Creating an Empowered Life

We've officially reached 20 episodes of Creating an Empowered Life, and I want to extend my gratitude to you for listening, sharing, and being a part of this journey.

Thank you.

After 20 episodes, it feels like the right time to take a short creative break. I'll be stepping back briefly to revamp a few systems behind the scenes.

In addition to the podcast, I'll be taking another look at the newsletter, the hypnosis sessions, and how everything connects. The goal is to make things smoother, more impactful, and even more aligned with the work we've been doing together.

The first 20 episodes will remain available along with all the hypnosis sessions that can be found on my Substack, as well as all the articles that have been posted so far.

If you haven't caught up yet, now's a great time, and of course, make sure to stay subscribed so when new content drops, you'll be the first to know. It won't be a long break. Just enough time to refocus and come back even stronger.

Thank you again for being here.

We all face decisions that feel complicated or emotionally charged.

Sometimes it’s hard to tell what the right next step is or whether there even is a “right” answer.

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore a powerful decision-making tool from NLP called Cartesian Logic, a framework that helps you slow down, think clearly, and make more intentional choices.

You’ll learn how to use four simple, thought-provoking questions to:

🔹 Access logic and emotion instead of relying on impulse

🔹 Uncover hidden fears and resistance

🔹 Make more aligned and confident decisions

We’ll also walk through a real-world example and give you a practical way to apply this tool to your current situation.

For coaching and other resources, visit MyCoachRay.com.

We all want change to feel easier.

To finally follow through.To make lasting progress.To stop feeling stuck.

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we take a behind-the-scenes look at what coaching is and why real transformation isn’t about magic… It’s about structure and support.

You’ll learn how the coaching process helps you:

🔹 Clear the emotional baggage holding you back

🔹 Create a compelling future that aligns with your values

🔹 Take meaningful action and keep momentum going

We’ll also explore why action alone isn’t always enough, how modeling can accelerate growth, and the role of systems in sustainable change.

Whether you’re in a coaching relationship or creating change on your own, this episode will give you a practical framework for moving forward.

🔗 Visit MyCoachRay.com for more coaching and resources.

We all know personal growth takes more than inspiration.

It takes tools, practice, and the willingness to do the work, especially when life throws challenges your way.

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, you’ll hear from Jamie, a client who’s spent the last four years learning and applying what we’ve talked about on this podcast—from the Four Requisites for Change to the Five Principles of Success, and more.

Her story is a powerful example of what’s possible when you combine a strong mindset, effective strategy, and genuine follow-through.

You’ll hear how Jamie:

🔹 Doubled her income and created alignment in her career

🔹 Built strong relationships with herself and others

🔹 Integrated the tools and models from coaching into everyday life

This conversation is honest, practical, and filled with actionable takeaways that you can apply to your journey.

💬 Have a question you’d like Ray to answer on a future episode?

Ask it in the subscriber chat on Substack.

🔗 Learn more and read Jamie's testimonial at MyCoachRay.com.

We all have days when things don’t go as planned.

Maybe you can’t run the full 5 miles.

Maybe your schedule gets thrown off.

Maybe you don’t hit your original goal.

So what do you do?

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore John Wooden’s advice:

“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”

You’ll learn how this simple mindset shift can help you:

🔹 Stay consistent without falling into all-or-nothing thinking

🔹 Build self-trust by honoring your intentions

🔹 Make meaningful progress—even on imperfect days

We’ll break down how to apply this in your everyday life.

💬 Have a question you’d like Ray to answer on a future episode?

Ask it in the subscriber chat on Substack.

🔗 Learn more at: MyCoachRay.com

You’ve probably heard the phrase “1% better every day.”

It sounds motivating, and for some people, it is.

Yet when you take a closer look, the phrase starts to fall apart.

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we break down why “1% better every day” isn’t as helpful as it seems.

You’ll learn:

🔹 Why the phrase lacks the specificity needed to guide real progress

🔹 How the math behind it creates unrealistic expectations

🔹 What to focus on instead to create meaningful, lasting growth

We also explore why the feeling behind the phrase resonates with people—and how to keep that energy while using language that’s more grounded, clear, and practical.

💬 Have a question you’d like Ray to answer on a future episode?

Ask it in the subscriber chat on Substack.

🔗 Learn more at: MyCoachRay.com

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, Ray challenges the well-worn phrase “Fake it till you make it” and explores why it often backfires. He offers a more grounded, empowering alternative: build on what’s already real. Drawing on NLP concepts, Ray explains how to develop qualities like confidence through practice, rather than relying on performance.

Whether you’re working on public speaking, leadership, or simply showing up more fully in life, this episode gives you practical insights to shift from pretending to preparing and create lasting change.

🎧 Listen now and discover how to:

* Use what you already have as the foundation for growth

* Access real confidence and strengthen it through action

* Let go of perfectionism and show up with self-trust

💬 Have a question you’d like Ray to answer on a future episode?

Ask it in the subscriber chat on Substack.

🔗 Learn more at: MyCoachRay.com

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore what it means to follow through and what to do when you don’t. Instead of judging the outcome, you’ll learn how to treat your follow-through as feedback, using it to clarify what’s working and where to adjust.

You’ll discover how this mindset helps you:

🔹 Stop moralizing success or failure

🔹 Strengthen self-trust through clearer commitments

🔹 Reflect with honesty and curiosity, not pressure

We’ll also walk through practical questions you can use to assess your commitments, improve your strategies, and move forward with greater alignment.

For coaching and other resources, visit MyCoachRay.com.

What if the way you see the world isn’t the world itself and just your version of it?

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we look at the idea that the map is not the territory, a reminder that your internal understanding of a situation is not the same as the situation itself.

You’ll learn how this mindset can help you:

🔹 Separate perception from reality

🔹 Communicate more clearly by understanding others’ perspectives

🔹 Recognize and update the beliefs that shape your personal “map”

We’ll also walk through practical ways to apply this concept in your day-to-day life, so you can stop reacting to your assumptions and start responding with clarity.

For coaching and other resources, visit MyCoachRay.com.

What if the problem isn’t that you “can’t” and it’s that you don’t know how… yet?

In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore the difference between belief issues and strategy gaps. Both can lead to the same phrase, "I can't do it," and they require very different solutions.

You’ll learn how to recognize the real source of the challenge so you can:

🔹 Avoid solving the wrong problem

🔹 Choose tools that actually fit the situation

🔹 Move forward with more clarity and confidence

Whether you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just not sure what’s holding you back, this episode will help you get clear on what’s really going on and what to do next.

For coaching and other resources, visit MyCoachRay.com.