Dear Daughters

How do I sort through all the hard things that have accumulated in my life the past few years?

Thanks for joining me in this mini-mester on the Dear Daughters Podcast these past few weeks as I tackle your deepest questions and biggest tangles. Let's wrap up our time with one more question I get all the time.

This week's question is: How do I sort through all the hard things that have accumulated the past few years? How do I understand the why behind all the suffering?

You need soul alignment to help you sort through all the really big, hard questions in your life.

There are three questions I want to address to help you find soul alignment:

1. How should I think about suffering?
2. How should I feel about suffering?
3. What should I do about suffering?

I pray that your heart and mind align with God's purpose in your story. I pray that you allow yourself to feel the heaviness of suffering and allow the grief to bring us through to the other side of suffering … and that it softens your heart and leads you to help others.

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Why can't I find or make time for myself?

That's a question I get from women quite a lot. So let's talk about it and see if you can wonder a bit on the why beneath it.

It's the last week of this mini-mester on the Dear Daughters Podcast. I'm so grateful you're here, friend. Let's keep tackling your deepest questions and biggest tangles.

Three ways to make time for you starts with soul goals. You need prioritize the inside health of who you are (those soul-ish parts of you) … your heart, mind, will, and personality. Time to play, to be quiet and to experience joy. Can you think of a time that we need more soul care than right now?

It's all about the little things that bring rest and delight into your life and create a cozy place for people to be invited into.

Soul Goal #1: Schedule you into your calendar.

Excuse: I'm too busy. You make time in your daily schedule to brush your teeth, to eat, to work and take care of your family … you prioritize a lot of things but what about your soul? You don't think you're worth it so you put you at the bottom of your list. But you are worth it. Bump yourself up to the top of your list.

Soul Goal #2: Create something irresistible in your schedule that helps you rest.

Excuse: I don't know what to do to get rest. What did you like to do as a child? What's a hobby you wish you had more time to do? Slow down and get to know you. Find what is restful and enjoyable for you.

Soul Goal #3: Be more like Jesus.

Excuse: It's selfish to take time for myself. Here's the thing. Jesus took time away. Jesus knew what his assignment was and he wanted to walk it out wholeheartedly. God isn't asking us to hold everything and everyone together. That's his job. He wants us to live out our assignments wholeheartedly and that requires us to take care of the body and soul he gave us.

I hope that you realize it's not selfish to take care of yourself. I hope that you discover the things that give you rest and make time in your schedule for them. And I pray that you become more like Jesus, walking out your assignments wholeheartedly.

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Do you get a little prick in your heart when you think about someone you have unresolved conflict with?

I'm so grateful you're here, friend. Let's keep tackling your deepest questions and biggest tangles in this mini-mester on the Dear Daughters Podcast.

This week's question is: What do I do when I have unresolved conflict in my relationships?

You need soul space. You need space to sort things out so you can walk in wisdom in the midst of unresolved conflict.

When you have unresolved conflict, you need to start with two things.

1. You need a listener … a mentor, pastor, spiritual director, therapist, depending on the longevity and severity of the conflict … to help us gain wisdom and perspective.
2. You need an appointment with them to make space for yourself to catch up with all the pain.

Sometimes we need to address conflict head on … sometimes we need to address it gently … and sometimes we don't need to address it with the other person at all. But to know how to address the conflict we need to be walking in wisdom. We need to see things the way God sees them and be open to the Holy Spirit's prompting in our lives.

I hope that you seek out a listener and the soul space you need to handle unresolved conflict. And I pray that you make space for the quiet work of God's wisdom in your life.

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Welcome back to week two of this mini-mester on the Dear Daughters Podcast! Let's keep tackling your deepest questions and biggest tangles.

This week's question is: What do I do when the world so confusing?

You need soul perspective. The kind that brings peace and rest and joy again.

There are two "worlds" you live in:

1) The Big Wide World … in your neighborhood, city, state, across the country, and across the globe. You don't have much control over this world. And you have to remember that you are getting glimpses of this world through other peoples' perspectives.

2) Your Small World … your personal world, your relationships, your choices, etc. You have more influence here but it is not meant for you to manage on your own.

O LORD, my eyes are not haughty; I do not concern myself with great matters or things too wonderful for me. But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother, like a weaned child is my soul within me. Psalm 131:1

Confusion and chaos in your world creates all kinds of fear and anxiety. I hope you know that you are not meant to live like that and you don't have to live like that. I pray that you take everything to God. Don't miss the wonder of today worrying about tomorrow.

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Have you been feeling extra stressed out and exhausted lately?

Welcome back to the 2022 mini-mester on the Dear Daughters Podcast. I'm tackling your deepest questions and biggest tangles every Monday and Wednesday for the next couple weeks.

This week's question is: Why am I so stressed out and exhausted?

The answer is simple: You need REST.

God modeled rested in the very beginning of creation on the seventh day. When Jesus was exhausted, he went away. We were created to need rest, body and soul. You need a Sabbath. You need a God date. A day to enjoy and delight in the little things that refresh your body and soul.

You can take a break from everything in your life because God is in control. All those things are part of the beautiful process started by God … and he will complete that process, too.

So I hope you feel encouraged and hopeful about your one beautiful life. And if right now, you don't feel like your life is very beautiful … I want you to remember that you're still in the middle of your story.

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Have you ever wondered what you're supposed to do with you life?

This next couple weeks on the Dear Daughters Podcast, I'm taking these kinds of questions head-on in a mini-mester kind of way. That's what I'm talking about on the podcast this month to celebrate 2022. Join me here Monday and Wednesday for the next couple weeks as I dive in with your biggest questions, your deepest tangles.

The number one question I get from women is: What am I supposed to do with my life?

I love when women ask that question because it shows me their heart. It means that they are earnestly wanting to know the right thing to do—the thing that will please God. It means they are asking: What is my soul purpose?

Here are the three truths you need to know … and what I'm talking about on the podcast today.

1. You were made by God.
2. You were made for God.
3. You were made to love God.

I pray that you know those three truths and filter everything in your life through them … because that's where your soul purpose is found.

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After the last two episodes about holiday blunders and setting healthy boundaries during the holidays, this week we're talking all about Christmas!

I'm sharing a few important reminders for the Christmas season, like to keep Christmas simple and to not miss the wonderful gift of Jesus. And I share three secrets to the season.

I'm also answering some questions like, Christmas Day or Christmas Eve? and matching pajamas or ugly Christmas sweater?

So thanks for listening in! I hope that you experience the joy and wonder and peace that Jesus brings.

• Listen to Episode 162: Setting Healthy Boundaries During the Holidays.
• Listen to Episode 163: Learning from Holiday Blunders.
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Holidays are just a little bit happier with pie, don't you think?

In last week's episode we talked about holiday blunders. The week before we talked about setting healthy boundaries during the holidays. This week we're talking about all things pie! Maybe you're a pie expert or maybe you're like Tori and you're making a pie for the very first time. Either way, this episode is for you! I'm sharing tips and answering questions you asked. Here are just four of the things I want you to know—and there's plenty more, so listen in…

1. Try a custard pie first (like pumpkin or buttermilk)—they're the easiest kind of pie.
2. The pie crust might just be the most important part of the pie.
3. Use a glass pie dish (go thrifting or estate sale shopping to find one).
4. If it looks a little messy, that screams homemade pie.

I'm praying that your holidays are filled with joy and wonder and peace—and pie! And I hope you are surrounded by friends and family who will share that pie with you.

• Listen to Episode 162: Setting Healthy Boundaries During the Holidays.
• Listen to Episode 163: Learning from Holiday Blunders.
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• Make the No-Roll Pie Crust.
• Try the All-American Girl's Buttermilk Pie.
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• Listen to DD Podcast Episode 116 with Whitney Runyon, co-founder of the Archibald Project.
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You want to be your best but sometimes the holidays can mess with your best intentions.

In last week's episode we talked about setting healthy boundaries during the holidays. This week, I'm here to talk about all the things we tend to do that can make the holidays more difficult (I'm calling them "holiday blunders")—and how to experience the holidays in a healthier (and more enjoyable) way. Here are some of the blunders. Can you identify with any of these?

1. Forcing old family expectations.
2. Missing the point of gift-giving.
3. Trying to be someone you're not.
4. Taking on more than you can handle—and not asking for help.
5. Not discussing expectations.
6. Ignoring grief that is triggered by the holidays.
7. Giving the holidays more significance than any other days of the year.

I hope this helps you experience the holidays in a new way. I pray that we are able to set healthy expectations and keep the holidays simple so we can fully enjoy this beautiful season. And I continue to pray that your holidays are filled with joy and wonder and peace.

• Listen to Episode 162: Setting Healthy Boundaries During the Holidays.
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Ready or not we're headed into the holiday season once more! I hope the next couple episodes of the podcast help you to have the most beautiful holidays.

The holiday season is joyful and wonderful but it can also be stressful and exhausting if your priorities get out of whack. That's why I want to take a couple minutes to talk about setting healthy boundaries. Here are a few things discussed in this holiday episode:

• Why boundaries are important during the holidays.
• How to stay connected to God during the busyness of the holidays.
• How to give a kind "no" when it's one thing too many.
• How to choose where to spend your energy during the holidays.
• Ways to honor and set aside time with your priority people.
• Ways to set a boundary in conversation.
• How to practice soul care before the holidays.

I hope that you get to spend time with family and friends and all the people you love this holiday season. I hope that your holidays are filled with joy and wonder and peace. My prayer for you and for me is that we are able to set healthy boundaries so we can fully enjoy this beautiful season.

• Listen to DD Episode 78: On Creating Healthy Boundaries.
• Learn more about Soul Care here.
• Download the Pray As You Go podcast.
• Become a Newsletter Friend to get a weekly-ish dose of encouragement and stay in touch.
• Follow me on Instagram.
• Learn more about Apartment Life.
• Learn more about other ACF Ministry Partners here.
• Listen to more of Sara Davis Regan's music. :)
• Join us Sundays online at my home church, Austin Christian Fellowship.