Are you making things harder than it needs to be? This week, I explore the belief that many of us hold, especially in Asian culture and immigrant upbringings: that for something to be truly valuable, it has to be hard. We often feel we need to struggle or overcome immense challenges before we believe our success is valid or that we're worthy of it.

There's this subconscious drive to make things difficult, as if ease somehow diminishes our achievements. But what if ease in success and self-worth could be just as valid? What if things could come naturally, without the struggle, and still count JUST as much?

I also talk about how, as we reach new levels of success or productivity, we may subconsciously sabotage ourselves and create problems or drama because it feels unfamiliar to be at this new level of capacity and success.

I discuss how to zoom out to broaden your perspective, allow your nervous system to settle into more ease, and approach your current challenges with more lightheartedness and playfulness.

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00:00 Introduction
01:05 Myth of hard work and success
03:10 Recognizing unnecessary struggles
06:53 Going with the flow
10:10 The Upper Limit Problem and self-sabotage
12:22 Creating problems when things are good
18:50 Balancing gratitude and desire
20:44 Gaining perspective on your problems
26:11 Others don't care as much as you think
30:58 Bringing lightheartedness to challenges

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Today, I discuss the challenges of having difficult conversations with the people we love. It’s never easy to bring up tough topics, and often we either avoid them out of fear or rush into them without setting the right tone, which can be triggering for your partner’s nervous system.

I talk about how to approach these moments with intention and making the other person feel safe and heard. I also share practical ways to set the tone and prepare both parties for the tough conversation, and how to take responsibility of your emotions throughout the entire process.

It’s not easy, but you got this! Join me and tune in now!

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00:00 Introduction
00:47 Serious Conversations vs. Avoidance
01:34 Setting the Right Tone for Communication
02:54 The Fear of Worst-Case Scenarios
04:23 Open Communication in Relationships
04:49 Conflicts as Opportunities for Growth
05:41 Initiating Conversations in Various Relationships
06:37 Step 1: Ask for Permission Before Starting the Conversation
09:38 Step 2: Comfort Their Fears and Wounds
14:20 Step 3: Express How You Would Like to Receive Their Words
19:04 Owning Your Feelings During the Conversation
22:42 Recap

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Pushing yourself to take action will lead to self sabotage and burning out.

Instead, I’ve found that healing through your resistance has been so much more helpful every time.

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00:00 Introduction
01:28 Recognizing Resistance
02:35 Temporary Fixes Don't Work
03:37 Inner Child and Parts Work
04:27 My LinkedIn Experience
06:03 Healing My Inner Child
08:53 Impact of Pushing Yourself
11:17 Healing Resistance with Meditation Track
14:40 Understanding Your Inner Child
16:49 Move Forward as a Whole
17:13 Download the meditation track now!

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As a neurodivergent creative, it’s easy to fall into a funk when life throws you off track and your mindset isn’t where it needs to be. This week, I’m sharing practical tips to help you pull yourself out of a depressive rut and take small, simple steps to get back into your natural flow and start thriving again.

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00:00 Introduction
01:34 Dealing with Lack of Motivation
04:13 Get moving 
09:13 Let yourself be seen
14:03 Tap back into service
18:03 Get into the right environment and headspace
21:16 Bonus tip: Don't put pressure on yourself
23:55 Conclusion and Encouragement

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If you’re always putting off your most important tasks, obsessing over perfection, and holding back from fully putting yourself out there as an artist/ creative/ entrepreneur, this training is made for you.

I’ll explore the deeper reasons behind these habits, uncovering the fears and wounds that might be driving them, and share practical strategies to help you break free from these patterns.

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00:00 Introduction
02:03 Signs of perfectionism and procrastination in creative entrepreneurs
10:30 The root causes of perfectionism and procrastination
16:07 Four common fears holding creatives back
24:01 The toxic cycle of burnout, inaction, and forced productivity
26:31 Practice 1: Healing your inner child
30:20 Practice 2: Aiming for B+ work on purpose
35:13 Practice 3: Removing layers of inauthenticity
37:34 Practice 4: Building self-belief and confidence
41:19 Importance of continuous motion and embracing imperfection

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Ever feel like your parent is pushing your buttons? I get it—I used to feel exactly the same way with my mom. In this episode, I’m spilling the tea on how I turned an overbearing, stressful relationship into something healthier, loving, and unattached. We'll explore the reasons behind these behaviors, often rooted in self-protection and passed-down patterns. We’ll also talk about boundaries, your relationship with yourself, and finding peace with the people who you care about most.

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00:25 Introduction
00:51 Personal experience with difficult family relationships
08:38 Why family members behave the way they do
17:25 Importance of empathy and putting yourself in their shoes
20:03 Changing your thoughts and perspective about family members
23:47 Recognizing generational differences in mental health awareness
27:07 Addressing your own triggers and insecurities
29:29 Benefits of creating space and personal growth
31:27 Communication and setting boundaries
33:05 Accepting family members as they are
33:24 How changing your behavior can influence family dynamics

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Last week I FELT the 8/8 Lions Gate Portal. It was intense. I saw all the ways of how I’m not in the right energy and how I’m not showing up to receive the abundance that’s already in my life. Because of this I was judging myself so much about procrastinating and energetically pushing things away.

After doing some self-coaching, I realized that it’s totally possible for me to show up online and do my work in a very powerful way, regardless of how I feel. Listen in to see what shifted for me and the lessons I learned from this experience.

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00:25 Introduction
01:01 Personal reflections on abundance
05:59 Self-judgment and guilt
09:37 Feeling whatever you want
10:34 Liberation and getting back to work
14:31 Focusing on helping others
18:39 Three questions to ask before sharing content
20:53 Doing work from various emotional states
23:42 Conclusion and encouragement

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I’ve been embracing a new way of living lately - the LUSH lifestyle. One that’s filled with so much more flow, ease, abundance, and aliveness. Embracing this kind of life where you’re thriving requires you to step out of survival mode.

Inside today’s episode, I share all about what it means to let yourself step out of survival mode and how to embrace a new kind of normal in your life and business.

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00:00 Introduction
01:21 "Lush life"
03:24 Making money while enjoying the process
06:29 Living beyond survival mode
08:37 The misconception of outward success
10:37 Changing your normal and nervous system
12:45 Adjusting to Positivity
18:14 Breaking free from toxic capitalist mindset
19:37 The myth of laziness and self-worth
25:04 Taking action from a place of abundance

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How do you create content that truly lights you up? For this week’s episode, I take you behind the scenes of a live coaching session I had with one of my clients and friend, Dina Lu. Dina is a content creator & youtuber who’s feeling kind of stuck with her content creation process as she’s trying to pivot away from worshipping the algorithm Gods and into truly creating aligned content that lights her soul on fire. We also talked about how she feels behind in her journey and stressed about trying to make money.

And she really came out feeling so much more free, less stressed, and embodied into her goals & the vision she’s trying to create.

We recorded this episode while we’re pet sitting and having a girls business retreat together at a beautiful local town at Sunshine Coast at BC. We stayed at this amazing house with beautiful & expansive lighting.

So if you’d like to feel into this coastal, comfy vibe with us while I’m coaching Dina on the sofa of this amazing home, feel free to hop onto my Youtube Channel and enjoy the experience with us together.

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[Dina’s Youtube](https://www.youtube.com/@DinaLu)
[Dina’s Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/dinadlu/)

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00:25 Introduction
02:33 Content Creation Struggles
04:07  Desired Content Direction 
06:35 Audience Expectations and Fears
08:45 Dina's Authentic Content
10:39 Reflections on New Content Style Ideas
28:05 Feelings of Being Behind in Business Journey
40:15 Visualization Exercise for Future Success
46:07 Freedom in Content Creation
50:07 Money Concerns and Future Planning
56:09 Recap and Key Takeaways

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Are you afraid to be disappointed, so you dare not to believe in the first place? Honestly, this is such a crappy place to be in… when you want something to happen, but you also think you won’t have it.

And as a result, you give up even before you tired or not giving something your 100%. This is why some people are afraid to set goals. This is also why some people continue to feel insecure/not good enough and not allowing themselves to believe in something different (because what if I believe in myself and then I end up failing or getting rejected?!)

In this episode, I help you approach the fear of disappointment from a completely different perspective. Take a listen.

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00:00 Introduction
02:20 Struggle between desire and fear
02:47 Believing in self-attractiveness
04:35 Why not believing is a thought error
05:04 Unwavering self-belief
10:12 Applying self-belief
12:22 Inaction vs. Taking risks
13:50 Liberating yourself through full self-belief
17:02 Playing to win vs. playing not to lose
20:00 Summary of key points
22:09 Reignite your life 

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