Last week, we talked about the desperation which comes from the desire to control outside circumstances. Today, we will focus on the desperation associated with people and their presence in our lives. 

When we love and care about someone, it's natural to fear to lose them since they matter to us. But what about people who don't care about us and don't respect us? Why do we put them on some sort of pedestal?  

We begin to lower our standards and ignore our boundaries because we are afraid that people won't live up to them but leave. Instead of resolving our own issues, traumas and pains, we expect others to validate us and give us the love we crave. 

That's when we find ourselves tolerating poor behaviors and begin to keep people around for desperate reasons.

I've been in this place for a very long time and I know how exhausting and hurtful it may be. That's why I decided to dedicate this podcast episode to every woman who is ready to find her worth and love herself entirely. 

Tune in and learn: 

- what are the most common reasons we feel desperate in relationships 

- how to eliminate desperation through reflection and self-awareness 

- why we need to stop assigning big part of our identity to other people 

- 3 things you can do to stop feeling desperate in your relationships and maintain your standards and boundaries 

One of the most common reasons we feel desperate is our desire to control external circumstances.

We wish things could be easier or we feel entitled to a better life. If things don't go as planned, we get desperate and scared. 

Desperation itself isn't an emotion that is beneficial to our growth unless we learn to let go and focus on building ourselves from the inside. 

When we feel desperate, we act differently. We make decisions out of fear and we are in a rush. Our brain is paralyzed by a lack of control of the outside events and hopelessness takes place. 

There are two types of desperation we experience: one comes from the desire to control and the other is linked to our relationships when we are scared to lose people.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to address the first type of desperation. Here is what you'll learn:

- the main reason I find myself desperate and how I deal with it  

- what happens with your brain when you feel desperate and how it affects your decision-making process

- what is the most important principle when it comes to overcoming desperation and feel empowered 

- 3 things you can do right now to get rid of the feeling of desperation 

One of the most powerful feelings you can have is stillness. When you are in the midst of chaos but still manage to feel still - that's power. 

And this power comes from taking care of yourself and having spiritual hygiene in place. Think of this mental state as a happy medium - you aren't too calm and you aren't too excited. You are somewhere in the middle where you feel solid on the inside and focused. 

The real meaning of self-care and many spiritual practices is in developing mindsets and attitudes which make you feel whole and in peace. 

When I talk about self-care, I don't want you to see it as something external. I am not talking about Instagram posts with hashtag self-care while getting your nails done in a local salon. 

I am talking about self-forgiveness, reflecting how far you have come and giving yourself permission to exhale through meditation and mindfulness. 

There is a stigma going around which presents this idea of women to always care about everything and everyone around them. If a woman decides to take time for herself, say NO or simply embrace her imperfections, she is putting herself in a risk of a serious judgment from others. 

Since I absolutely love challenging the status quo, I decided to dedicate this podcast episode to every woman who never feels like she does enough no matter what she does. 

Tune in and learn: 

- importance of spiritual hygiene and self-care on your overall success and happiness

- why stillness is the most powerful emotion and how to access it 

- embracing imperfections as an act of self-care and happiness 

- 4 step process on how to create more stillness and self-appreciation 

One of the most profound ways on how to embrace self-love and create deep relationships with others is by setting clear and healthy boundaries. 

What often prevents us from setting boundaries is the fear of losing people. We are afraid that if we set higher standards or communicate what we aren't willing to tolerate, people will walk away. 

The truth is that those who aren't willing to respect things you aren't comfortable with shouldn't be on your priority list in the first place. 

It all comes down to one thing: "What you allow, will continue." So the question shouldn't be "What can I do to keep them in my life" BUT "What can I do to respect myself more?" 

Recently, I was faced with a challenge where I had to choose my boundaries over the presence of a person who mattered to me. It inspired me to share it with you in today's podcast episode. 

Tune in and learn:

- why respecting your boundaries is a revolutionary act of self-love 

- how setting healthy boundaries helps you to create deep and meaningful relationships for life 

- how sabotaging your boundaries lowers your self-respect and create a toxic environment 

- how boundaries contribute to your happiness in terms of social connections 

- 3 ways how to create healthy boundaries with yourself and others 

Living on auto-pilot means doing things or perform activities which you are so accustomed to and used to, you don't even think about them. 

Let's take driving, taking a shower or brushing your teeth. Those are activities that you want to perform with ease in order to avoid feeling overwhelmed. That's when your auto-pilot mode comes handy. 

The problem is that we do things on auto-pilot in so many areas of our lives, we don't even think about the majority of them. It's important to question our beliefs, our actions or behaviors. 

We can only grow and expand if we are willing to stretch, get uncomfortable and challenge ourselves on a regular basis. 

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you how to start living with more purpose and excitement. 

Tune in and learn: 

- the role of our brain in this process

- benefits and disadvantages of living on auto-pilot and how to differentiate them 

- finding a balance between habits and actions which are effortless while challenging ourselves and living more purposefully 

- 4 practical ways how to stop living on auto-pilot and feel more excited and alive 

During challenging times, when we aren't in our best or feel overly stressed out, we tend to lose focus and postpone our goals. 

As much I understand that stress and uncertainty may impact your mindset and performance, this is the time to double down on your goals, your focus and your personal growth. 

You aren't born to "chill." You are here to challenge yourself and grow. The world didn't stop - things only slow down. It is a matter of a time when the seemingly bad situation will pass and we all are going to move forward and continue living. 

Use this time as an opportunity to strengthen your mindset and get centered. 

In today's podcast episode, I am going to focus on your discipline and goal success. 

Tune in and learn:

- why it's time to stop chillin' and start doing

- how to organize your time effectively and stay focused 

- the power of seeing the "bigger picture"

- 5 ways how to maintain your focus and stick with your goals during the pandemic 

Uncertainty itself doesn't cause as much stress as the desire to control. The inability to control situations or people is what brings us suffering since it leaves us to feel hopeless and desperate. 

The only aspect in any given situation you can manage is you, your thoughts and therefore your emotions. That should be your focus at all times.

Uncertainty will always be present in your life whether you start a new business, move to a different country, change career or deal with people in general.  

Instead of wishing for more security, you want to develop a mindset that is trained to deal with unpredictability. 

In today's podcast episode, I am going to talk to you about some of the best ways how to deal with uncertainty and lower your stress level. 

Tune in and learn:

- why our perception of uncertainty creates suffering but not uncertainty itself

- scientifically proven ways how our brain responds to uncertainty and how we can manage it 

- the role of the rational brain and the limbic system in the times of uncertainty 

- 5 ways how to deal with uncertainty effectively 

Many of us try to change things by altering our external world instead of doing the inner work first. 

The quality of your life stands on your mindset. Instead of controlling things that are out of your control, learn how to manage your thoughts and feelings which you have full control over.

No matter where you came from or how many limiting beliefs you've adopted over the years, you can always change the way how you see the world through practice, tools and exercises that are designed to help you along the way. 

Because of everything that is happening in the world right now, I decided to focus on the issue of positive thought management. 

In today's podcast episode, I am going to teach you a simple concept that will help you in shifting your mindset once and for all. 

Tune in and learn:

- the story about alcoholic father and his 2 sons 

- how to focus your energy on what's happening inside of you and use it to your advantage 

- useful tip on how to recognize even your deepest thoughts in order to change them 

- 3 effective ways on how to upgrade the quality of your thoughts and achieve a successful mindset shift 

There are two ways to deal with challenges, daily demands or things that frustrate us and bother us: we either escape or we elevate. 

Frankly, there isn't anything wrong with occasional escaping by grabbing a cocktail with your bestie or crushing on the couch and watching a funny movie. 

But if you escape more than you elevate, if you numb your emotions and lack of fulfillment by overeating, substance abuse or binge-watching Netflix, the only healthy escape is elevation. 

Elevation and escape both stand on habits. Do you go for a run when you feel frustrated or do you grab a cupcake?

Do you pour yourself another glass of Chardonnay after a stressful day or do you sit down and meditate for 10 minutes? 

Your growth and mindset elevation stand on simple habits you do regularly. If you want to stop escaping, you need to find new habits that elevate you. 

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you how to stop numbing your emotions through escaping and how to use elevation to build the life you don't need to escape from. 

Tune in and learn:

- what is an escape and what is an elevation 

- what type of escape is acceptable 

- the importance of identifying your "escape" habits  

- how to develop new habits which will support your healing and help you elevate in your growth 

There is a difference between being physically alone and feeling lonely.

While time alone allows us to reflect and relax, loneliness makes us feel like we don't belong and there isn't anyone who understands us.

Our feeling of loneliness comes down to one important thing: the quality of our relationships. Strong connections bring people together since they create a deep sense of belonging.

However, fighting loneliness isn't only about others. It also stands on the quality of our inner world, what we haven't healed and what we are bringing to the table in the first place.

The question is: "Are you coming into any relationship with the mindset of giving and contributing or are you desperately looking for someone who can complete you?"

In today's podcast episode, I am going deep on the issue of loneliness and how you can heal it effectively.

Tune in and learn:

- the difference between being alone and feeling lonely and how to embrace "ME" time

- what loneliness physically causes to your body based on the scientific research (it will blow your mind)

- disconnection as a major reason for people to feel lonely

- why you need to focus on the quality of your relationships instead of the quantity

- your role in this healing process

- 6 ways how to fight and heal loneliness