Create a Life You Love

Today’s episode is a special one because it features my husband Grant as we have a conversation on a topic that’s been a pretty big deal to us the past two years: sex after kids. In this episode we share how our sex life has changed since having kids and the struggles we’ve faced, as well as how we’ve overcome those struggles and gotten to where we are today. We give our best advice for couples while approaching this topic from a biblical perspective because we believe that pursuing a healthy, thriving sex life should be important to every husband and wife and is very much a priority for God, too. So whether your sex life is nonexistent or alive and well, we hope this conversation is an encouragement to you!

Scripture Referenced:

John 10:10

Ephesians 5:28

1 Corinthians 7:4-5

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“Nothing about having a baby was more shocking to me than how much my marriage struggled afterwards. When my eldest was born I felt like I went from my husband being my whole world to my daughter being my whole world — and he could tell the difference too. I didn’t want to touch or kiss or even hug. I didn’t care about his work stories or whatever news he had read on the internet. I wasn’t interested in going on dates or even sharing the same bed.

The hormones and adjustments I was going through made me more emotional than usual. More angry. More mean. And when my husband realized that nothing he was doing made things any better, he became angry and mean, too. Until it eventually felt like we were nothing more than roommates — roommates who just so happened to share the amazing gift of raising this beautiful baby girl…”

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Scripture Referenced:

2 Peter 1:3

Romans 6:6-7, 11-14

Hebrews 4:15-16

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“Today I yelled at my toddler in the middle of the grocery store and snapped at my husband for what feels like the hundredth time this week. I knew I wasn’t treating them right but I was so angry in the moment that I didn’t even care. It wasn’t until I was alone later on in the day, nursing my newborn to sleep in a dimly lit room with nothing to hear but my own thoughts that I began to feel regret and sorrow over what I had done.

Why am I such an angry mom? Why am I an ungrateful wife? Why do I sometimes treat my family so poorly and forget how amazing and beautiful they are?”

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Scripture Referenced:

2 Corinthians 7:10

John 10:10

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"I have a confession to make. I’m a habitual Netflix bingewatcher. It started when I was working my way through college and felt completely overwhelmed by everything on my plate, then it continued when I graduated and was both a newlywed and pregnant with no job. And then when I had my first daughter, not only did things not change, but they actually got worse! I was spending so much time breastfeeding, staying home with the baby, and staying up through the night that I continued to rely on Netflix and to an even more unhealthy degree.

But then things started getting better. After months of feeling distant from God, I finally decided to turn off the TV and to begin pursuing time with him and other healthier things..."

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Scripture Referenced:

Ephesians 6:10-12

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"I used to be able to sit down and have my quiet time with God for hours. Devotionals, Bible study books, journaling, a hot cup of coffee. I absolutely loved my mornings with the Lord, and I couldn’t imagine not having them. But then I had a baby, and then another one, and now I’m in this crazy season of two under two and that picture perfect "quiet time" feels like the furthest thing from attainable.

At some point in my motherhood journey I was finally forced to put away my Bible, journal, and mile-long prayer list and reconsider what I thought was necessary for God to want to be a part of my life. I quit trying to have that ideal quiet time. And what I found was that I had been putting my relationship with the Lord in this box and that there was so much more to be discovered..."

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Scripture Referenced:

Galatians 5:1

Matthew 11:28-30

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“I just didn’t understand why the labor was the way it was. At the time I honestly believed that because things didn’t go my way, God must not have been on my side. But now, three months later, I see things differently and I realize that not only was he on my side, but he was by my side every step of the way.

And mama, today I want you to know that he was by your side every step of the way through your little one’s birth too. I don’t know your birth story. It may be similar to mine or completely different. But maybe you, like me, know what it’s like to feel disappointment, sorrow, or anger because you didn’t have the birth you expected or hoped to have…”

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Scripture Referenced:

2 Corinthians 5:1-5

2 Corinthians 4:16-18

Links Mentioned:

James’ birth story: https://soulcareforthenewmom.com/blog-1/2018/6/18/james-katherines-birth-story

Get my FREE 10 Declarations for the Anxious Mama, your go-to guide for taking your anxious thoughts captive and replacing them with CONFIDENCE and PEACE: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/declarations

Learn more about my Mom Empowered coaching program and how I empower moms with the mindset + strategy to ditch their anger and break free from anxiety: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/coaching

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It’s the end of another season, both for this podcast and for our family. With our second baby’s due date fast approaching, I felt like this would be the perfect time to wrap up Season Two. But don’t worry — my goal is to take some time away to focus on family and get my bearings and then to come back with some fresh, new material for you mamas sometime this summer!

Get my FREE 10 Declarations for the Anxious Mama, your go-to guide for taking your anxious thoughts captive and replacing them with CONFIDENCE and PEACE: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/declarations

Learn more about my Mom Empowered coaching program and how I empower moms with the mindset + strategy to ditch their anger and break free from anxiety: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/coaching

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"I think it’s safe to say we all feel the temptation to compare. With social media constantly in our faces, we're taking in countless messages about what motherhood could look like or ought to look like and sometimes this has a way of highlighting our own failures, differences, and inadequacies. We see skinny, active, healthy moms and well-balanced, organized, have-it-all together moms and vulnerable, bold, authentic moms, and moms who are just killing it with their side hustles as they walk in their gifts and talents and pursue their dreams. Sometimes it can be so inspiring and motivating to see these moms at their best. We think to ourselves, 'maybe I can be that, too.' But then there are times when it’s discouraging, even deflating, because we know we are so far from where they are, where we wish we could be..."

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Get my FREE 10 Declarations for the Anxious Mama, your go-to guide for taking your anxious thoughts captive and replacing them with CONFIDENCE and PEACE: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/declarations

Learn more about my Mom Empowered coaching program and how I empower moms with the mindset + strategy to ditch their anger and break free from anxiety: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/coaching

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Don’t forget to leave a review and share how Soul Care for the New Mom has been an encouragement to you! Pssst… this also helps more moms discover the podcast so they can be encouraged, too!

"I think there was a past naive version of many of us that liked to believe that we would be accepting of our postpartum bodies, that we would simply marvel at how it carried our sweet babies and nourished them both in the womb and beyond. We told ourselves that there would be no pressure to get the weight off, that we would give ourselves grace for the changes our bodies would endure.

But if you're like me, your postpartum body lost most of its luster sometime after the 'fourth trimester.' Now it’s difficult to accept this is really how you look, how you fit, and how you jiggle. You feel hopeless and defeated. And at the same time, guilty. Because you expected better from yourself. You thought you'd rock your new body with confidence — if not for your sake, then for your someday adolescent daughters. But now you just want to hide away, go back in time to the smaller version of yourself that you had even once thought could lose a few pounds. If only we knew then how good we had it, right?..."

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Get my FREE 10 Declarations for the Anxious Mama, your go-to guide for taking your anxious thoughts captive and replacing them with CONFIDENCE and PEACE: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/declarations

Learn more about my Mom Empowered coaching program and how I empower moms with the mindset + strategy to ditch their anger and break free from anxiety: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/coaching

Follow Soul Care for the New Mom on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/soulcareforthenewmom

I want to hear from you!

Don’t forget to leave a review and share how Soul Care for the New Mom has been an encouragement to you! Pssst… this also helps more moms discover the podcast so they can be encouraged, too!

"Last week I sent out a message to many of my Instagram followers with the question, what’s the biggest challenge you’re facing in this season as a mom? And hands down the most popular response was about the mom guilt that comes from not knowing how to balance it all — motherhood, marriage, housework, pursuing a career, or chasing after a dream or passion. And I completely resonated with this answer. It’s so difficult to know what the right balance is and how to do what’s best for the family while maintaining a functioning household and without compromising your own needs and desires too. No matter how hard we try, a lot of us feel like we’re falling short in at least one area, if not several. And that’s where the mom guilt comes in..."

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Get my FREE 10 Declarations for the Anxious Mama, your go-to guide for taking your anxious thoughts captive and replacing them with CONFIDENCE and PEACE: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/declarations

Learn more about my Mom Empowered coaching program and how I empower moms with the mindset + strategy to ditch their anger and break free from anxiety: http://www.soulcareforthenewmom.com/coaching

Follow Soul Care for the New Mom on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/soulcareforthenewmom

I want to hear from you!

Don’t forget to leave a review and share how Soul Care for the New Mom has been an encouragement to you! Pssst… this also helps more moms discover the podcast so they can be encouraged, too!