👋🏾 Hey, I'm Rashida…overthinker, feeler, yoga & mindfulness teacher, and recovering strong friend. I'm here because I know what it's like to carry the world on your shoulders and secretly crave permission to put it down. Each week, I share reflections, personal stories, and gentle practices to help you redefine what strength means, reclaim your rest, and finally let yourself be held.

🌬 A gentle note before you listen:You may hear a few background sounds in this week’s audio. Despite my best efforts, I wasn’t able to edit them all out. I ask that you offer me a bit of grace as you listen in. The message is still here, steady and soft beneath the static. And maybe…just maybe…it’s a reminder that even in imperfect moments, you’re still allowed to receive.

Dear Strong Friend,

You are the one who always finds a way… who powers through the pain, who makes it work…no matter the weight.

When did you first learn that needing help meant being a burden?

That rest had to be justified?

That softness had to be earned?

That you couldn’t ask until you were crumbling?

In this week’s newsletter, we arrive at the softest, scariest part of this journey.

The place where strength loosens its grip.

Where your arms can fall to your sides.

Where your worth doesn’t need a single explanation.

This is the part of the H.E.L.D. Method I call LEAN.

And I want to whisper this clearly:

Support is not a sign of weakness.

Support is how you keep going without disappearing.

Support is your birthright…not your backup plan.

The Strong One Who’s Secretly So Tired

I see you.

I see the way you over-explain your exhaustion.

I see how many times you say “I’m fine” when your body is anything but.

I see how much you carry, silently, skillfully.

And I know you're tired of making your humanity palatable.

You don’t need to hand someone a PowerPoint presentation to earn a moment of care.

You don’t need to preface your "no" with five reasons.

You don’t have to prove your pain for it to be real.

What if your needs were valid…just because they’re yours?

Let This Be the Moment You Lay Something Down

Not because you’re falling apart (though you might be).

Not because you’re failing (you’re not).

But because you shouldn’t have to do it all.

You get to lean. You get to be supported.

Without guilt.

Without disclaimers.

Without the performance of strength.

So here’s a practice for you:

A quiet ritual to remind your body that receiving is safe.

🧘🏾‍♀️ A Mini Practice: Receiving Without Guilt

If it feels safe, let your eyes soften or close.

Bring your arms across your chest, like you're holding yourself.

Or rest one hand on your heart and the other on your belly.

Breathe in gently through your nose.

Hold.

And exhale with a sigh through your mouth.

Again—

Inhale.

Hold.

Exhale with a soft sigh.

Let your shoulders drop.

Let your breath unclench the stories you’ve been holding too long.

Now whisper (in your heart or out loud):“I am allowed to receive…without earning, without explaining, and without guilt.”

Feel those words in your bones.

Say them again, slowly.

Let them sink in like warm sun through your skin.

And when you're ready, open your eyes.

A Gentle Prompt for Your Week

Ask yourself, softly:

Where in my life am I still reluctant to ask for or receive support?

It might show up in the way you over-apologize before asking for time off.

In the way you hesitate before texting a friend: “I need help.”

In the way you say “yes” when you want to say “I can’t.”

Don’t judge it.

Just notice.

And maybe, just once this week, try this instead:

“Thank you for offering. I receive that.”

“I need support right now.”

Let those words be a beginning.

You don’t have to explain why you’re tired.

Your body already knows.

Your people already see it.

And this space?

It was created so you could finally exhale.

What’s Next

Next week, we’ll close this series with the final phase of the H.E.L.D. Method:DEFINE…where you begin rewriting your strength story, from survival to sovereignty.

Until then, strong friend…

Lay something down.

Let someone in.

And know this:

You don’t have to carry it all.

You don’t even have to carry most of it.

You get to be held.

Just because you are you.

xo,Rashidaaka your support & virtual cheerleader when you need it

👋🏾 Hey, I'm Rashida…overthinker, feeler, yoga & mindfulness teacher, and recovering strong friend. I'm here because I know what it's like to carry the world on your shoulders and secretly crave permission to put it down. Each week, I share reflections, personal stories, and gentle practices to help you redefine what strength means, reclaim your rest, and finally let yourself be held.

Dear Strong Friend,

This one is for the one who's been quiet for too long.

You don’t look like you’re carrying much.

But I know you are.

Because I’ve been there, too.

You move through the world with grace.

You hold space for others without flinching.

You wear the mask of composure like a second skin.

And still…your silence is full.

Full of swallowed truths.

Full of sighs tucked into your chest.

Full of the "I'm fine" that covers a storm no one sees.

I created the H.E.L.D. Method to help us move through this very thing: the sacred process of laying down the performance of strength and finally letting ourselves feel.

We began last week with Honor, naming the weight.

This week, we step into Express: the courageous act of giving voice to what we’ve held inside.

Not because you owe anyone an explanation.

But because unspoken truth becomes tension.

Because you owe yourself a release.

And your body remembers what your mouth never got to say.

What You’ve Been Holding Isn’t Just Emotional…It’s Physical

The tension in your jaw when someone asks if you’re okay.

The pressure in your chest when you bite your tongue to keep the peace.

The snapping at something small, then wondering, Where did that come from?

The shutdown. The silence. The ache in your shoulders that won’t go away.

You may not have the words.

You may not even feel ready to speak them.

But your body already knows.

And it’s been waiting for you to listen.

A Mini Practice: Let’s Try Something Together

If it feels okay, pause what you’re doing.

Find a quiet spot.

Let this be your moment.

* Soften your shoulders.

* Let your gaze drop or your eyes close.

* Place one hand on your heart, the other on your belly.

Breathe in…slowly.

Hold.

Now exhale with sound. Maybe a sigh.

Again.

And as you exhale, imagine this:

You’re releasing one truth.

One sentence.

One piece of yourself that’s been living quietly inside.

It could be a no you didn’t say.

A need you minimized.

A boundary you betrayed.

Let it rise like a phoenix.

Let it move through the breath.

Let your body feel what your words couldn’t carry alone.

Whisper this if it feels safe:

“I’m allowed to say what I’ve been holding.”

Even if it’s shaky.

Even if it’s quiet.

Even if no one else hears it but you.

You’ve taken the first step.

And that matters.

Friend, you are not broken. You are full.

Of truth.

Of grief.

Of rage.

Of longing.

And none of it makes you weak.

It makes you real.

You don’t have to carry it alone.

You never did.

This week, may you give voice to what’s been silent.

Not to fix it.

Not to perform it.

Just to let it breathe.

Because your body has been holding so much.

And today?

You gave her the mic.

Your Integration Prompt:

What truth have I been holding in?

Write it. Record it. Whisper it.

Let it be messy. Let it be yours.

And comment below if you feel called. I’d love to know.

Next week on the podcast, we’ll explore the next phase in the H.E.L.D. Method…Lean.

It’s all about learning to ask and receive support without guilt.

Because you deserve care that doesn’t require performance.

Until then…

Honor what you feel.

Express what needs to be said.

And remember…you don’t have to hold it in, to be held.

xo,

Rashida

aka your strong friend who has spent many years holding in what she needs to let out (until now)

👋🏾 Hey, I'm Rashida…overthinker, feeler, yoga & mindfulness teacher, and recovering strong friend. I'm here because I know what it's like to carry the world on your shoulders and secretly crave permission to put it down. Each week, I share reflections, personal stories, and gentle practices to help you redefine what strength means, reclaim your rest, and finally let yourself be held.

Dear Strong Friend,

This week’s post is a little different, but still just for you. You can skim the summary below or catch the full vibe in the audio above…your choice. Whichever way you take it in, I hope it lands exactly where you need it.

When was the last time you paused…not because you had to but because your body asked you to?

Most of us don’t get that far. We wait until we’re on the edge. Until the breakdown. Until our bodies refuse to keep pushing through.

This week’s episode begins a four-part journey through the H.E.L.D. framework, a system I created after years of trying to hold myself through exhaustion I didn’t feel allowed to name.

Each phase — Honor, Express, Lean, and Define — guides us out of silent overwhelm and back to a strength that doesn’t cost our softness.

Today, we begin with Honor…the sacred practice of pausing long enough to feel what’s been pushed aside.

Not fix. Not perform. Just notice.

Because when you’re always the one holding space, carrying weight, keeping things together…you stop hearing your own voice.

You start bracing instead of breathing.

You forget that you’re allowed to be tired. And tender. And in need.

But here’s the truth:

Your exhaustion isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. It’s a body that’s been whispering, “please let me rest.”

In this episode, I offer a letter, a simple body check-in, and an invitation to return to yourself without guilt.

Not because you’ve earned it.

But because you exist.

And that’s enough.

🌬 Invitation to Reflect:

As you move through the week, return to this question:

“What part of me needs to be honored today?”

Let it be simple. Let it be yours.

A need. A truth. A boundary. A feeling.

Whatever comes up—you don’t have to explain it.

Just honor it.

You deserve a life that holds space for your humanity too.

xo,

Rashida

aka your strong friend who is honoring you for showing up for yourself

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👋🏾 Hey, I'm Rashida…overthinker, feeler, yoga & mindfulness teacher, and recovering strong friend. I'm here because I know what it's like to carry the world on your shoulders and secretly crave permission to put it down. Each week, I share reflections, personal stories, and gentle practices to help you redefine what strength means, reclaim your rest, and finally let yourself be held.

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To the one who’s tired of holding it all…

There’s something sacred about finally being seen.

Not for what you do or how well you carry it all…but simply for who you are when you’re not performing strength.

This podcast is for you, strong friend.

The one who shows up for everyone else, even on empty.

The one who rarely feels safe enough to exhale.

The one who’s learning that strength doesn’t have to mean self-sacrifice.

I created Dear Strong Friend as a soft audio sanctuary…

A place to pause, reflect, and be held through your own healing.

Each week, you’ll hear voice-led letters, grounding practices, and unspoken truths…delivered gently, without pressure or performance.

Some episodes will sound like a hug.

Others will sound like tough love and a solid AF boundary.

All of them will sound like you finally getting to rest.

If you’re craving softness, nervous system support, and permission to be more than what you carry…

You’re home.

Take a breath. Hit play.

This is Dear Strong Friend (the NOT podcast podcast).

And this time, you get to be the one held.

xo,

Rashida

aka your strong friend who is excited to help you rest & release for once

P.S. - Are you feeling the vibe & desire more personalized support? My 1:1 Voxer coaching offers gentle guidance, practical tools, and a safe space to help you shift from silently holding it all together to finally feeling held. Learn more here.

Dear Strong Friend is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.