Couples Therapy In Seven Words

What happened to our sex life? Well, we're not talking about our sex life (hey, that's between us!), but about a question lots of couples ask. We talk about three different types of issues that come up, and handle a listener question.

The book we mention is Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides, illustrated by Daerick Gross Sr.

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Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

A special episode: We share our thoughts and feelings--and our deep pain--about the Trumpist insurrection on 1/6/21. And we look toward healing, for the country, for couples, and for us all.

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And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

We look back--not always so fondly--at 2020, and look ahead to the new year. And we revisit the seven-word formula.

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And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

How can couples survive the pandemic? We talk about the effects of our individual fears, differences between the couple, and the perils of being stuck together more than you might want. Then we handle a listener question: how can she deal with her husband being home all the time?

Send in your questions: email us at [email protected], or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

A special episode for the holiday season. We talk about the perfect gift for your relationship--for yourself, your significant other, and the two of you together. It's not for every couple--but if you can handle it, it could be just what you need!

Send in your questions: email us at [email protected], or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

How do you know when to call it quits in a relationship? We talk about how you can tell the difference between deal-breakers and growing pains, and then offer three guidelines. Then we take a listener question--one that comes very close to one of our experiences!

Send in your questions: email us at [email protected], or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

What do you do if your partner has been unfaithful? Infidelity is a very common occurrence. We give five guidelines to help you heal, and then take a listener question: she cheated on her husband, felt terrible, and admitted it when he confronted her. She knows it was wrong, but also realized that she's been starved for intimacy for years. Now her husband won't talk to her about it. What should she do? Listen to our answer, and let us know your thoughts.

Send in your questions: email us at [email protected], or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

This is a special edition of our podcast, recorded a little over a week after the 2020 election. How can we heal as a nation? We apply the same seven-word formula--"Be kind, don't panic, and have faith"--that guides Dr. Chalmer's work with couples to the task of healing a divided nation.

Here's the link to Seth Chalmer's article mentioned in the episode: https://quillette.com/2020/11/12/towards-shared-identities/

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A quarter of Americans -- millions of people -- are currently estranged from a family member. That's one of the findings Dr. Karl Pillemer describes in his book, Fault Lines: Fractured Familes and How to Mend Them. As Dr. Pillemer interviewed hundreds of people in his study of estrangement, he discovered a subset of his interviewees who had been estranged, often for years, and had reconciled. And he found that their experiences of reconciliation were transformative. In our delightful interview with Dr. Pillemer, we explored his work, and applied it to a listener question from a wife about how a cutoff between her husband and her father was threatening her marriage.

Send in your questions: email us at [email protected], or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

In this episode we talk about sex: plain old, good, and sacred. What does it take to go from plain old sex to good sex? What's sacred sex, anyway?

Then we handle a listener question: "Chloe" likes sex with her husband, but resents his petulant reactions when he wants it and she's not in the mood. What can they do?

Send in your questions: email us at [email protected], or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort