By Andrea LaRosa
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Ready to spice up your texting game without crossing any lines? In this sizzling episode, we’re diving into the world of sexting languages, helping you master the art of sending sexy messages that hit just the right note. And guess what? Fan-favorite Canaan is back to share his expert insights on how to know which sexting style works best with your new match. From flirty to fiery, we’re covering it all—so you can keep things hot without ever being creepy or unwanted.
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Are you confused about where you stand with that special someone? Is it just casual dating, or are you in a real relationship? In this episode, we’re breaking down the difference between relationships and situationships so you can stop second-guessing and start protecting your heart. We dive into the signs to watch out for, how to have those crucial conversations, and ways to avoid getting stuck in a situationship that leaves you hurt and frustrated.
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Ever wonder if the stars and numbers hold the key to finding your perfect match? In this episode, we’re joined by the incredible Julia Bendis, who spills all the secrets on how to use numerology to unlock the love of your life. But that's not all—Julia dives deep into my own numerology chart, revealing all the juicy details about my love life! From uncovering hidden patterns to discovering the qualities of my ideal partner, this episode is packed with revelations you won’t want to miss.
✨ Uncover the secrets of love through numerology and see how it could change your romantic destiny! ✨
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Ready to dive into the wild world of matchmaking? Join us as we team up with the legendary Hunt Ethridge for a candid chat about the highs and lows of finding love. From the unexpected twists to the heartwarming victories, this episode is packed with laughs, lessons, and a whole lot of love wisdom. Trust us, you don't want to miss Hunt's insider tips on navigating the matchmaking maze!
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S5E11: The Status Quo: Unraveling Our Obsession With Relationship Statuses
Summary
In this episode of Date Smarter Sexier, host Andrea LaRosa explores the phenomenon of perseveration in dating and relationships. She begins by discussing the waiting game after a great first date and how it can lead to constant checking of phones and overthinking. Andrea then explains the shift from dating to a committed relationship and the uncertainty that comes with it. She delves into the reasons why people perseverate on their relationship status, including societal pressure and the comparison trap. Andrea emphasizes the importance of embracing one's current status and advocating for oneself in relationships.
Takeaways
The beginning stages of a relationship can be filled with uncertainty and overthinking.
Societal pressure and the comparison trap contribute to perseverating on relationship status.
Being comfortable with your singlehood and embracing your current status is important.
Effective communication and advocating for yourself are key in navigating relationships.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: The Waiting Game
01:12 The Shift from Dating to Relationship
07:35 Reasons for Perseverating on Relationship Status
09:18 Societal Pressure
12:35 The Comparison Trap
13:26 Inner Workings and Relationship with Self
16:24 Embracing Your Current Status
21:39 Conclusion: The Only Status that Matters
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In this conversation, Andrea and Julia explore the topic of managing expectations in dating and relationships. They start by doing a tarot card reading to gain guidance on managing expectations. They discuss the importance of being open-minded and not getting stuck in patterns that haven't worked in the past. They also touch on the pressure to look younger and fit in the dating world. They emphasize the need for depth and shared values in relationships, rather than solely focusing on physical attributes. They conclude by highlighting the impact of physical fitness on a healthy sex life. In this conversation, Julia and Andrea discuss various aspects of sexual intimacy and communication. They cover topics such as navigating first-time experiences, giving and receiving direction, exploring new experiences, and understanding individual preferences. They emphasize the importance of open-mindedness, effective communication, and managing expectations in order to create fulfilling sexual relationships. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for honest and open dialogue to enhance intimacy and pleasure.
Takeaways
Focus on one area at a time when exploring sexual intimacy.
Communication and feedback are crucial for a satisfying sexual experience.
Be open-minded and willing to explore new experiences.
Understand that individual preferences and pleasure vary.
Effective communication and managing expectations are key to creating fulfilling sexual relationships.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Tarot Card Reading
03:23 Managing Expectations in Relationships
08:07 Interpreting the Tarot Card Reading
13:14 The Role of Tarot Cards in Dating and Relationships
16:01 The Importance of Being Open-Minded
21:12 The Pressure to Look Younger and Fit
28:34 Managing Expectations and Finding Common Ground
33:09 The Importance of Depth in Relationships
35:13 The Impact of Physical Fitness on Sex Life
37:06 Covering all the bases
38:29 Navigating first-time experiences
39:51 Communication and feedback
41:46 Giving and receiving direction
42:46 Importance of communication in intimacy
43:56 Exploring new experiences
45:17 Understanding individual preferences
46:33 The mental aspect of pleasure
48:23 Managing expectations
Summary
In this conversation, Andrea discusses the concept of the high value woman and addresses the debates and pushback she has received. She explores the definition of a unicorn and questions whether the high value woman can be considered a unicorn. Andrea then outlines the seven elements that make up a high value woman, including independence, the willingness to walk away, and self-awareness. She emphasizes that high value is subjective and encourages individuals to define their own value. Andrea also discusses traits that may not align with high value and the importance of self-reflection.
Takeaways
High value is a subjective concept and can be defined differently by individuals.
The high value woman is not a unicorn, but rather someone who possesses qualities such as independence, self-awareness, and the willingness to walk away.
Low value traits include lack of self-respect, over-dependency, dishonesty, manipulation, and unwillingness to communicate or compromise.
It is important to define value for oneself and focus on personal growth and self-improvement.
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Defining the HVW
Wrote the book on it! My list are possibilities, there is no hard and fast rule
This is how I define HV but someone else can define it differently, that’s the beauty of having choice and being able to think for ourselves
If he isn’t college educated does that mean he’s not high value?
Experts in the dating world are defining HVW by their status
Defining the Unicorn
something unusual, rare, or unique.
A person who is very attractive AND has a fabulous personality
YouTube video that went viral about the what a unicorn is
Does that mean anyone else is of low value?
Define a low value, it’s subjective
Does a woman who lacks self esteem and likes to pick fights a HVW?
Lack of Self-Respect: This can manifest in many ways, like constantly putting oneself down, tolerating disrespectful behavior from others, or not standing up for one's own needs and boundaries. Gym pics or half naked selfies
Over-Dependence: While interdependence is healthy in a relationship, over-dependence, either emotionally or financially, without the effort to contribute or improve oneself, can be viewed negatively.
Dishonesty and Manipulation: Consistently being dishonest, playing mind games, or manipulating others for personal gain can definitely be seen as "low value" traits.
Lack of Ambition or Drive: Having no personal goals, ambitions, or the desire to grow can be a turn-off for many. This isn't about financial success per se, but more about having a passion and zest for life.
Unwillingness to Communicate or Compromise: Relationships are a two-way street. An inability or unwillingness to communicate effectively, listen to a partner’s needs, or compromise can hinder the growth of a healthy relationship.
Chronic Negativity: Constant pessimism, complaining, or seeing the worst in every situation can be draining and unattractive to potential partners.
Irresponsibility: This could be in terms of finances, career, personal health, or other obligations. Consistently shirking responsibilities can be a sign of immaturity and unreliability.
Hostility or Abusive Behavior: Engaging in verbal, emotional, or physical abuse is not only a "low value" trait but is entirely unacceptable in any relationship.
Lack of Empathy: Being unable or unwilling to understand or share the feelings of others can be a major red flag in relationships.
Superficiality and Materialism: Focusing solely on surface-level attributes such as looks, money, or social status, while neglecting deeper values and connections.
Who decides what to value?
The idea of High Value has spiraled
Why we label as HVW because men have been saying how they are attracted to strong independent women, which could be defined as HV
We don’t like labels
The fight around HV is about saying that if you’re not HV then you must be low value
Not every thing is black and white
Summary:
In this thrilling episode of "Date Smarter Sexier," we delve into the shadowy world of romance scams, a digital-age Cupid’s arrow gone awry. Imagine this: 70,000 heartbreaks and a staggering $1.3 billion lost in 2022 alone! We unravel the devious 'Pig Butchering' scam, where charmers turn into financial butchers, and share bone-chilling real-life tales, from a fake surgeon to an oil rig Casanova. Our experts arm you with red flags to watch for and lifesaving tips like reverse image searches and consulting a love "board of advisors." It's not just about the scams; it's about staying smart, sexy, and above all, safe in the perilous quest for love. Tune in and learn how to protect your heart and your wallet in the world of modern dating.
Chapters:
Understanding Romance Scams
Pig Butchering Scams: A Deep Dive
Spotting the Red Flags
Real Stories of Victims
Navigating Out of Scam Webs
Summary
In this episode, Andrea discusses the complexities of dating labels and the challenges they present in the early stages of a relationship. She explores the different terms used to describe the various phases of dating, such as talking, casual, hanging out, dating, exclusive, and situationship. Andrea emphasizes the importance of clear communication and defining what these labels mean to each individual. She also addresses the fear of getting hurt and the healing process that follows. Additionally, Andrea delves into the differences between exclusivity and monogamy, as well as the gray areas of situationships. She provides guidance on how to have conversations about labels and offers insights on understanding where you stand in a relationship. The key takeaway is to focus on the behavior and needs within the relationship rather than getting caught up in the labels.
Takeaways
Clear communication and defining labels are crucial in the early stages of dating.
Different terms like talking, casual, hanging out, dating, exclusive, and situationship have different meanings to different people.
The fear of getting hurt can impact the way we approach relationships.
Defining the relationship and understanding each other's pace is important.
There is a difference between exclusivity and monogamy.
Situationships can be complex and require open communication.
Having conversations about labels can be uncomfortable but necessary.
Understanding where you stand in a relationship is essential for your emotional well-being.
Pay attention to behavior and whether your needs are being met rather than focusing solely on labels.
The most important aspect of dating is to keep learning and growing.
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Dave Cooke is a seasoned business consultant and communication expert with a focus on improving listening behaviors.
With over forty years of experience in sales, relationship development, and strategic advising, Dave excels in helping organizations and leaders enhance communication and problem-solving through his Selfless Listening program. This program aids in building trust, fostering better relationships, and promoting effective teamwork and collaboration.
Additionally, Dave has successfully applied these techniques in assisting parents with children facing substance abuse challenges.
His guiding principle, "open your eyes, ears, heart, and mind," underpins his belief that effective listening can transform interactions and relationships. Dave is also an accomplished podcaster, author, speaker, and executive coach
Summary
In this episode, Andrea and David Cooke discuss the importance of listening in effective communication. They explore the difference between listening and hearing, and the impact of technology on listening skills. They also discuss the power of nonverbal cues and the importance of silence in communication. Additionally, they share insights on effective communication in relationships and navigating communication challenges. The conversation explores the importance of creating a safe space for authenticity and active listening. It provides insights on improving listening skills in a Zoom era and being an active listener without a mirror. The conversation also discusses the significance of flipping the phone over as a signal of attention and the importance of being authentic in communication.
Takeaways
Listening is a key element in effective communication and building trust.
Nonverbal cues, such as eye contact and facial expressions, play a crucial role in active listening.
Technology can be a distraction in communication, and it is important to create boundaries to stay present in conversations.
Internalizing information and demonstrating understanding are essential in effective listening.
Effective communication in relationships requires understanding and respecting each other's communication styles and setting clear expectations. Create a safe space for others to be authentic by being authentic yourself.
Practice active listening in virtual meetings by focusing on the other person's face and body language.
Improve listening skills by avoiding distractions like phones and watches.
Flipping the phone over can signal to the other person that you are giving them your full attention.
Be authentic in your communication and don't try to be someone you're not.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Importance of Listening
04:04 The Importance of Listening and Building Trust
05:11 Recognizing Active Listening
06:19 Nonverbal Cues of Active Listening
08:06 Understanding Facial Expressions
09:20 Dealing with Distractions
11:12 The Impact of Technology on Listening
13:34 The Difference Between Listening and Hearing
14:55 The Power of Internalizing Information
18:40 Balancing Body Language and Verbal Affirmations
21:28 The Importance of Silence in Communication
25:10 Effective Communication in Relationships
28:01 Understanding Differences in Communication Styles
30:42 Setting Clear Expectations in Communication
34:25 Navigating Communication Challenges in Relationships
38:03 Creating a Safe Space for Authenticity
40:20 Improving Listening Skills in a Zoom Era
41:23 Being an Active Listener without a Mirror
43:49 Flipping the Phone Over as a Signal of Attention
45:30 Being Authentic in Communication
50:12 Creating a Safe Space for Authenticity
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The podcast currently has 115 episodes available.