Where focus goes energy flows
What do you focus on? Is it the positive things? Is it the negative things?
Do you have a friend that is always depressed, always mean, or any other negative characteristic that you wish you could change. Maybe your that friend. Maybe your focusing on things that cause depression, that cause anxiety, that causes you to be in a state that you don’t want to be in. If you focus on those states that is where your energy is going.