In the real world, not everything goes well, not everyone is happy, there is always bad news as well as good, troubled waters as well as smooth. Very few investigators fail because of their inability to deal with success. Typically, failure in this industry results from an inability to deal with problems. Conflict resolution within the police and investigative agencies can be very difficult. Some action, even if that is deliberate non action, must take place.
In this episode I share a portion of training around the topic of conflict between peers and associated agencies. Below are some quick tips we covered in the training.
Four Basic Principles of Conflict
1. Conflict is normal and not all conflict is bad.
Some conflict is creative and has real positive uses. Sometimes its just a matter of differing life styles or opinions. Resolved properly these can be very use full
2. Good conflict may deepen superficial relationships
Many times relationships are very shallow and people never get close enough to ever even have a conflict. Very often when a disagreement occurs the relationship between the two parties deepen, because they have come to know each other better.
3. Personal growth often occurs through dissonance
Dissonance simply means lack of agreement. Growth often occurs because the social turbulence causes people to look for resolution therefore resulting in personal growth. Within the public service community and among men and women of goodwill, conflict is common, not always bad, and can have positive outcomes.
4. A model of advocacy may appear to be contention when it is not really conflict
This can be an effective way to reach decisions. If a group in a room brings together their own passionate opinions and each expresses them strongly, a disagreement can result. But done correctly and in humility the end can result in a balanced and successfully outcome and decision.
Five Basic Causes of Conflict
1. Conflict is frequently because of unmatched expectations
These can lead to disappointment which leads to loss of confidence, and can arise from misunderstandings. A different set of expectations of a leader, program, style, etc is a certain recipe for conflict
2. Conflict is caused by the mounting number of buried hurts, slights, and insults.
These hurts are often times collected up and saved. Burying feelings , disappointments, personal injuries, etc is a deadly illness in the public service arena. It is very unhealthy to bury your hurts. They will come out someday and in a big way. Many times conflict between two people in an agency is from a gradual buildup of hurt and disappointment.
3. A major cause of conflict is unexpressed fears. (and jealousy)
People may find themselves resisting others because of fears that may have never been expressed. It is easy to become paranoid. It is easy to be fearful about what might happen in situations involving other co-workers or related agencies. If these fears are never expressed, they can never be countered, they can never be checked out, so they can never be resolved.
4. Competition for limited resources can cause conflict.
There is never enough money, time, or attention in the work of public service and government. Leaders are many times placed in a situation where there is competition for money and resources. The leader must respond by constantly reassuring people in an atmosphere of fairness so that conflict won’t occur. If someone gets the feeling that they are not valued as highly as someone else, conflict will occur.
5. Conflict escalates in a hostile and failing environment.
A psychological study shows that if people or animals are put in situations in which pain is delivered and discomfort is created,