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This week, Alexandra is back answering your questions!  And today’s topic is all around ritualizing your love and sex practices to help call in what you desire.

In today’s episode, you’ll hear:

• Examples of how you can ritualize every aspect of your life, especially when you feel that some parts of your life may have become routine, or are feeling dull or numb.
• Ideas on creating rituals for yourself around areas you may desire to reconnect to love or sex, and how to integrate that into your life.
• How to do an inventory on how you are presenting yourself and/or your space to invite love or sex in and see which areas could perhaps use a little inspirational or erotic update.
• And more!

This week, Alexandra speaks with Ingrid Coronado, who is a native Mexican, a television host, radio host, writer, and lecturer!

She is a Mexican content creator and digital leader with a 25-year media career, and a leader of female empowerment and icon of integral well-being.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The common narrative around femininity across many cultures as consisting of self-sacrifice and being taught to feel shame around enjoying pleasure and sex as a woman, and how we can begin to unravel that for ourselves in our adult experiences and relationships.
• The process of undoing the belief that the archetype of the strong woman is “unattractive” or considered to be undesirable to the masculine being.
• Ideas on what parts of the masculine stereotypes are ready to be retired in terms of dating and relationships, and how we can begin to take steps ourselves towards lasting change.
• Ideas on how changing the larger paradigm of cultural norms starts first with change within ourselves, our beliefs, and our choices.
• And more!

On today’s episode of Holy F*ck, Alexandra is back and answering your questions solo-style, diving into the topics of love, loss, and how to process the ending with a beloved.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Ideas and rituals on how to process loss in your life through intentionally creating a container to grieve, so that you are working with your emotions rather than letting your emotions work you.
• Allowing yourself the space to deeply honor the courage and strength it takes to be open and vulnerable in relationship, even amidst pain or the grieving process of a relationship ending.
• Examining and undoing the idea that a ‘successful relationship’ means it lasts forever, and how to instead, identify the qualities of a successful relationship based on growth, transformation, love, and healing.
• How honoring the cycles of life and death throughout our lives allows us to honor the cycles of relationship, and let go of the expectations that anything in life remains the same forever.
• And more!

On today’s episode, Alexandra speaks with Emily Miller, a contestant on the Netflix show, Too Hot To Handle!

What Alexandra loved about working with Emily on the show was how unashamed Emily was about her sexuality.  She didn’t seem to be afraid to speak about her sexuality in a very blunt and honest way, and that was very inspiring to witness and see presented on tv.

This episode may be a great conversation starter for you all around expressing your sexuality, your desires, and staying open-hearted and vulnerable in relationship.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The difference between reaction in relationship - such as defensiveness or accusation - vs. staying open-hearted and vulnerable and sharing your emotions from that place.
• How staying open-hearted and vulnerable in relationship can often feel very painful, but ultimately leads to greater intimacy between partners, friends, loved ones, etc.
• Ideas on how laying down the foundation for high reward in life often comes by making high risk moves and actions to get there.
• Removing shame from how we, as a society, communicate about our sexuality and sexual desires, and how we can begin to reclaim that for ourselves.
• Ideas on what some of the fundamental differences between the masculine and feminine are in relationship, and how to reconcile that with expectations and desires you may hold for a partner.
• The challenge of sustaining change and transformation within yourself and the work and practice that goes into embodying the change within yourself and your life.
• And more!

This week on Holy F*ck, Alexandra speaks with Carly Lawrence from the Netflix show, Too Hot To Handle!

Carly is one of the contestants on season two of the show that Alexandra had the pleasure of leading in a few workshops and rituals throughout the season, and was very real and honest throughout their work together.  

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Ideas on what a healthy romantic relationship is and what healthy communication between partners looks and feels like.
• How going through the experience of being on the show helped Carly heal through trust issues, people pleasing, speaking up and using her voice to state her desires, needs, and more.
• Identifying our love languages in relationship, and how we can often discover what’s important for us to receive from a partner, through being triggered or experiencing conflict in relationship.
• The power of hearing other women share about their vulnerabilities, insecurities, and healing journeys, and how that can empower us to also be honest about our own journeys and transformational work. 
• How we can find a sense of safety in others when we may be experiencing anxiety or stress, and how another human’s nervous system can help regulate ours in those moments.
• How breathing into the heart and body can help ground us down and slow down our thoughts, especially for those of us who are fast-thinkers and may experience higher levels of anxiety or stress in everyday life.
• And more!

On today’s episode, Alexandra speaks with one of her dear dear friends, Moun D’Simone!  

Moun is a Spiritual Godmother, supporting womxn to find strength and courage in their story. She works with clients and students doing deep transformational and empowerment work, through one-on-one mentorship and group programs. She also speaks and leads retreats for clients such as Maha Rose, Kripalu, Three Jewels, and more, on topics like making peace with your past, unconditional compassion, the power of practice and community, and more.

This episode is really a peek into Alexandra and Moun’s love and friendship, and how they continue to inspire each other through life’s challenges.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The process of undoing tying our worth to our productivity and our accomplishments vs. living in the present and loving ourselves unconditionally.
• Ideas on why traveling to somewhere like India or Nepal is such a life-changing experience for so many people and how experiencing a place that is immersed in ritual can alter our perspective of everyday life and how we experience it.
• How we avoid looking at and holding a relationship with death in much of western culture and how that can often keep us in a place of fear of the unknown.
• Ideas on how we can begin to become more comfortable with death and suffering, and how that process can actually help us accept the full range of our own emotions and the reality of life and death.
• How Moun’s ability to step up and act as the main caretaker for her mother after her mother’s breast cancer diagnosis came from being able to hold the duality of the experience of life as being both full of so much beauty and so much challenge.
• Ways to move yourself through fearful moments, and how to engage with the full spectrum range of our emotions as human beings, and integrate them and bring them into acceptance within us.
• And so much more on healing and staying open to all that life has to offer us!

On this week’s episode, we have an incredibly inspiring story for you today!  Alexandra speaks with Marlee Liss, a sensual reclamation coach, speaker, author and restorative justice advocate.  She is a queer, sparkle-loving feminist and trailblazer.  Marlee made history in the justice system when her sexual assault case became the 1st in North America to conclude with restorative justice.  Since then, she has coached hundreds of women internationally in reclaiming sensuality and embodied leadership.

Marlee has shared her voice via Forbes, Huff Post, Buzzfeed, Mel Robbins Show, and more. In addition, she is a powerful speaker and has presented/consulted for the US Military Sexual Assault Response Team, on an elite panel for the National Action Plan to End Gender-Based Violence, Fordham School of Law and more.  Currently, her story is being made into a documentary and scripted Hollywood series, as she works on her memoir. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• What restorative justice is, its origins in the Indigenous, Jewish, and Mennonite cultures, and how it differs from the punitive justice system.
• Marlee’s story of sexual assault and going through the process after the assault of navigating the punitive justice system while doing very deep healing work.
• How going through the punitive justice system and the process of the lead up to a criminal trial inspired Marlee to seek out restorative justice measures instead.
• How the experience of the restorative justice therapy process brought a human element and a heart element to a justice system that otherwise can be very dehumanizing and devoid of any presence of either.
• The power of story-telling and how telling our stories provides a sense of validation to not only ourselves, but our communities as well.
• Ideas on what the vision of embodied leadership looks like and how it avoids burnout, honors our feelings, takes anger and recognizes it as passion and births creation from it, all while making huge, impactful changes in our communities.
• And more!

Please note, that we do go into the story of Marlee’s case and sexual trauma and what happened, so it’s a tender one.  Many of us have gone through these experiences, and it can bring stuff up, and it’s also really healing, so we encourage you to listen even if it feels a little edgy.  Please make sure you have some support around you and take good care.

Today’s episode of Holy F*ck is a special solo episode with Alexandra where she answers your questions on love, work, spiritual growth, and more!

This one gets personal as Alexandra shares her own stories of healing in many different aspects and areas of life, and discusses how doing such deep healing work has opened the door to receiving great love in sacred partnership.

In today’s episode, you’ll hear:

• The healing process of opening yourself back up to love after heartbreak or loss.
• The energetic connection and similarities between love and money, and how working on your ability to receive may be the key to healing your relationship to each.
• Ideas on how to navigate being in a romantic partnership when each partner may be on different transformational journeys.
• Tips for navigating through fears around online dating, and how to take the pressure off of a first date when you’re just getting to know someone.
• Alexandra’s personal journey of letting go of a lot of ego thoughts and beliefs around love, and how that opened up the door to sacred partnership.
• Ways to call in like-minded friendships and community, especially if you’re on a transformational growth journey and are beginning to grow beyond previous spaces and relationships.
• Ideas and steps to take for responding to the inner call to transition careers, especially if you don’t quite feel like you know exactly where to go or what to do next.
• And much, much more!

For this week’s episode, Alexandra speaks with EbonyJanice, an incredible woman who is a mega-manifestor and creative, she is the founder of Black Girl Mixtape, a writer, a dreamer, an advocate for joy, a mover and a shaker, a playwright, an activist… so many friggin’ things! OH!  

And she is also working with Alexandra in 1-1 mentorship and coaching for a year in the space of heart-opening feminine embodiment, which they get into in-depth in this episode!

And you may have seen her on Liz Gilbert’s IG page doing a live or two...

She is a soft and tender, yet POWERFUL soul.

EbonyJanice is a dynamic lecturer, transformational speaker, and passionate multi-faith preacher focused on Decolonizing Authority, Hip Hop Scholarship, Womanism as a Political and Spiritual/Religious tool for Liberation, Blackness as Religion, Dialogue as central to professional development and personal growth, and Women and Gender Studies focused on black girlhood. EbonyJanice has a B.A. in Cultural Anthropology and Political Science, and a Master of Arts in Social Change with a concentration in Spiritual Leadership, Womanist Theology, and Racial Justice. She is the founder of Black Girl Mixtape, a multi-platform safe think-space, centering the intellectual and creative authority of black women in the form of a lecture series, a podcast, and an online learning institute lead by black women scholars, and Dream Yourself Free, a Spiritual Mentoring project focused on black women's healing, dreaming, ease, play, and wholeness as their activism and resistance work.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The difference between a ‘womanist’ and a ‘feminist’ and the four-part definition of womanism.
• The skill of dropping into your heart-space and how it differs from active listening, thinking, judging, or discerning.
• Examples of offering grace to yourself and others in moments where it may be easier to jump into reaction, and how that can offer a sense of salvation or peace with what is.
• Ideas on keeping yourself open for the divine - however you define that - to find you and transform you from the inside out amidst our modern, goal-oriented, tech-focused lifestyle.
• Ideas on how shifting the languaging for yourself from “I am healed” to “I am healing” can keep yourself open to the moment, the love, the possibilities of life on your journey.
• How de-armoring out of the ‘strong/self-sufficient woman’ and doing the work to live more in the heart is both a privilege and a constant practice.
• And more!

On this week’s podcast, Alexandra speaks with Eryn Wise!

Eryn Wise is a co-director at Seeding Sovereignty, an Indigenous-led grassroots organization working on land, body and food sovereignty issues. They are also a co-founding director of the Indigenous Impact Community Care Initiative, a mutual aid program within Seeding Sovereignty, and are a co-founding mentor to the International Indigenous Youth Council. 

Ensuring a future for generations to come is a duty and responsibility to them, and they center the traditional teachings of their predecessors in the work they do with youth and organizers they strive to build community with.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

• Ideas on defining the concept of ‘home’ in today’s digital world for yourself, and how we can begin to explore what that feels like within our being and begin to build that within our communities.
• How getting real and being honest with ourselves about our wounds and traumas and how they may be influencing how we are currently relating to the world, can be helpful and freeing in order to not get stuck in one place of our healing evolution.
• How the pandemic and the internet influenced the ways in which people’s entitlement and privileges have come to the surface in this past year, and also shielded people from having to see the consequences of those beliefs and actions.
• Some examples and ideas of ways in which certain communities, including the wellness industry, can contribute in meaningful and impactful ways to those who have been impacted the most through this pandemic.
• And much, much more…