Most of my conversations and meetings, lately, have been in Arizona - one from Bumble, one from Tinder and one from Hinge as I was in Arizona for 3 weeks visiting grandkids. I have recenty entered into two conversations from Bumble in the Seattle area. (Surprise, Surprise!) Sadly each of them (Artizona and Seattle)  are still grieving the loss of a partner within the past 6 months to 1 1/2 years, which I do not understand why the universe is putting these people in my path to meeting someone that has the mental and emotional capacity to be fully open to a parter - such a mystery to me. 

I have been watching a new series on Hulu on Romance scams - Hey Beautiful: Anatomy of a Romance Scam.  As I am watching this series it reminds me of teh Tinder Swindler. 

What perplexes me is that people are afraid to meet in person, over a quick cofee or drink at a public place but there are enough people in the world that are willing to "fall" for someone online and never meeting that person or havinga  video chat with that person and then agree to send that person money - Seriously? Yes I have had people ask me to send them gas money to meet (they always start off with a small amount to send them), have aksed me to sign onto other sites, or other APPS like WhatsApp and I never do, once they ask I immediatley block abnd repoort them and YOU should do the same.

Here is more information on this scam and where youy can report this to the authorites:

Romance scams involve criminals creating fake online identities to gain victims' trust and affection, ultimately manipulating them into sending money, cryptocurrency, or personal information. These scammers often operate on dating apps and social media, creating "too good to be true" scenarios and avoiding in-person meetings. [1, 2, 3, 4]

Common Red Flags & Tactics

• Rapid Affection: Scammers profess love quickly, aiming to establish a deep emotional connection early.
• The "Never Meet" Promise: They create elaborate excuses (e.g., working on oil rigs, military, doctor, international projects) to avoid meeting in person.
• Requests for Funds: Common excuses for needing money include, medical emergencies, hospital bills, travel expenses, or investment opportunities, particularly in cryptocurrency.

Using Fake Photos/AI: Scammers may use AI-generated images or stolen photos to build their profile.

Steps to Take If Targeted

Stop All Contact: Cease communication immediately.

1. Report the Scam: File a complaint with the FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) and the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.
2. Notify Platforms: Report the profile to the social media site or dating app used.
3. Contact Financial Institutions: Alert your bank to secure accounts and try to stop transactions.
4. Use Reverse Image Search: Search profile pictures to see if they belong to someone else. 

Yikes, the stuff I am running into now is enough for me to go back into hiding!!!

I have been approaced on Match from Transwomen, married women and marrired traveling men to meet and date and YET my profile specifically is "man looking for women" for "intentional dating" for a LTR.  Oh, and the women that are still very angry about their divorces. Run Forest Run!!

Things appear to have gotten worse with trying to chat and meet someone these days and when you are lucky enough to meet them the challenges are comical, in so many ways - are they married? still live at home? have kids at home? ...and more. Yes, I will continue to do what I can to meet people until I find that "special" person. 

Happy New Year and Post Valentines Day Yes, it has been a long time since I posted, mostly because I have been busy with work and personal commitments and projects but recently, I have decided to "lean" back into the "dating pool". Like many of us, I don't NEED someone, but it would be nice to have a companion/partner. Reluctantly I subscribed to Match.com again and registered on Tinder, Bumble and Hinge - what the hell am I doing...ha ha! I have not had any success in any of these in the past so I thought I would try one last time. (wish me luck) I am also going to get out more and see if I can meet someone in the "wild" by playing golf, pickleball, day hikes, sporting events and more. 

Here is a link from TicTok regarding the "Tarantula Woman" -

 https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZThHd1yK8/

I have never heard the term before but as I look back on my last "relationship" this is exactly the woman I was seeing and I was too blind to her behavior until now, and now I see who she was and am glad that I ended that "relationship" a few years ago as it was very draining in many ways. I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on this as I am certain that there are men like this too!  

Have a great Memorial weekend! 

Not too much to share in my personal dating life but am trying to reach out to people again as well as attend more social gatherings. 

Yes, it has been awhile since I have posted my "journey", or lack of a "journey" for the past several months.  Pleasse continue to laugh with me, not at me! 

Just a little update as to why I ahve been absent from my Podcast, not much really to share about my dating life as I put it on hold somewhat

Hope you had a great long holiday weekend here in the US. Todays podcast talks about being honest, transparent, and respect pertianing to ALL relationship dynamics.