Michael R and the hosts discuss the importance of accountability in their recovery programs and the benefits of modeling accountability for their children. They also delve into the themes of seeking control, unhealthy work habits, positive psychology and wellness, and identifying and nurturing passion in children.

Takeaways

• The importance of accountability - in sobriety and as a parent
• Understanding how very common and legitimate parental fears lead to an unhealthy desire to control
• The importance of identifying and fostering passion in children

Chapters

• 00:00 The Importance of Accountability
• 08:12 The Sobriety Mason Dixon Line
• 13:20 Accountability and the 12-Step Program
• 19:06 Expectations and Accountability
• 24:26 Parental Control and Fear
• 29:58 Seeking Control
• 35:05 Redefining Success
• 40:08 Positive Psychology and Wellness
• 45:22 Enabling Children's Passions

Many addicts don't understand the concept of boundaries until they get into recovery. In this episode, John Hyland discusses his own journey with boundaries and why they are necessary in recovery. The conversation talks about the importance of setting boundaries for our kids and modeling boundaries as parents.

Takeaways

• Importance of setting boundaries in relationships
• The impact of boundaries on parenting and personal growth
• The influence of recovery on family and children

Chapters

• 00:00 Reflections on Father-Son Relationship
• 09:30 Impact of Boundaries on Parenting
• 14:59 Challenges of Setting Boundaries
• 21:24 Emotional Boundaries in Relationships
• 26:26 Moments of Clarity and Self-Reflection
• 33:29 Boundaries in Career and Success
• 40:33 The Impact of Boundaries on Children

This episode discusses a topic many parents in recovery struggle with - how and when to disclose your addiction and recovery to your children. Scott Mansfield tells his story, and explains why he's open not only with his family but also with others about his recovery. His "recovery out loud" is an act of service and helps reduce the stigma of this disease.

Takeaways

• Living in consultation
• The impact of addiction on family and children
• The importance of open communication about addiction and recovery with children
• Overcoming stigma and being open about addiction can lead to a sense of accountability and the opportunity to help others.

Chapters

• 00:00 Living in Consultation and Service
• 08:13 Impact of Addiction on Personal and Professional Life
• 19:24 Open Communication with Children About Addiction and Recovery
• 28:28 Overcoming Stigma and Openness

Meet Cliff and Brandon, the hosts of Dads in Recovery. In this first episode, they each share their personal experiences with addiction, recovery, and fatherhood. The conversation explores the themes of vulnerability, toxic masculinity, and the type of fatherhood their own dads modeled. Most importantly, it introduces the goal of the podcast - to create a space to discuss the challenges and opportunities faced by dads in recovery.

Takeaways

• Rock bottom is not always a singular event, and recovery can be a journey with multiple turning points.
• Vulnerability and self-awareness are crucial in the recovery process and in building healthy relationships. Toxic masculinity can have a profound impact on individuals, shaping their self-perception and emotional expression.
• Sensitivity and empathy are valuable traits that should be embraced and nurtured, rather than suppressed or stigmatized.

Chapters

• 00:00 Influence of Parental Figures
• 28:18 Impact of Parental Expectations
• 33:52 Parenting and Nurturing Individuality
• 39:41 Challenging the Model of Masculinity
• 46:27 Breaking the Cycle and Rebirth

Trey Laird, founder and CEO of the Lighthouse, an organization offering coaching services and residences for professionals in recovery, joins Dads in Recovery to discuss the delicate balance between selfishness and self-care. Addicts in their addiction are inherently selfish. We don't want to carry this selfishness into our recovery. Yet we know that in order to show up for our families we need to refill our tanks. How do we discern between these two things.

In this conversation, we explore Trey's recovery journey, the transition from selfishness to service, and the importance of self-care and balancing family and work. Trey's transformation and dedication to service are highlighted, along with the challenges and rewards of parenting in recovery.

Takeaways

• Thriving - a new vocabulary for success
• Moving from selfishness to service
• How to discern between selfishness and self-care

Chapters

• 00:00 Redefining Success Vocabulary
• 08:19 Self-Care vs. Selfishness in Parenting
• 15:06 Transition to Service and Balancing Work and Family
• 23:48 Importance of Self-Care and Balancing Family and Work
• 30:06 Challenges of Parenting
• 45:02 Recovery and New Perspectives