Dating After Divorce

At 40, I was a single mum of two, coming out of the worst relationship of my life. Five years later, I met the man who's now my husband.

What happened in between changed everything.

In this episode, I'm sharing the decisions, uncomfortable realisations and work I did that completely transformed how I approached love. Why I stopped focusing on whether a man would choose me, and started asking whether he was right for the life I wanted.

Because I didn't just find a different man. I became a different woman. And that changed the kind of relationship I was able to recognise, choose and build.

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Four years before I met my husband, I wrote down exactly what I wanted in a man and a relationship. When I finally showed him what I'd written, he asked, “Did you just write this about me?”

After hearing Kim Kardashian talk about how Lewis Hamilton ticked all 55 boxes on her manifestation list, I knew I had to share my own story.

In this episode, I'm reading from my original 2018 journal and sharing the manifestation exercise I swear by: how I wrote my vision, recorded it, and used it to connect with the feeling of the relationship I wanted.

I'll also share how it changed the way I dated, what happened when I finally met Rob, and exactly how you can try the exercise yourself.

Because if it worked for Kim K and it worked for me, why not you?

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Dating after 40, especially after divorce, is a completely different experience from dating in your 20s. So why are we still being given the same dating advice?

When you're bringing two established lives together, attraction and chemistry are only part of the picture. There are children, co-parenting arrangements, careers, homes and the practical realities of building a life with someone new.

In this episode, I share what dating in my 40s taught me about recognising genuine compatibility, why I wasn't afraid to have meaningful conversations early, and how being upfront about what you want can help you find someone who's actually right for you.

I also share the story of discovering Rob's Bumble profile, and why I knew I wanted to get to know him.

Because dating isn't about convincing a man to choose you. It's about finding out whether you're right for each other. And those are completely different things.

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Because not yet doesn't mean never.

This is an unplanned, deeply personal bonus episode of Dating After Divorce.

After an embodiment practice in a personal development course I'm doing, I found myself crying over experiences from nearly ten years ago. It brought up feelings I'd never really had the space to express, particularly around pregnancy, motherhood, a difficult relationship and the years that followed.

I'm sharing this because I think it's important to be open about the fact that I'm still doing my own work, too. Finding a loving husband and building a happy life hasn't meant I've stopped learning about myself.

I also talk about something that's been incredibly meaningful to me lately: being part of a group of women who share their experiences with honesty and vulnerability. Sometimes we don't need advice or solutions. We just need to feel heard, understood and a little less alone.

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Content note: This episode includes discussion of postnatal depression, emotionally harmful relationships and difficult experiences of pregnancy and motherhood.

At 40, I was a single mum of two, coming out of the most toxic and destructive relationship of my life. I was at absolute rock bottom, facing years of family court proceedings, and wondering how the hell I'd ended up there.

Five years later, I met Rob on Bumble. He's now my husband and the greatest love of my life.

But those five years in between changed everything.

In this episode, I'm taking you back through my story. From getting divorced at 33 and navigating dating for the first time as an adult, to ending up in a relationship that almost destroyed me, and eventually rebuilding my life, my confidence and my belief that extraordinary love was still possible.

I'm sharing what it took to forgive myself for the choices I'd made, rediscover who I really was, and start approaching love and relationships completely differently.

Because if there's one thing I want you to know, it's that your past doesn't have to determine your future.

It really is possible to go from the worst relationship of your life to the greatest love you've ever known.

But if you want a different experience of love, you have to approach finding it differently.

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Because not yet doesn't mean never.

Feeling the pressure of 'New Year, New You' dating resolutions? In this episode, we're challenging the surface-level transformation promises flooding your social media feed this January.

Discover why real dating transformation has nothing to do with vision boards or dating app makeovers - and everything to do with the quiet choices you make when no one's watching.

Learn why 'becoming' must precede dating, and how to make the micro-choices that actually lead to attracting aligned love.

Through real examples and practical guidance, uncover how to break free from the cycle of empty dating resolutions and step into true queen energy that naturally magnetizes the right relationship.

Plus, get actionable steps for making 2025 different by doing things differently. Perfect for divorced women who are tired of quick-fix dating advice and ready for genuine, lasting transformation. Includes powerful journaling prompts and a framework for making aligned choices in your dating life."

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As we step into 2025, are you looking back at your dating life in

In this powerful episode, I share why your dating 'failures' might actually be the foundation for your greatest love story yet. Through my own raw and real dating story, I reveal how a seemingly devastating dating disappointment became the catalyst that led me to meeting my forever person.

Learn about the four hidden gifts within every dating disappointment, and discover how to transform your 2024 experiences into powerful preparation for extraordinary love. If you're ready to shift from feeling defeated to feeling empowered about your love life, this episode is your guide to starting 2025 with renewed hope and clarity.

Plus, get a practical journaling exercise to help you extract the wisdom from your past experiences and step into your Queen

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Feeling the pressure to couple up this holiday season? In this episode we’re diving deep into why the holiday season often triggers us to lower our standards or rush into relationships we're not truly aligned with. Whether you're feeling the weight of another Christmas single or battling the urge to text your ex, this episode offers practical strategies for you to maintain your

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Dreading another holiday season without your person? In this raw and real episode, I share my journey through 8 years of single Christmases before meeting my fiancé, and the perspective I wish I'd had sooner. You'll learn why those 'lonely' holidays were actually preparing me for the extraordinary love I have now, how to shift from surviving to savouring this season, and practical strategies to maintain your queen energy when it feels like everyone else is coupled up. Whether you're navigating family gatherings solo or facing another New Year single, this episode will help you reframe your current chapter and find unexpected magic in this season of your life.

Perfect for divorced women who:

- Are feeling the weight of another holiday season alone

- Find themselves comparing their journey to others

- Want to enjoy this time of year but struggle with loneliness

- Need strategies to maintain their worth during triggering situations

- Are ready to shift from surviving to thriving this holiday season

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In this empowering episode, I take you on a journey from survival mode to soul-aligned joy after divorce. Through my

You'll discover:

- Why "identity fusion" after marriage makes it hard to know who you are anymore

- Three powerful exercises to uncover your authentic interests and passions

- How to date yourself and find joy, even with limited time and resources

- The secret to turning your Friday nights alone into opportunities for self-discovery

- Why rediscovering joy is crucial before entering the dating scene again

Whether you're a busy single mum with barely a moment to yourself or someone with an empty house that feels too

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