Let me learn to be the kind of person I would like to have as a friend. 

Service helps me remember. 

Suddenly I am aware of a familiar chaos.  It is a signal that my life has, for the time being, become unmanageable.  I will try to acknowledge this- and then put a little spiritual space between my problems and myself.  

Maybe life is a series of experiments.  Just for today I might try slightly changing some pattern of behavior that repeatedly causes me problems, just to see what happens.  

I don't have the power to change another person.  If I am dealing with Violence, I must be the one who changes.  

It is important to express my ideas.  It is also important to accept the outcome.  

In meeting after meeting in Al-Anon I am reminded that I can only work with what i have today.  

There is no more need to judge or hate myself just because I experience human feeling.  

The painful lessons of a lifetime are not unlearned overnight, but Al-Anon is helping me to learn that it is safe to feel, to hope, even to dream.  

My Higher Power's gifts sometimes take unusual forms.  Perhaps something I regard as a problem is really a form of assistance.