CTRL+ALT+DELETE with Lisa Duerre™

In this episode of CTRL:+ALT+DELETE Lisa keeps it real with Executive Wellness Coach, Megan Corey. If you're feeling tired, if you've gained weight by coping through food and not exercising,  if you find yourself more angry than normal, if you're feeling overwhelmed and you know that you've got to do things differently then you're in the right place! Listen in as Lisa and Megan share insight and real work examples to go from overwhelmed to energized, low energy to nourished and alive, and so much more.

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Megan can be reached at https://www.linkedin.com/in/megancoreyhealthcoach/

Lisa can be reached at https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisaduerre/

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In this episode, Lisa talks with Susan Nelson, Founder of The Pragmatic Life, about what is needed today to improve business results and boost team performance. Topics range from mental health support, employee 1:1 best practices, finding support as you lead your business, collaboration tips, Darth Vader, Captain Kirk and Spock, and how they show up at work, burnout prevention strategies, how to best partner with your HR Business Partner and how to raise your energy when your'e feeling down. They also double click on the performance issues leaders face today with both under-performing individuals and those that are always on and excelling despite what is going on in today's world.

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.

In this episode Lisa Duerre and Elise Keith keep it real by sharing examples, actionable tips and insight to help leaders at all levels in Tech save time and budget. Listen in as they share insight and actions leaders can do today to increase decision making velocity, performance and sales. Topics range from how to improve the #ROI of your meeting(s), what to do about #meetingfatigue, and how move your meeting attendees from consumer to co-creator. They double click on #communication, #influence, #values, #inclusion, #belonging, #psychologicalsafety, #effectiveleadership, #timemanagement, #meetingdesign, #prioriities, #committment, #distancelearning, #leaderblindspots and #remotework.

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.

Svetlana Parilova and Lisa Duerre discuss tips and practical insider knowledge on how to identify burnout and what you can do today to reboot in real-time. In this episode, you'll also learn some key business strategies for helping your team and profits, how music plays a role in self-care, and how to talk to your boss if you need more flexibility these days.

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.

Special Guest Sue Trace keeps it real with Lisa Duerre as they chat it up about burnout and share insight as well as tips to increase resilience and agility as leaders in a VUCA world. Topics include employee engagement, retention, expert vs. leader role definition, culture, diversity, synchronicity, resilience, Silicon Valleyitis, partnering with our medical providers, women at work, and so much more.

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.

Special guest Clarissa Kristjansson keeps it real as she and Lisa discuss topics and tips ranging from: how to identify burnout symptoms in a zoom world, the myth of work-life balance, the reality of ageism and gender bias in tech (and what to do about it), stress management tips, and so much more. Grab your cup of coffee and join in on the #realtalk.

About Clarissa Kristjansson:

Clarissa Kristjansson is a midlife and menopause coach and mentor, speaker, and podcast host. She supports professional women through a complete mind-body holistic approach to thriving through change and ready to embrace their Second Spring with zest and joy!  https://clarissakristjansson.com

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.

Do you have trouble sleeping? Are you having poor appetite or overeating? Are you having more frequent headaches or more frequent stomach aches? Are you increasing your alcohol or drug use? Have you been losing your temper more? Or are you overall feeling any chronic conditions worsening? These are the questions that were asked in a recent health survey published by KFF and these are the symptoms that are showing up every day for the people that you lead and love. What's astonishing to me is how widespread the impact of the coronavirus is on those teams that you're leading.

When I look back at the data and I have it in front of me, in March, 32% of people said they were having one or more of those symptoms. Now, in August 53% of respondents said that. That's dramatic. That is dramatic and I bet you're having these too. I know I am, right? So between sleep, appetite or overeating, headache or stomach ache, alcohol or drug use, temper, having difficulty controlling your temper and also chronic conditions being worsened, that's what's happening right now. As a leader in your organization, I want to come to you today with a couple of things you can do right now, actually three things you can do right now to help your team.

The first is very simple and it gets missed a lot and I'm noticing it really has a profound impact on mental health, and it's as simple as being clear when the camera needs to be on and when the camera can be off when it comes to the meetings that you're having. It's almost as if overnight everyone went to Zoom and all of a sudden you had to be on all the time to make up for not being in the room together. The reality is, people have been working remotely for a long time and they were never always on a video. They could take a walk and get some fresh air. They might throw a load of laundry in while they're on an all hands call. They had the freedom to be able to get some stuff done in the background that didn't take away from the day job, which helped with peace of mind and stress and overwhelm. So I think it's important.

My message to leaders today is it's important to think about when the camera needs to be on and when it can be not mandatory, but perhaps voluntary at a minimum. Your people need the break. This is what's going on, and as you are leading your companies and your organizations, you set the tone. So taking a look at your cadence of meetings, how often you're meeting with people and making sure that you can even put in the meeting proposal or agenda camera's on or camera's off, whether it's voluntary or not, that would go a long way when it comes to the mental health of your entire employee base.

The second thing to think about that will help with mental health right now is revisiting priorities. So listen, as leaders in companies and organizations, I know you have to close the year out strong. I know there's a lot of budget planning for next year. I know that head count and resource planning is always critical. Right now, it's essential that you're crystal clear on the non-negotiables and where there's wiggle room. So taking a look at the priorities that you cascade down into your organization and then empowering your VPs, directors and frontline managers to actually take action on the things that are most important, and also to put other things on hold.

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.

I just read an article today that made me sad and also inspired me to speak out today. So I'm here today to talk to you about what's really going on behind the scenes. It's not like I don't know this, I know this, but putting it in print and reading it stirred something up for me today. And so for those of you that are leading teams and organizations, this message is for you. And for those of you that don't manage people and are doing your best to show up at work every day, I have some tips for you too. So the McKinsey report just came out in conjunction with the Lean In organization. Basically, what they were talking about is the burden that's being felt by everyone, including and most felt by working parents and working moms in particular. I'm a working mom, I know this.

Excuse me, my throat is raspy a bit. So I'm a little bit coming to you from my personal stance as well as the stance of the employees and organizations that I help in tech. I'm Lisa Duerre, and I'm the founder and executive coach at RLD Group, and we help leaders in tech get kick ass results at work, build high-performing teams, and be present for the moments that matter. That tagline, that is really about the work that we do and why we do it, and I can tell you, it's really hard for people right now. I've been speaking a lot about burnout lately, and burnout is one of the things that's keeping employees up at night and it's in the way of productivity. The truth of the matter is, we can't keep doing things the way we've been doing them. It's not working.

The world has changed, and for you as a leader, to be aware of these six things that are keeping employees up at night, it's going to help arm you and equip you to be able to get the high performing teams, to get the kick-ass results, and to be present for the moments that matter for you and for those you lead and love. My husband is here right now because this is real life and he's bringing me lunch because he's amazing. Thank you, honey. So this is exactly what's happening for your employees right now. I didn't plan this, okay? But what's happening is, everyone's working together to get things done. Okay, so your employees, here's the six things they're worried about according to the McKinsey report with Lean In; anxiety over layoffs, burnout, mental health, childcare, homeschooling, distance learning responsibilities, physical and mental health worries of themselves and their loved ones, and financial insecurity.

Now, you want to think about an employee who is trying to do the best they can for your next tape-out, your next product launch, your next virtual customer engagement, your next closing of a sale. With all of that, one or more of those things running in the background all the time for your employees, it's no wonder that things are getting even harder. I personally, as you just saw, I'm blessed that my husband and I can both be home while my daughter distance learned. I am hashtag grateful, as I say, every day that we can do this together. And let me tell you, it's bumpy. So one of the things that's worked for me as a business owner, a coach, and a mom is to really plan out the schedule with my husband and my daughter and take a look every day and figure that out.

As a leader, one of the things you can do right now for anyone who is caring for a loved one or helping with distance learning or running the distance learning in their house is to be very flexible with the schedule. Talk to your employees about what they're up against, where that sweet spot is.

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.

I just finished an awesome two-hour team session with a group in tech and I wanted to share with you something that I found inspirational and scary. We spent a lot of time talking about high performing teams and optimizing how they work together, it was amazing. One of the things that kept showing up was, and I know this to be true, you know this to be true, people are burning out, right? The conversation was around, I take such pride in my work. I take such pride in my team results. I like supporting my customers and helping our customers and I also have people that I love outside of work. How do you get it all done? I had to come here and I might even rant a little bit right now, but I want to share what to do when you're feeling like that, because it feels hopeless. I have burnt out. I have been in the emergency room thinking I'm having a heart attack, and instead it was allergic reaction to antibiotics that I had taken for the third, I had switched my antibiotics the third time, because I had this chronic bronchitis.

Well, I had bronchitis because I was tired, because I was taking care of everything at work and doing my best at home, always. I wasn't taking care of myself and I wasn't honest with myself or reflecting enough back about what was compelling this to happen. Burnout is like a virus. It doesn't just impact the person burning out. It impacts the organization they're in, the people that they love, the people that they lead. It's a big damn deal, and mental health and priorities, it's essential right now, you guys. This is what's going on in the world today. What was shared today in that session while we did so much amazing stuff, there was absolutely a request for help me figure out how to manage my own self better so I don't burn out. So I wanted to come to you today with three things you can do today for those that you lead and love to help them as we all navigate what I'm honestly feeling as a collective burnout, right?

So the first thing is as much as you want to help everybody else, you have to start with yourself. I learned this the hard way. I know this with the execs that I coach and the trainings that I run and the friends that I have, right? If you're not okay, you can't help anybody else. So the advice I'm going to give to help others applies to you too, and I want to speak to you from my heart, and the first thing is you need to take a look at your definition of balance. Take a look at your definition of priorities and take a look at if your mindset is everything's important, because it's not. We are, as a society, conditioned to always look at things how to improve, look at things to lead better, look at things to be optimized always. You guys, it's just not possible right now.

One thing I can say for sure, for yourself and those that you lead and love, is to have a real conversation about how you're feeling. I know, feelings at work don't always feel good, right? People don't want to talk about feelings, but as a leader, I'm not going to say but, and, as a leader, you owe it to those that you lead and love to check in and ask them how they're doing. How are you holding up? How are you feeling? What's weighing you down? What are you concerned about? You owe it to yourself to have the same conversation with yourself, whether it's in a journal, with a good friend, typing it up in a notebook, right? Being clear on how it's going is the essential first step. You have to reflect and create the space for that honesty.

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.

I'm Lisa Duerre. I'm the CEO of RLD Group, and I'm here today because I want to say thank you. I hope you can feel my energy coming through. My family and I were on notice to evacuate last week, and with that, we got an outpouring of messages of concern, and care, and love, through LinkedIn, through Facebook, text messaging. It was amazing, and I've been thinking a lot about the blessings that we have because the good news for our family right now is that we do not have to evacuate. The whirlwind of the last, I'm going to say five days, lots of lessons and real awareness showing up for me, not only as we navigate our home life, but also our business, our community, our world. And I just wanted to free-flow it a bit today to share some lessons I learned real time in case you're feeling what we were feeling whether or not you're surrounded by fires. Okay?

If you're on the West Coast, it's quite possible you absolutely relate. But I also know if you're dealing with natural disasters of any kind, if you're dealing with COVID, which we all are, where there's so much uncertainty for all. I always want to bring forward what's showing up with my clients. Today I want to bring forward what's showing up for me and my clients, right, and what goes on in the work that I do with leaders in tech, and getting kick-ass results at work, building high-performing teams, and being present for the moments that matter. The being present for the moments that matter piece is really a highlight for me right now, because when you get that alert on your phone that says you are now going up a notch, be prepared to evacuate, well for me, my heart stood still.

I knew it was possible, and I had been thinking about what we would do, and then it hit. What happened for us was we had had enough conversations ahead of time that we basically went into action and we started packing the things that mattered most. You know, precious things for my daughter, paperwork that my husband and I knew we needed, et cetera, and then the conversation, do we take one car or two? We're blessed to have two cars in our family, so do we stay together or separate? Where will we go? Where will we sleep? Who do we tell? What do we do? I started thinking about this just like anything at work, any project that could go awry, any uncertainty and stress that shows up, and I made some mistakes. We had some bumps along the way, and what I know is, sharing mistakes just as well as sharing wins is what connects us all and helps us all be our best selves.

So today I'm going to share some lessons learned, lessons learned from preparing to evacuate. Some of you may know I recently was interviewed by Authority Magazine and I shared my passion, a lot of my own personal experience being a woman in tech, and I talked about burnout, and how I rebooted, and what I did to basically wake up from burnout, and then change, well honestly, my whole life. I told the story about being in the emergency room, where they were ruling out a heart attack. I honestly had radiating pain up my arm. It was late at night. I had a presentation that was very important to me the next day, so I thought I'd just drive myself to the urgent care emergency room and just make sure I'm not having a heart attack.

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Hey, leader in tech! Want to get kickass results, build a high-performing team, and be present for the moments that matter? Take your first step at rebootwithlisa.com.