You’re not crazy. You’re anxious.

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet sits down with Mel Robbins to unpack high-functioning anxiety in love — why women attach fast, date potential, ignore red flags, and stay in relationships where they can’t ask for what they need. Mel breaks down the 5 Second Rule, how to stop spiraling, time blindness, and the worst thing you can do when anxiety hits.

They talk separation anxiety, loving someone who’s wrong for you, being right vs. being connected, and the obvious signs he just doesn’t like you.

If you’re successful but secretly overthinking everything in dating — this one will hit.

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After a month-and-a-half break and a big network move, your Russian big sister Violet Benson is back – and she’s starting 2026 the only way she knows how: with tough love.

Violet breaks down the four shifts that changed her life – and can change yours too.

• setting real boundaries (and holding the door open when someone wants to leave)

 • radical self-awareness (aka stop lying to yourself)

 • knowing exactly who you are

 • and changing your perspective so you stop feeling like the victim in your own story

She then breaks down why we romanticize the wrong people, the truth about “twin flames,” how you’ve been quietly self-sabotaging your love life, forgiving without apologies, and learning that sometimes the love story you’re chasing isn’t about another person – it’s about yourself.

Today is the day you take your power back and start gaining confidence again after losing yourself in love. This episode is your reset.

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If you’ve ever wondered why you settle, sabotage, or shut down.. this episode tells you the truth.

Today on Almost Adulting, Violetta is joined by Jay Shetty - New York Times best-selling author, host of On Purpose, former monk, and one of the most influential voices in self-improvement, emotional healing, and modern spirituality.

In this powerful conversation, Jay and Violetta dive into:

• the limits we place on ourselves (and each other)
• fear as an unformed boundary
• why timelines sabotage our growth
• the real meaning of love (beyond romance)
• how to build connection through vulnerability
• and how to rewrite the beliefs holding you back

If you’re craving clarity, emotional growth, deeper love, or a fresh start, this is an episode worth revisiting. Some conversations deserve a second life. and don't forget to leave me a 5 star review on the apple podcast app when you're done listening!!!!

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

• 00:00 Intro

• 02:15 The journey that took 10 years

• 05:08 Deadlines vs. destiny

• 06:13 Worst advice Jay ever received

• 07:52 “We project our limits onto other people.”

• 10:46 The three cancers of the mind

• 12:45 How to change your feelings

• 16:23 Best advice Jay ever received

• 21:36 Why beginners should move fast

• 28:19 The two lies we tell ourselves

• 33:35 What unforgiveness does to you

• 36:13 Different forms of love

• 38:46 Is unconditional love real?

• 41:26 Loving as a skill

• 46:16 Fear as an unformed boundary

• 50:05 The power of being alone

• 53:08 Win or lose together

• 58:52 What it really takes to make love work

• 01:03:41 The 8 Rules of Love

• 01:06:19 The myth of perfection

• 01:08:35 Connect with the people who want you

AND THAT IS ALL FOR 2025!!! WE WILL BE BACK IN 2026!! <3

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This December, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Capricorn man obsessed with YOU.

Get ready to discover:

🔥 How to win over his ambitious and disciplined heart—and keep him hooked.

🔥 Foolproof ways to earn his trust and build a solid connection.

🔥 What he values most in a partner (and what will make him pull away).

🔥 The signs he’s losing interest—and how to reignite his commitment to you.

🔥 Proven strategies to win him back if he’s started to drift away.

Whether you’re drawn to his drive and dependability or trying to reignite the connection, this episode will give you the tools to master the art of loving a Capricorn man.

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WELCOME TO PART 2, b*tches! :)

We ended Part 1 with how to give your man a good head and the #1 Oral Method to make a girl c*m. Now listen up as Emily shows me the best way to find the REAL G-Spot. We end the episode with tips to not c*m too fast, hilarious fan sex stories and how I ended up in the ER after a fingering gone wrong.

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From getting your taco licked to c*mming EVERY time, this week’s episode is SO good, I’m giving you TWO parts.

Welcome to part 1 besties :)

I have Renowned sex therapist Emily Morse join us to teach you how to cum over and over again, so take out your notepad and get ready to take some notes. We discuss how to, love your body and vageen, get your man to go down on you, tips for giving a wifey blowie, facts vs myths about intercourse, the #1 ORAL METHOD THAT WILL MAKE YOUR GIRL C*M EVERY TIME, and more!!!

TUNE IN NEXT WEEK FOR PT. 2!!! And don’t forget to leave a 5 star review on the apple podcast app!

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Bonus episode - 3 hours of manifesting sound for anyone looking to elevate their vibrations and energy to better attract and manifest while sleeping or for anyone looking for frequency music to listen to while practicing gratitude or doing my manifesting techniques from last episode/other episodes.

This powerful track uses the 432Hz frequency as a base and continuously builds on itself, allowing you to elevate your vibrations and focus your energy on manifestation. Listening to this audio track or meditating at a frequency of 432 Hz can help you elevate your vibration and connect with higher states of consciousness necessary for manifesting miracles. You can use this tool to attract wealth, achieve financial freedom, gain education, or travel to luxury destinations.

*Reminder: visualisation is a crucial element of the law of attraction so remember to visualise your dreams while this sound is on*

The power of your mind and the universe is within your reach, and by focusing on positive thoughts, elevating your vibration, and using the Law of Attraction, you can make your dreams a reality. Download this episode to save this sound and share with a friend.

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The Real Reason Men Shut Down, Pull Away, and Go Blank.

Ever dated someone who was warm one minute… and emotionally shut down the next? In this week’s Benson Book Club, we break down Chapter 7 of The Untethered Soul - “Transcending the Tendency to Close.”

This chapter explains:

• why people emotionally close off
• why your ex suddenly went cold
• the psychology behind emotional shutdown and avoidance
• how to recognize when YOU close your heart
• and how this pattern destroys connection

I also give you a step-by-step Law of Detachment routine for heartbreak that I did to get over bookman!! The exact script to record, what to listen to every night, and a clean way to detach from someone who can’t show up for you.

If you want to understand why someone pulled away… or you need help letting go fast… this episode gives you clarity, strategy, and the tools to move on.

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Everything felt perfect… until the rabbit showed up.

An emotional shift I couldn’t explain, a pullback I didn’t see coming, and the moment Bookman and I quietly unraveled. This episode dives into the signs you miss, the distance you feel before it’s spoken, and the breakup you don’t want to admit is happening.

Did I make a mistake walking away… or would you have done the same?

You tell me.

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This November, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Sagittarius man obsessed with YOU.

Get ready to discover:

🔥 How to capture his adventurous spirit and keep him intrigued.

🔥 Foolproof ways to balance his love for freedom with your desire for connection.

🔥 What he craves in a relationship (and what will send him running).

🔥 The signs he’s losing interest—and how to reignite his excitement for you.

🔥 Strategies to win him back if his restless heart has wandered.

Whether you’re drawn to his energy and optimism or trying to bring back his focus, this episode will teach you how to keep a Sagittarius man hooked for the long haul.

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