. Brit has a different take on improved connections with the concept of synesthesia to improve mindset from direct experience with challenging life travels.

Ed Note: Synesthesia is a favorite concept I’ve referenced over the years and Brit takes it’s application to a much deeper level.

Brief Introduction

The limits of my language means the limits of my world.

~ Ludwig Wittgenstien

Brogaard was born and raised in Copenhagen. From an early age, she excelled at physics, mathematics, and biology, eventually completing her undergraduate education at the University of Copenhagen with a bachelor’s degree in linguistics and philosophy. 

Upon completion of her degrees in Copenhagen she studied linguistics and philosophy at the University at Buffalo, where she obtained her Ph.D. with Barry Smith as her supervisor. She was a postdoctoral fellow at the Centre for Consciousness and the Philosophy Program directed by David Chalmers at Australian National University from 2007 to 2009,[4] and her first tenure-track position was at Southern Illinois University, Edwardsville, from 2001 to 2005.

Probiotics Reports: How They Improve the Mind

The real voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.

~ Marcel Proust

Natasha Trenev  – As a developmental scientist, health activist, and internationally renowned probiotic authority, Natasha Trenev has spent years studying the effects of beneficial bacteria and has written several books on the subject of how probiotics improve the mind and overall health. Co-founder of Natren, Inc., she is a member of the

* American Society of Microbiology,

* American Association for the Advancement of Science,

* Institute of Food Technologists,

* Anaerobe Society of the Americas, and the

* American Dairy Science Association.

She’s considered by many “The Mother of Probiotics.” Her considerable accomplishments that appear in her show notes here confirm this accolade.

Brief Introduction

Following her graduation from UCLA in 1970, a decade of research led to Natasha’s development of the first revolutionary method of producing an effective and scientifically validated single strain probiotic bacteria product. Her efforts led to the establishment of the entire probiotics category in North America, Australia, England, Holland, and Belgium.

Her interesting views on probiotic specificity are, in a word, remarkable.

Significant Contributions

Some of Natasha Trenev’s accomplishments include:

* Introduced the previously unknown category of probiotics to the North American health food industry and dietary supplement industry;

* Authored the Dairy Standards for liquid yogurt adopted by the California Department of Agriculture in 1969;

* Established perishable sections in the health food stores across the nation from 1970-73 to sell yogurt;

* Assisted in establishing perishable distributors nationwide to sell yogurt;

* Worked with the Vice President of United Airlines to establish user-friendly rates to ship perishables cross country by air in 1971;

* Authored Probiotic Standards adopted by the National Nutritional Foods Association in July of 1989;

* Established the National Standards for Probiotics read into The Congressional Record in 1995;

* Committed 35 years to convince retailers to sell probiotics in refrigerated sections of stores;

* Invested 35 years educating the public, professionals, doctors, and scientists that probiotics are the most important health concept of the 21st Century

Today, Natasha’s reference library is the world’s largest private repository on the multiple implications of probiotics, and is referenced and recommended by prominent research scientists and medical schools.

*Photo by Drica Pinotti on Unsplash

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Natasha’s Experience In Setting Probiotic Standards

In 1980, I made arrangements with a research facility that gave me access to a laboratory, where I began culturing my own probiotic supplements. I processed cultures, supervised the freeze-drying and powdering processes, and even helped with the bottling. Everything was billed and shipped from my home. My husband trucked in dry ice every day to keep the live bacteria supplements from deteriorating in the garage, where we were forced to keep them stored.

For many years, I found myself continually frustrated by the lack of established standards for probiotics. Probiotics of the finest quality competed in the marketplace with probiotic products of...

Measure Brain Toxins For Multiple Recovery Solutions

An expert is someone who has succeeded in making decisions and judgements simpler through knowing what to pay attention to and what to ignore.

~ Edward deBono

William Shaw, Ph.D., is board certified in the fields of clinical chemistry and toxicology by the American Board of Clinical Chemistry – with a profound interest in brain toxins. Before he founded The Great Plains Laboratory, Inc. in Lenexa, KS, Dr. Shaw worked for the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), Children’s Mercy Hospital, the University of Missouri at Kansas City School of Medicine, and Smith Kline Laboratories.

I’ve followed his work for many years, use Great Plains Laboratory for biomedical testing every day in my practice, and am exceedingly pleased to share these moments with his profound experience for our CBJ listeners. Recently Dr. Shaw added GPL-TOX to measure brain toxins to the Great Plains Labs armamentarium of essential mind tools. This CBJ Special 1-hour review will help listeners understand this possible next step for treatment failure globally.

Ed Note: Take a moment to download Dr. Shaw’s Bonus Notes below ↓ with many brain toxin reference topics for further review on this essential measurement tool. This is a republication of Dr. Shaw’s exceedingly popular original interview at CBJ/125 – to wrap up our New Year’s Holiday Series with the CBJ Best of ’17.

Dr. Shaw’s Years of Scholarship Achievements

It’s important to note that he is the author of two outstanding contributions to the evolution for the treatment of Autism, Biological Treatments for Autism and PDD, originally published in 1998, and Autism: Beyond the Basics, published in 2009. He is also a frequent speaker at conferences worldwide, a global authority with broad experience with the value of laboratory data and molecular insights regarding imbalanced brain functions.

Personal Notes

On a more personal note, Dr. Shaw is the stepfather of a child with autism and has helped thousands of patients and medical practitioners to successfully improve the lives of people with autism spectrum disorders, ADHD/Executive Function, Alzheimer’s disease, arthritis, bipolar disorder, chronic fatigue, depression, fibromyalgia, immune deficiencies, multiple sclerosis, OCD, Parkinson’s disease, seizure disorders, tic disorders, Tourette’s syndrome, and other serious conditions. References here demonstrate the depth of his understanding and life’s mission.

In this interview, we discuss useful details regarding the evolution and immediate value of measurements for brain toxins about many of these conditions.

Dr. Shaw’s Brain Toxins | Insights Detailed Here – CBJ/182

* GPL-TOX fulfills my lifetime wish to make toxin testing available for the public  

* 90% of the people don’t know specific toxin exposure and could spend $20,000 searching

* GPL-TOX tests for 172 different chemicals at about $200

* What high values on GPL-TOX testing mean medically

* My first clinical case awareness on the relevance of brain toxins

* Carbon Monoxide can cause kleptomania and death

* One of the easiest things to remember about toxins

* Humans are the most vulnerable to brain toxins and psych problems 

* Most common way they cause brain deterioration is through mitochondria  

* If you’re waiting for the government to monitor toxins you might as well wait for the tooth fairy