Create Your Balance

In this episode, I'm bringing out a little more of my story.

I never know IF and when I should open up the book and start a new chapter BUT I've been having a LOT of conversations with a lot of women lately and it seems they have gone through a LOT of what I have gone through. I KNOW we're not the only ones so, in an effort to let you ladies out there who may have gone through or BE going through any of this…I want to share it to let you know you are NOT alone!!

I have done MANY crazy things to try to lose weight and make my body OR parts of my body smaller and I feel like with each new attempt ( and failure) I got further and further away from being healthy. Funny thing though, the compliments just kept coming as I was "leaning out" or "toning up".

Not only did the compliments keep coming, I still hated what I saw in the mirror, feared food, feared gaining any weight back, and feared any kind of gathering that would have "bad" food to tempt me. How's that for healthy??

When I say I've tried it all, I pretty much HAVE TRIED IT ALL and didn't even give my over health one single thought as long as I was getting smaller…UNTIL IT ALL BACKFIRED on me.

From meal replacement shakes, diuretics, magic pills, cleanses, and potions to working out EXTRA HARD I have been there and done that and I'm about to share it all with you…

Have ya ever felt like no matter what you try for weight loss, you're always failing or falling off the wagon??

Well, in this episode, I'm going to reveal that it's NOT you, it's these damn diet programs. YOU are not failing and there is nothing wrong with you if you are struggling with all the diets you are trying.

We think we are failing because of the BS rules of the program which most are unrealistic to begin with…don't worry, they have a different program for you that will "work"! All they really want is a repeat customer!!

Let's talk statistics for just a second here.

Diets have a 95 % failure rate

97 percent of dieters regain everything they lost and then some within three years. ( and when ya gain it back everyone blames themselves not the bull shit diet of rigid rules and restrictions for being so unrealistic)

With each new fucked up quick fix or magic diet that everyone is doing..it messes us up mentally more than we realize.

Perfection, competition, comparison, fear, restriction, unsustainable, unrealistic

What we're not dealing with is the UNDERNEATH part of it all.

WHY are we struggling? WHY do we constantly feel like we need to be chasing a diet? Getting leaner? Avoiding certain foods to the point where we fear them? Taking the measurements and daily pictures…trying to keep up with the daily workouts only to end up feeling like WE have failed when LIFE HAPPENS!!

Ya know, life is going to continue happening and these diets don't give a rats ass if you have a wedding in the middle of your 75-day program or 21-day "colon" cleanse..you just keep your eyes on the prize and miss out because you want that before and after photo!!

Is it willpower? Dedication? Do we not want it bad enough?

NOPE!!!

We really just have no idea WHY anymore. We continue to chase that number on the scale or that smaller size pants. We try to follow the plan the best we can and shit happens and we "fall off the wagon".

Well, it's time to tell the diets to fuck off and burn the wagon. Let's work on coming from a place of self-love and self-care, not hatred or guilt.

THIS is what I'm talking about in this episode!!

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In this episode, I'm going to be talking about 5 signs you may be working out for the wrong reasons. I'll share a little bit of my story and how I used to work out for these EXACT reasons.

I get it, when it comes to working out we all have our reasons or goals…BUT are they helping or hurting you? The way I used to look at was hurting me believe it or not….EVEN when I was standing up in front of that class leading the exercises.

I often ask my clients what their goals are and why they work out and the answers are all pretty much the same.

"To be healthier"

"To tone up"

"To Lose weight"

" To feel better in my skin"

If you've ever had a chat with me you know I have you dive deeper on those answers to find out the REAL reason behind working out.

While there is nothing wrong with those answers, it makes sense to examine your reasons for wanting to create change. What's your true motivation? Does it come from a place of lack — or is your desire to push yourself coming from a place of self-care/love/discovery?

The difference is huge. Let's chat more about that along with the 5 signs you may be working out for the wrong reasons…Shall we?

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FOLLOW ME:

Be sure to subscribe to my Podcast on iTunes @ Create Your Balance

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Is there REALLY a shitty way to lose weight?

YES! It's called PRETTY MUCH EVERY DIET OUT THERE THAT WE'VE ALL TRIED A TIME OR TWO!

I'm guilty of doing it OVER AND OVER again for more than half my life and each time I'd expect different results…ya know something that was sustainable and would "fix" all my weight and body image issues.

I'm about to talk about these 7 common shittiest ways ( we've all tried) to lose weight and how they have done nothing but sabotage our efforts and results.

From setting unrealistic goals to fad diets to working out WAYYY too much as a punishment, I'm bringing it today in this podcast.

I struggled more than half my life with body image issues thinking that if ONLY I were "Skinner" I'd be more accepted and life would be grand.

Well, in this episode I'm talking about how I FINALLY learned the difference between skinny and healthy…They are NOT one and the same!!

Skinny doesn't always mean healthy. In fact, it could mean just the opposite and I'm going to share with you exactly WHY!

There's a difference between being fit and being skinny, and there's a fine line between healthy eating and disordered eating.

At times, my quest to be "healthier" consumed me. I became completely obsessed with the size of my body and what I put in my mouth ( I'd say that's pretty healthy!??!!)

It was literally an emotional roller coaster; my highs (losing two pounds in a week) and my lows ("ruining" my day by eating one cookie) sent me dangerously close to moments of self-loathing, body shaming, undereating and extreme exercising.

The skinnier me was more fucked up mentally when it came to my size and what I ate.

The skinnier me had high cholesterol. ( IN MY EARLY 20s...pretty healthy right there!!)

The skinnier me obsessed over food and would overexercise and undereat.

The skinnier me was ALWAYS looking for the next quick fix to make myself SMALLER!

The skinnier me was UNHEALTHY!!! Physically, mentally and emotionally.

I don't know about you but THAT is NOT healthy...NONE OF IT!! Yes, society tells us skinny is healthy!! Well, ya know what I have to say about that? FUCK SOCIETY!!

It took me more than half of my life with these struggles and many more! I always thought I was doing it right...ya know, because "Everyone else was doing it"

Through my own experiences along with furthering my education in health and wellness, I have learned that SKINNY most definitely does not always equal healthy. YOU can be healthy at any size...yep, I said what I said there!!

I am sure as hell, not that skinny little "healthy" person I was back then...BUT I am HEALTHY!!

I am happier, healthier, and more confident than I ever could have imagined; though that isn't to say I haven't been a bit damaged along the way. It's been a healing experience for sure and it is what I help other women do with my coaching now.

You get to define TRUE health and for me, I FINALLY figured out that it starts from the inside out!!

In this episode, I'm diving a little deeper into another chapter of my story. I'm talking about ALL the positive things that happened when I stopped dieting.

I cannot tell you the amount of STRESS and crazy that came with the constant dieting and thoughts of losing weight. It took up a LOT of my time and pretty much sucked the life out of me.

From struggling relationships to fear of food, slowed metabolism, stress, cravings, and nighttime binges it was the life I lived all while trying to fit into what society said was "healthy". All while thinking it was "normal"...Needless to say, it was NOT healthy for me, which I reveal in this podcast.

So much has changed, for the BETTER since I quit dieting and I tell all in this episode. Would you believe that there have been so MANY POSITIVE changes since I quit obsessing over food and going on ( and off) diets???

As always, the truth bombs and F-Bombs are flying..you have been warned.

In this episode, I'm going to be talking about 5 myths about calories that could be preventing you from losing weight.

Can I just say that IF it were as "Easy" as calories in/calories out we'd all be at our ideal weight and NO ONE would EVER need to go on a diet again!!

If you've been trying to lose weight and are anything like I used to be when it comes to what you put in your mouth, you're probably overwhelmed with calories — from checking food labels for them to counting them to figuring out how many you need to stick to in order to see the numbers on the scale budge. How bad of a life suck is that??

I get it, the weight-loss concept of burning more calories than you take in each day sounds simple enough, but calories are still fairly misunderstood by the average person. There is so much information and MISinformation out there how can we know what is REALLY true??

Let's talk about these myths. Shall we?

• MYTH 1: A Calorie is a Calorie: A 50-calorie apple breaks down the same way in the body as a 50-calorie of OREO'S, right? Not exactly.
• Myth 2: You Burn Most of Your Calories During Exercise: Exercise pretty much accounts for 5% of your calorie burn.
• Myth 3: Some Foods Have Negative Calories: EVERY food has some calorie value
• Myth 4: Burning 3500 Calories Makes You Lose a Pound of Fat: There are MANY other factors that help determine how one loses fat.
• Myth 5: Counting calories is The BEST Way to Lose Weight: I can slightly agree calorie counting can be an effective way to lose weight. But it's not the ​only​ way…nor is it the BEST way.

While this may be a tried and "true" approach that so many have been using for years with each diet they go on what matters more is that you take an individualized approach to weight loss and consider your needs and what will work best for you.

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I also Referenced 2 previous podcasts that you can check out here:

How I Overcame Body Dysmorphia and Disordered Eating

Dying to Be Thin

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Join our new VIRTUAL/LIVE Workout Membership http://bit.ly/3FvqkwU

Let's connect:

Book a FREE Weight Loss Breakthrough call @http://bit.ly/2E48dOh

Join Our FREE FB Support Group @https://www.facebook.com/groups/574339769435340

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FREE STUFF!!

Get your FREE copy ot the 7 Secrets the Diet Industry is Hiding From You @ https://bit.ly/2ZXn6QF

Get your FREE copy of The Metabolism Cheat Sheet @https://bit.ly/3if0tgO

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FOLLOW ME:

Be sure to subscribe to my Podcast on iTunes @ Create Your Balance

Follow Me on Facebook @ https://www.facebook.com/melanie.sobocinski

Check out my website @ https://www.melaniesobo.com/

See behind the scenes on Instagram @ https://www.instagram.com/melanie2875/?hl=en

Check out my Pins @ https://www.pinterest.com/MSobocinskiFit/pins/

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In this episode, I'm going to be sharing my story of how I overcame body dysmorphia and disordered eating

Sweet Lord Jesus, you're a Health and Nutrition Coach, you should have your shit together and KNOW all the things about healthy eating, body image, and exercise…

Shouldn't you??

Umm, I am as human as they come and I can tell you that I have STRUGGLED more than some may know and I hid it all so well for so many years…

...it was when I actually entered the fitness world that I realize how fucked up things were out there. I got to a point where I KNEW something had to change AND I needed not only to work on what I was struggling with BUT to share it with others because I kept seeing the same struggles with my clients.

I got to a point where I refused to promote the bullshit anymore because it was fucking me up more than I had ever thought it could.

So please, allow me to share the trial and tribulations of my journey with you...It's my GOAL to share the REAL, IMPERFECT, TRANSPARENT struggles that I have gone through to let women who struggle just as I did know they are not alone and there is another way.

In this episode, I'm going to be talking about calorie counting and the actual DANGERS it can do to your overall health. I know, I know, calories in/calories out and calorie deficit is the ONLY way to lose weight…BUT there are a lot of unknown factors in those statements and it is NOT always the way to go.

So many of these calorie counters are NOT accurate...yep, I said it. NOT ACCURATE!! Not to mention the nutrition labels and the margin of error there. SO do we REALLY know the numbers when it comes to counting??

I get it, it's a ballpark figure and maybe you are seeing results BUT there is so much more behind that counting and the numbers that we sometimes fail to realize what it can do to our overall health. I didn't see it in the beginning but I'm so glad I saw through the BS of it all.

And of course, I'm going to fill you in on all of that in this podcast.

HAPPY NEW YEAR…It's all about the New year, new me…Isn't it?

Is your new year's resolution to improve your health and lose weight?

In this episode, I'll be diving into why we struggle so much at keeping these resolutions and what you can do to make them actually STICK AND SEE LASTING RESULTS!!!

⁠Perhaps you'd like to make some helpful changes for your health and well-being, but you want to do it without the rigidity, futility, overwhelm, or joylessness that comes along with dieting?⁠ You'd like to actually STICK with it this time around and not "fall off the wagon" and feel like a failure.

WHY do we do this to ourselves EVERY New Year? I'm about to tell you why along with the 5 reasons WHY we find these resolutions don't stick.

These 5 reasons are very common and easy to "fix"..don't worry, I've got your back.