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  • How We Approached Dating Before and After We Learned About “Game” (Flashback 1 Year Ago) (PG Podcast 11)









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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 11: "How We Approached Dating Before and After We Learned About 'Game' (Flashback 1 Year Ago)"





    For those of you who don’t know we had pre-recorded A LOT of podcasts before launching in July 2015.

    I (Jeff) had stupidly dropped an external hard drive with nearly 10 podcast recorded. We lost all that data.

    It is currently going to cost thousands to retrieve them. But I managed to recover a few from the memory cards we originally recorded on.

    A few are usable. This podcast is the 2nd podcast we ever recorded. Which is about a year ago (October 2014).

    It was Rodrigo, Panda, and I on this 2nd podcast.

    The quality isn’t as good as the new podcasts. Of course.

    But I think the episode shows our enthusiasm for being new to the “Game”.

    We dive into what shaped our perceptions and influences that greatly affected our dating lives, and how we viewed relationships.

    And it shows how we changed and our realizations and motivations at the time.

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * What we were like a year ago
    * How Rodrigo, Panda, and Jeff approached dating before game
    * Jeff’s role models in game,
    * “Just because a girl gives good head, doesn’t mean you have to marry her.” Rodrigo’s dad
    * “All girls in high school get fat.” – Rodrigo
    * “We leave a trail of fat girls.” – Rodrigo
    * No dating till marriage or serious about them
    * Rodrigo was the opposite and wanted to hook up with random girls
    * Two toes stuck together is a deal breaker
    * Jeff wouldn’t have sex with a girl who wanted to have sex with him on a pool table.
    * Rodrigo’s school had ugly girls with weird attiitudes
    * Panda’s first relationship was on okcupid
    * And much more…

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    LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    * Audible.com – Pompous Gentlemen’s Free Gift

    You Are A Badass, Action-Taker! Thanks For Listening!

    You are now a Pompous Gentlemen. Thank you so much for listening and more importantly, good job on taking steps to improve your dating life.

    And becoming the attractive man you were destined to be.

    Please share this episode if you enjoyed it or want to say thanks. Use the social media buttons at the side or bottom of the page.

    Also, please leave an review for the Pompous Gentlemen Podcast on iTunes! Ratings and reviews help us out greatly! We’d love you forever for a 5 star review. We read each and every one of them.

    Any questions, comments or feedback,
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  • Overcoming Approach Anxiety and Fear of Rejection (PG Podcast 10)









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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 10: "Overcoming Approach Anxiety and Fear of Rejection"





    This is our episode 10. We'll give you our personal tools for overcoming approach anxiety and your fear of rejection.

    You'll hear stories of our first approaches and how we still deal with approach anxiety today. Most of us at least (Panda doesn't have approach anxiety).

    There's A LOT of laughing.

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * What is approach anxiety? (from Psychology Today)
    * Our 1st stories of dealing with approach anxiety.
    * Does approach anxiety ever go away?
    * Our different perspectives on approach anxiety.
    * All the techniques we use to overcome approach anxiety.
    * Plus, A LOT of random, uncut humor and value...

    Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer.

    LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    * How to Deal with Approach Anxiety
    * Free Email Course: "How to Approach Girls Anywhere (includes Ultimate Guide for Dealing with Approach Anxiety)"
    * Pompous Gentlemen Twitter
    * Pompous Gentlemen Facebook
    * Pompous Gentlemen Youtube

    You Are A Badass, Action-Taker! Thanks For Listening!

    You are now a Pompous Gentlemen. Thank you so much for listening and more importantly, good job on taking steps to improve your dating life.

    And becoming the attractive man you were destined to be.

    Please share this episode if you enjoyed it or want to say thanks. Use the social media buttons at the side or bottom of the page.

    Also, please leave an review for the Pompous Gentlemen Podcast on iTunes! Ratings and reviews help us out greatly! We’d love you forever for a 5 star review. We read each and every one of them.

    Any questions, comments or feedback, please e-mail me at [email protected].

    If you haven’t yet, don’t forget to subscribe to the show on iTunes to easy updates.
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  • Online Dating Tips for Men Part 2 (Success & Horror Stories) (PG Podcast 08)









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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 8: "Online Dating Tips for Men Part 2 (Success & Horror Stories)"





    This is our episode 8 where we go over more of Anthony's advice for online dating plus Panda, Rodrigo and Anthony's online dating stories (good and bad).

    * Anthony’s forced-closed approach to ask for the date
    * False-options method
    * Anthony’s overview and structure for killing it on online dating
    * Anthony critique’s Panda’s profile
    * Panda’s opener that made ALL of us laugh
    * Panda’s gives good tips on casual dressing
    * “It’s the confidence you have in your dress” – Jeff
    * How Panda walks with confidence
    * Rodrigo’s creeped out experience on Badoo
    * “If want to see me, you’re going to have to get on the train” – Rodrigo
    * “I turn on my car, just in case I have to book it.” – Rodrigo
    * How Rodrigo transitions to the back seat
    * “Protection or No Protection?” – Panda
    * Rodrigo’s opener
    * Anthony’s horrifying images
    * Profile red flags for catfishes
    * Older women nuances
    * Kids, gather around to learn about a puta
    * “Did you tell her you were a virgin?” – Tommy
    * “I can’t kiss you right now because I have strep throat” – Anthony
    * How Panda’s messages to differentiate himself from other guys
    * “Let’s play 10 fingers.” – Online Girl
    * How to cater your pictures to attract the girls you want

     

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    LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    * Dance Floor Attraction
    * FREE Gift: How to Approach Women Anywhere Email Course

    You Are A Badass, Action-Taker! Thanks For Listening!

    You are now a Pompous Gentlemen. Thank you so much for listening and more importantly, good job on taking steps to improve your dating life.

    And becoming the attractive man you were destined to be.

    Please share this episode if you enjoyed it or want to say thanks. Use the social media buttons at the side or bottom of the page.

    Also, please leave an review for the Pompous Gentlemen Podcast on iTunes! Ratings and reviews help us out greatly! We’d love you forever for a 5 star review. We read each and every one of them.

    Any questions, comments or feedback, please e-mail me at [email protected].

    If you haven’t yet, don’t forget to subscribe to the show on iTunes to easy updates. And because you a person devoted to improving yourself!
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  • Online Dating Tips for Men Part 1 (Online Profile Basics) (PG Podcast 07)









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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 7: Online Dating Tips for Men - Part 1 (Online Profile Basics)





    This is our episode 7 where we go over the basics of online dating. You’ll hear about our lack of results and what has not been working for us (except for Panda). Because this isn’t our specialty, we brought in our friend Anthony who has been seeing massive results with online dating. He’s has professional mentor, and he shares his insights and experiences to help you get started.

     

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * You listen to what we are NOT experiencing from online dating
    * Tommy talks about his lack of results on Match.com, E-Harmony, and Plenty of Fish.
    * The reason why Tommy was willing to pay for online dating
    * “Society’s leftovers” – Panda
    * “Online dating is a reflection of your career” – Anthony
    * What online e-stats are
    * “Solo dolo” – Tommy
    * An analysis and break down of Tommy’s online profile picture
    * Anthony describes his picture that has gotten him a lot of matches
    * Anthony shares his catfish-profile experiment results
    * Why Tommy’s and most guys profiles are boring
    * How to make an interesting profile that attracts women
    * How many relationships Panda has had through online dating
    * “The base thing is: be desirable… You got to speak on something that makes you feel good about yourself. Number one thing in dating is improving yourself.” – Anthony
    * “And you put yourself in a position to where you’re comfortable being uncomfortable, that’s confidence.” – Anthony
    * Anthony breaks down his Plenty of Fish profile
    * How to use details to stimulate their imagination
    * “I can see all the girls I’m flirting with at the moment, leave me and go to you.” – Panda
    * How to filter in the girls you want
    * What is the number thing girls need to have sex with you
    * What is a CTA (call to action), and how to use it in online dating
    * Detailed breakdown of Anthony’s pictures
    * How to have balanced goals and strive to be a better man
    * “The least you can do it brush your teeth.” – Panda
    * How to have good textual conversation
    * When to ask for the number during online dating
    * Tommy’s bar seasoned veteran requirements
    * How to message girls with barely anything to work with in their profiles
    * How to continue the interaction after getting the number
    * Panda’s favorite thing to do after getting the phone number so the girl will remember him better during night game.
    * Ted talk on memories
    * Macy’s perspective on getting the phone number
    * Who gets kicked out of clubs more?
    * The difference between getting a phone number in person vs. online dating.
    * Panda’s slow play to get the number

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    1 hr 3 min
  • Crazy One-Night Stands Part 2 (PG Podcast 06)









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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 6: "One Night-Stands Part 2"






    In our episode 6, we continue the craziness with our HUGE group of our friends and delve deeper into topics about times we have caught feelings or have been hurt when physical relationships start changing into something more.

    We go one-night stands. This is our advice for having them and creating an awesome shared experience between you and the girl.

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * Our next character is seen in his natural habitat, the hybrid bar and club.
    * Tommy’s mentality when he’s the 5th wheel, being the life of the party.
    * The signs Tommy saw before he approached this girl.
    * How Tommy opened with a hip-check and took her to the dance floor.
    * Learn how to dance. Tommy shows another example of why you need to learn how to dance with women.
    * Tommy talks briefly on building non-verbal rapport throughout the night at the bar.
    * We don’t know why, but we love the RBF (resting bitch face).
    * How to lightly lead her.
    * Using loud bars to your advantage because you can whisper in her ear. Tommy shows you the signs when you can nibble on her ear.
    * “When I dip, you dip, I dip…” – Urbano
    * Tommy breaks down how he knew she want it.
    * What does the alphabet have to do with what she wanted?
    * Tommy’s dick has amazing stage presence.
    * 100%...
    * After 4 months later, the surprise she gave him.
    * Tommy’s curse of meeting girls with…
    * Being a booty call, Tommy elaborates on being legitimately used and hurt.
    * Tommy spills on catching feelings and feeling dumped.
    * There are both sides of wanting more or feeling used. It doesn’t just happen to women, but men as well.
    * Clayton reveals a story of developing feelings for a girl who was in love with his sister.
    * She treated him like a piece of meat, “We’re not gonna cuddle?”
    * We riff on understanding when it’s just physical and how to try to not have it lead to feelings.
    * Ruff Riders Anthem break.
    * Urbano’s shares a story of how he was hooking up with a married woman.
    * The hurtful text messages that destroyed Urbano’s feeling. He felt dumped.
    * Even watching the anime Transformer’s movie, made Urbano sad.
    * “You’re Grampa asking, ‘Did you smash?’” – Urbano
    * Justin’s Vegas favorite venue for pulling: Vegas Pool Parties > Vegas Nightclubs.
    * Justin and Tommy riff about that it takes two.
    * Panda asks the group if the girls look different from the 1st time you hookup to the follow-up visits.
    * Tommy’s photographical touching memory for grabbing below too much below the boob area. What Rodrigo would call, “Fat.”
    * Everyone makes fun of Tommy’s reverse beer googles.
    * “You’re my wife tonight. Tonight only. That’s what a one-night stand is.” – Justin
    * Urbano learns what “whiskey dick” is.
    * How do you manage catching feelings?
    * Justin speaks on girls who cross a point. Girls who get too attached with no respect for themsel...
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  • Crazy One-Night Stands Part 1 (PG Podcast 05)











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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 5: "What Are Your Craziest One-Night Stands? - Part 1"





     

    In our episode 5, we invited out a group of our friends to share their craziest one-night stand stories: there's interestingly twists that make each story fun and edgy: from 10-minute public sex to "I don't even know her name" to the typical "whatever happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas stories."

    This is our advice for having them and creating an awesome shared experience between you and the girl.

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * Rodrigo batting 1000 in San Diego.
    * Generic tattoo opener.
    * On the lonely San Diego streets, Rodrigo strolls along a parking lot and find himself alone with a girl and a dumpster.
    * What is luxury dumpster?
    * Rodrigo’s move for getting head.
    * Charlotte’s Web
    * Dumpster smash
    * “San Diego stay classy” – Tommy
    * Justin “The Specialist” Monroe shares a story that nobody has heard before
    * Once a upon a time in a frat party in the near past, Justin was winging with his younger brother and how he opens and uses dance to escalate.
    * How Justin’s go-to move for “testing the waters.”
    * Her shocking reaction to Justin grabbing her butt.
    * Why Justin didn’t have to “stiff arm” the friend, while on the way to his car.
    * Reminder, do not drink and drive. Serious note, please do not drink and drive. This line is not a joke. Please, do not drink and drive.
    * Moral of Justin’s story…
    * Las Vegas, a city of debauchery and loose inhibitions, is the perfect scene for Clayton’s escapades.
    * “If I wasn’t getting married, I’d be all over you…” – Bachelorette
    * Clayton texted, “Steve Aoki puts on a really good show.” Bachelorette replied, “Well… I can put on a really good show.”
    * Brief intro into Clayton’s style of sexting.
    * How Clayton pitched a future threesome.
    * Why Clayton cut her off.
    * How Rodrigo and Clayton are different.
    * We can learn from Clayton’s toilet paper use to become sweeter, nicer guys.
    * Our ratchet, default lounge, is the backdrop for Panda’s craziness.
    * “This might or might not be a challenge…” – Panda
    * What Panda tried and fail at…
    * Panda believes in shot equality.
    * The reason why she grabbed Panda’s face and made out with him.
    * Listen to the subtleties in Panda’s story, how he leads her are smooth ways to move the interaction forward.
    * “What?!? I just wanted to get McDonalds.” – Panda
    * In the corner of Panda’s eye, he sees shrubbery.
    * How a McDonald’s drive-thru broke the unlucky condom curse.

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  • How to Approach, Open, & Start Conversation with Girls (PG Podcast 04)











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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 4: "How Do I Approach, Open & Start Conversation?"





    This is our episode 4 where we go over how to approach, open and start conversation with girls.

    We cover the 3 general types of openers we were taught when we 1st started: direct, indirect, situational. Plus, we talk about non-verbal openers, and miscellaneous openers.

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * What is the difference between direct, indirect and situational openers/conversation starters.
    * Our personal recommendation of which opener taught us the most.
    * The drawbacks to using indirect and situation.
    * Example of indirect openers we’ve used.
    * How to pull off a specific type of indirect openers – the dreaded opinion opener that was made popular by the Neil’s Strauss’ book, The Game.
    * Why you need to stop using google to help your ability to open.
    * Mixing different openers together to get a better reaction.
    * Funny, flirty, dumb, banter openers.
    * Better openers for the daytime.
    * Openers that work from Simple Pickup.
    * How to use compliments as openers.
    * How to use forgetting what you were going to say to as an opener.
    * Panda’s corny, lame, and cheesy lines for opening.
    * How to make girl’s day through opening.
    * Good mindsets for going into the approach.
    * What our female friends say about us approaching.
    * The Elite Daily post article on “Why Women Need to Start Asking Men Out...Because Men Have No Balls”
    * A very, very brief overview of masculine and feminine polarity from the book, “Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida.
    * Dumb, funny opener that worked for us.
    * How to screen for girls that have your humor.
    * The obvious or lazy opener.
    * Using role-playing as an opener and using that as a basis for your initial conversation.
    * Using our openers as a stepping stone for finding your own humor.
    * Approaching tall girls as a short guy.
    * Basic structure of conversation to follow, but understand that it’s more of a cycle then a linear timeline.
    * Long-distance flirting and high-compliance non -verbal openers.
    * Mindsets when walking into a venue.
    * How we use dance to have fun at night.
    * Using dumb dances like those on hitch to have a good time.
    * Having a high-school-musical mentality.
    * Our default openers and why you should have one.
    * The content of what you say don’t matter so say whatever you want because it’s your sub communication that dictates more than what you actually say.

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    LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    * Dance Floor Attraction
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  • How to Flirt with Girls (PG Podcast 03)











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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 3: "How to Flirt with Girls"





    Podcast 3 – How to Flirt with Girls

    This is our episode 3 where we go over a dating basic and necessity: how to flirt with girls.

    We define flirting and bantering, and why you should care.

    And our own advice on how to flirt and banter.

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * Flirting is about being playful. Trying to get the girl to smile and laugh. It’s about making her feel good.
    *  “…the little jabs… before you actually… penetrate”
    * Our own individual definitions for flirting.
    * The girls (Macy and Shirley’s) perspective on flirting.
    * Why you need to learn to evoke emotions while flirting.
    * Good rule of thumb is to bring it back to elementary school. Bring it back to the good, playful vibes from the playground.
    * How to playful push a girl towards a trash can, but not literally into a trash can.
    * Another rule of thumb is if you’re doing the same actions with your male friends then it would feel gay.
    * The mindset of treating girls like your little sister.
    * What Rodrigo’s overall vibe is…
    * A general overview of how to be playful when physically flirting.
    * Rodrigo’s “I got your chin…”
    * Tommy’s different ways to physically flirt.
    * How not friend zoned, but get man zoned.
    * Different ways girls indicate they are flirting.
    * Shirley’s fetish…
    * Using eye contact to flirt.
    * When Rodrigo messed up with a sailor girl.
    * How to know when to touch the girl.

    Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer.

    LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    * Dance Floor Attraction
    * Adam Lyons 21 Convention (3 types of eye contact)
    * Adam Lyons Website

    You Are A Badass, Action-Taker! Thanks For Listening!

    You are now a Pompous Gentlemen. Thank you so much for listening and more importantly, good job on taking steps to improve your dating life.

    And becoming the attractive man you were destined to be.

    Please share this episode if you enjoyed it or want to say thanks. Use the social media buttons at the side or bottom of the page.

    Also, please leave an review for the Pompous Gentlemen Podcast on iTunes! Ratings and reviews help us out greatly! We’d love you forever for a 5 star review. We read each and every one of them.

    Any questions, comments or feedback,
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  • Does She Like Me? Signs of Attraction – Part 2 (PG Podcast 02)











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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 2: "Does She Like Me? Signs of Attraction - Part 2"





    This is our episode 2, which is our the last part of our 2-part series of Does She Like Me? Signs of Attraction.

    If you haven't heard the 1st part, listen to it here.

    We provide you with A LOT more information so you can answer that burning question.

    "Does she like me?"

    We discuss the numerous ways we've learned to recognize female attraction.

    These signs are displayed through her actions, words and body language.

    This is a massive collection of our knowledge on the topic combined with our own personal insights.

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * Tommy's advice on women's body language and other physical signs of attraction.
    * Compliments and sweet talking
    * Aggressive physical cues.
    * "Easing into you..."
    * Fast-food dating.
    * Rei's hey-how's-it-going story and being recorded for the 1st first time and being in his head.
    * Tommy shares A LOT of different tips for night game and dancing.
    * How to read the attraction signs of body language in context and frequency.
    * Tommy shares one of his favorite ways to recognize when to kiss a girl.
    * How Rei was a "dumbass" in an elevator.
    * Former CIA employee and massage therapist's tip for reading language.
    * Massive list of reading her body language based on the books and advice we've read.
    * When "she was the hots for you"...
    * Jeff and Panda's story on body language mirroring.
    * Panda's tip for gauging interest on a 1st date.
    * Our extremely useful mindset to have when talking to girls.
    * The one tip that we all agree on that you'll know when it's completely on.

    End of Part 2

    Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer.

    LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    * Dance Floor Attraction

    You Are A Badass, Action-Taker! Thanks For Listening!

    You are now a Pompous Gentlemen. Thank you so much for listening and more importantly, good job on taking steps to improve your dating life.

    And becoming the attractive man you were destined to be.

    Please share this episode if you enjoyed it or just want to say thanks. Use the social media buttons at the side or bottom of the page.

    Also, please leave a review for the Pompous Gentlemen Podcast on iTunes! Ratings and reviews help us out greatly! We’d love you forever for a 5 star review. We read each and every one of them.
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  • Does She Like Me? Signs of Attraction – Part 1 (PG Podcast 01)











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    Pompous Gentlemen Podcast, Episode 1: "Does She Like Me? Signs of Attraction - Part 1"





    This is our episode 1 where we go in-depth of how to tell if she likes you: signs of attraction.

    So you can answer that burning question.

    "Does she like me?"

    We discuss the numerous ways we've learned to recognize female attraction.

    These signs are displayed through her actions, words and body language.

    This is a massive collection of our knowledge on the topic combined with our own personal insights.

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    * Massive list of how to tell if a girl is interested or attracted to you.

    * In dating community: Approach Invitations
    * In Pickup community: I.O.I. (indicators of interest)


    * General Rules of Thumb

    * The more feminine energy you can bring out of her, the more that she likes you.

    * From Scot Mckay of The Chick Whisper Podcast.


    * If she's still talking to you and she hasn't ran away, then don't leave. You have her interested enough to keep her attention, which is a good sign.


    * Different types of eye contact. The three eye contacts by Rodrigo.
    * Approaching group scenarios and who to talk to 1st the fat friend or the hot friend.

    * Describing the "gate keeper"


    * Breaking down length of eye contact and type 1, type 2 and type 3 glances.

    * From Adam Lyon's 21 Convention talk.

    * We go over other signs of attraction Adam talks about in this talk.




    * Pompous Gentlemen 5-second rule.
    * Why girls follow you and seem to always be in your proximity.
    * What does an accidental bump mean?
    * Examples of how to use what assumes you to flirt or banter with you.
    * Other big, obvious verbal signs that she is attracted to you.
    * What to do when girls that haven't talked to you in forever message you.

    * Art of Charm Episode with Neil Strauss here.


    * The date counter-offer.
    * "Don't worry, there's so many hamsters in their cages"
    * Physical signs of attraction.
    * One of our tips for getting a quick make out with a stranger.
    * Tips for holding a girl's hand

    End of Part 1

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    LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    * Dance Floor Attraction
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    39 min

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