'being anyone else is a waste of you'

'your brain is for having thoughts, not holding them'

'it's selfish to think one person can fulfill every need you have in life'

'consider how you spend your emotional budget'

'healing and life are not linear, we have peaks and valleys'

Folks, we cover a LOT of ground in this conversation between myself and my editor, Ben! Ben has been working with me for a couple of years now producing my visual content across my socials and I've loved exploring this topic with him. At one point, I even became the interviewee!

Folks, going into christmas this is a great episode to keep in mind. Remember, you're in control of your reactions above anyone elses and you can help define the quality of life you have over this christmas. Ben likes to be proactive about his dealings with difficult people - how about yourselves?

All my love folks,

Sheila

Today, folks, we discuss some heavy topics.

Love. Loss. License to feel our emotions. Fear of failiure and fatigue. Distress over death. A misalignment with autistic parents. The feelings we get as we go through life.

Please note, this is going to have themes of loss, death, funerals, and diagnosis throughout. If you're going through a sensitive time or losing someone, please proceed cautiously.

Thank you for being so wonderfully open with me, Margaret! I loved hearing about your life, your worries about death and how you empowered yourself to push through those concerns, and how your relationship with your father somewhat mirrors my own.

Folks, together we can (and we are!) make a difference to the lives of those around us.

All my love,

Sheila

Folks, many of you have been following along with my motorcycle journey these past few years - rod has been central to its continued development.

This man, with his warm smile, kind heart, and understanding mind, not only helped me pause and progress my journey as and when needed, but quite honestly he may have Saved my LIFE.

Today, we discuss Rod and my experience approaching my latest test, the grief I was in, poor mindsets and how it affects us as drivers, learners, and individuals.

Thank you so much, Rod. It's always an honour to get to spend time with you and I love the words of advice you shared in our chat together.

Lichfield Advanced Motorcyclists: https://www.lichfieldadvancedmotorcyclists.co.uk

thanks, folks.

Together, let's SAVE a life.

Okay Folks, let's get some housekeeping out the way first - important stuff!

Trigger warnings: we will be discussing feelings of depression, experiences of depression, medication, panic attacks, suicidal feelings, therapy, and failings within the medical industry.

A Key Reminder: It is not the fault of individual doctors, but a failing in the processes of training and maintaining education levels representative of the latest data, which no longer separates the mind and body and sees one as affecting the other! Your doctor isn't to blame - please do not see it as such.

The problem lies in the system, not the people doing their best. It's like cooking without a set of kitchen tools - sure, you can do it but only with what you've got to hand!

You can always do things better when properly equipped.

Now, if you're feeling suicidal and need to speak to someone, other than a relative or friend, and feel you are in immediate need of help, please contact the Samaritans on the following:

Call: 116 123

for Cymraeg, call: 0808 164 0123

Dr. Robert C. Smith M.D . Well, what can I say.

This is a man after my own heart, folks.

A true champion of prioritising the importance of understanding and applying mental health issues and treatments beyond simply medicating. Robert C. Smith, MD, MACP is a University Distinguished Professor at Michigan State University and a pioneer in patient-centred communication and primary care mental health. He is the author of 'Has Medicine Lost Its Mind?: Why Our Mental Health System is Failing Us and What Should Be Done to Cure It.'

In this podcast we discuss the failings in studying the brain throughout history, the disproportionate response to physical symptoms over mental symptoms, and the disconnect between the results wanted and the training provided when it comes to U.S doctors.

This is more than just a podcast, folks. It's a call to action from Bob to the public to drive change and incentivise a proactive approach to reducing mental and physical ailments rather than catching things on the reactive end. It's about driving change in an industry so hesitant to absorb practices seen in almost every other science!

It's about treating the CAUSE, not just the SYMPTOMS. Dr. Smith's book, 'Has Medicine Lost Its Mind?' (2025) is available from his website (as well as other outlets) here:

https://www.robertcsmithmd.com

For more information on my practice then visit my website: https://www.mindmanagementforyou.com

Together we make a difference. Thanks for watching x

''I wonder what miracles will happen this week''

nobody has the power to hurt you without your permission - Eleanor Roosevelt

mild explicit language throughout

content warning: themes of phobias, anxiety, and dental/surgery covered. Light language featured. Discussion of Bulimia and bulimic experiences discussed and bullying touched upon. Experience of an affair, emotional abuse and gaslighting discussed.

Experience of bleeds during pregnancy discussed in combination of parental abuse. discussion of rape and non consensual underage intercourse Debbie is a trained hypnotherapist who gained a lot of experience training under Paul McKenna Debbie recounts how her clients mention having no self esteem and how she would correct them, saying 'well you've paid for this session! so you've invested in yourself already'

Debbie discusses addiction a lot on her YouTube channel so please check her out here! https://www.youtube.com/@DebbieWilliamsNLP

for info on my own practice, visit https://www.mindmanagementforyou.com/

TW: Themes of disordered eating (though nothing explicitly detailed!)

'Our gut is our second brain. There is a direct correlation between what we're thinking and what we're feeling.'

Folks, today we speak to Alison Taylor, who is an AMAZING individual who has spent her entire life educating people of all ages on their bodies, their eating habits, and how the gut influences our minds! Now, I've known Alison for many years now and she's not one to put out information without having some backing so if you're looking for even more information on our rest and digest processes, the mind-gut connection, fasting, hormonal regulation via dietary changes, and more then Alison has very kindly recommended some professionals below!

'salt sugar and fat are put together in a way that is addictive. This is something called the bliss point.'

Dr Mindy Peltz (published books on these topics)

Dr Rangan Chatterjin (also published in this specific field)

If you're looking for the specific books recommended then there's a book list near to the close of the episode (so listen to the last 15 minutes if you're stuck for time! You can find Alison's website here:

https://alisontaylor.flp.com

https://uk.linkedin.com/in/alisontaylornetworking

Thank you for listening and, as always, please remember that together we can make a difference.

- Sheila

TW: Themes of depression, experiences with loss, suicide, mental health talks, and violence.

If you need to speak with someone urgently and feel you may be at risk, reach out to a professional or contact the Samaritans at https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

Today folks, we speak with Steven Quance, a jeweller who opens up about his experiences with mental health management. Steven talks through his younger years and builds a full image of how nerves, anxiety, and worry held him back and how opening up to friends and experts assisted him in managing his mental health. Steven also talks about the various triggers that might affect men as they approach and enter their 50s.

Thank you so much for joining us today, Steve. If you'd like to speak with Steve, who has kindly opened up his number and socials to those who need someone to listen to them, or to see about his business visit https://www.stevencharlesquance.co.uk/

Together, folks, we can make a difference

TW: Postnatal Depression, self harm, themes of depression, impulsive thoughts

Postnatal depression (PND) is a mood disorder that can affect people who are pregnant or have recently given birth. If you're having difficulties with your mental health and PND, please reach out to a professional or to friends and family.

You are not alone.

Folks, today we're speaking with Becci Willis of Yarny Bees who was so incredibly and bravely joined us to speak openly and honestly about her experience with PND in the early stages of caring for her new born, and the feelings of grief she felt over the loss of a life she once lived.

Becci mentions the PANDAS foundation, who a wonderful organisation who I am honored to link below in the hopes that even just 1 person's quality of life is improved through reaching out: https://pandasfoundation.org.uk/

As always, you have all my love folks and remember:

together, we can make a difference.

To support Becci, visit: https://yarnybees.co.uk

Sheila McMahon

TW: We are discussing themes of suicide throughout this episode.

If you're feeling suicidal please reach out to the Samaritans at: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

or call 116 123

Folks, today we discuss bereavement by suicide. We discuss how it affects the family and how SOBS, an amazing supportive charity, helps people keep those support circles in their lives through one of the toughest times anyone can go through.

Thank you so much Sarah, for not only volunteering and working towards creating a network of over 90 face to face meeting across the UK for survivors of bereavement by suicide, but for sharing your own story with us today.

To reach out to SOBS, please go to: https://uksobs.com/

SOBS support line: 0300 111 5065

Sarah talks of the anonimity of the meetings, the weight being lifted as you realise everyone shares these feelings you might be feeling, and the connections you form to other people in a moment that may be very isolated.

'you hear the different stories and you hear a bit of your own story in theirs'

Folks, together, we can truly make a difference.

Folks, I want to say a huge Thank you to Phil Watson of HR Unlimited!

I've known Phil for many years now and he's one of these bubbly guys who never fails to make you smile and put on a fantastic show!

Which is why it was SO SURPRISING to me to see him so serious and passionate about this conversation. Phil lists out some of the barriers that men face in the workplace, including striking that golden dream of the perfect work life balance.

As he mentions, running a business can be so hard at times. You put in the work to be able to reward yourself only to find you're beating yourself up in those resting periods by believing you should be working more! Family, friends, community, and hobbies keep Phil sane and in this talk we dig into not putting all our emotional eggs into one basket and diversifying the sources of joy and success in our life.

If you want to chat to Phil, please check out his website below!

https://www.hr-unlimited.co.uk/

Together, folks, we are not alone. Together we can save lives.

All my love,

Sheila McMahon