Bold Claims:
* What I’m going to talk about this episode is one of the most critical, if not most critical parts of a successful and happy life. Period!
* I’m going to talk about how Willpower is real and can be depleted & boosted
* …but you don’t want to always need or want to use it
* Good or Bad Habits is one of the primary factors deciding your success and happiness
* I’m going to talk about how to eliminate bad habits and build good habits
Some other notes from the episode:
* Earl Nightingale — Strangest Secret 100% habits
* Overcome or AVOID the effects of emotions and feelings…with habits first, then willpower
* When you build and sustain a habit, willpower is not needed (at least much less)
* Example: Yoga/meditation/shoulder exercises in the morning
* You remove a bad habit by replacing it with a good or neutral habit
* …or slightly less bad habit
* Examples:
* bite fingernails instant stop
* watching TV while eating –> watch trainings while eating
* eat ice cream –> eat fruit
* half the sugar in your coffee or tea
* post dinner TV –> post dinner walk
* 21 days…
* True loss of missing 1 day isn’t just that 1 day…it is the whole habit chain…
* Willpower is like a muscle
* You wake up at the beginning of the day with full willpower and you use it throughout the day
* why it is easier to work out at the beginning of the day than it is at the end of the day
* why you eat that frog with your work
* sleep replenishes
* You can build your willpower by giving yourself small willpower challenges AND doing the right thing in response
* M&M jar in your hallway example
* You can reduce or eliminate completely your need for willpower by setting up your environment right
* Example: healthy vs unhealthy food at home
* Example: keep your phone out of arms reach when…
* Meditation is YUGE
* Exercise is YUGE
* Even better than reducing or eliminating is reversing it and making it so you WANT to do the right thing
* Thinking about all the yummy things in salads…and how great I feel after I eat a salad…and how I want to live a long time…etc
* Thinking about how I’ll feel after doing Yoga, Meditation, and regular exercise for 20 years…
* CHANGE YOUR DEFAULT WANTS