Boundaries or Walls? 

Al anon is a spiritual program.  It's not something you can force, study or "wrap your mind around".  It is an amazing shift in perception that happens sometimes quickly and sometimes slowly if you are consistent and open minded.  

I have my own life and my own destiny, 

Working hard and producing results were a sociably acceptable way to deny my feelings.

Allowing new people in the program time to adjust to a new way of thinking can sometimes be very difficult.  Patience, understanding and time is necessary to help someone make their own progress.

Making amends is a way of righting a wrong, even if the other person is no longer living or reachable.

Today I will try to stay in the moment, accept life on life's terms and respond with courage and grace.  Perhaps my experience will help someone else.

I can love and support others I care about and still take care of myself.  Just because someone I love is unhappy doesn't mean I have to be unhappy.

Learning to have feelings and match them with the appropriate reactions has been one of my biggest gifts of this program.  Realizing I can pause and pray has changed everything for me.  

By Letting fo of old ideas, I have a fighting chance to learn, grow and discover wonderful things about myself.