Episode 2: Whose Voice Is That?

Description:
Not every voice in your head belongs to you. Some are echoes of family, culture, expectations, survival, and even the things you once promised yourself you would never become. In this episode of DEBB Mode, Debb explores the difference between knowing what you don't want and discovering what you actually do, and asks one question that can change the conversation: Whose voice is that?

In this episode, I look back at the picture I had of my future when I was a girl and realize something surprising: I was very clear about what I didn't want, but that didn't necessarily mean I knew what I did want.

We talk about the voices we absorb, the voices we rebel against, and the voice that can sometimes become the loudest of all: necessity. Because when you're busy making ends meet, paying bills, taking care of people, and doing what has to be done, it can become difficult to hear what you actually want.

In this episode:

• How other people's beliefs can quietly become our own
• Why the things we rebel against can influence our choices too
• The difference between knowing what you don't want and knowing what you do
• How necessity and survival can become so loud that they start sounding like identity
• Why questioning an old message doesn't require blaming the person who gave it to you
• How to begin recognizing your own voice underneath all the others
• One simple question for deciding whether an old belief should still influence your life: Does it still get a vote?

Questions to sit with:
What messages have you carried with you without ever questioning them?

When you hear yourself saying I should, I have to, I can't, or people like me don't do that, whose voice are you hearing?

If money and practicality could go silent for five minutes, what would you want?

And when an old voice speaks up: Does it still get a vote?

You don't have to figure everything out today. For now, just start noticing who's been sitting at the table.

What should we talk about?
Got a question, a dilemma, or something you've been thinking but haven't quite said out loud? Maybe you've got a story another woman needs to hear.

Put it on the table. Tell me what's on your mind. You can even submit anonymously.

Tell Debb what we should talk about

Dare. Engage. Be Bold. Become.

Now go do something with what you know.

Episode 1 Show Notes

Description:

Fear can warn us, but it can also keep us stuck. In this first episode of DEBB Mode, Debb explores what happens when you're scared to make a move, why staying isn't always the safer choice, and how to keep fear from making the decision for you. 

Episode 1: Good! Scared Is Good.

Sometimes fear is a warning. And sometimes fear is simply what happens when you are about to do something different.

In this episode, I share a time when I was working a high-pressure job that was affecting my health, my sleep, and my peace. Walking away was scary. Staying was scary too.

That experience taught me something important: fear gets a vote, but it does not get to make the decision.

We talk about the difference between facts, possibilities, and the predictions fear creates in our heads. We also look at the difference between making a wise plan and using planning as a place to hide.

In this episode:

• Why feeling afraid does not automatically mean you are making the wrong decision
• The two risks we often forget to compare: the risk of leaving and the risk of staying
• How fear can become fuel or a retardant
• Why there are no guarantees, even when we choose the supposedly "safe" option
• How to separate what you know from what you fear might happen
• Why confidence usually comes after action, not before it
• How asking "What would I do next?" can make fear feel much less powerful

Questions to sit with:

What are you afraid might happen?

Is that a fact, a possibility, or a prediction?

And if the thing you fear actually happened, what would you do next?

You do not have to wait until you are no longer scared.

Sometimes scared is good.

What should we talk about?

Got a question, a dilemma, or something you've been thinking but haven't quite said out loud? Maybe you've got a story another woman needs to hear.

Put it on the table. Tell me what's on your mind. You can even submit anonymously.

Tell Debb what we should talk about

Dare. Engage. Be Bold. Become.

Now go do something with what you know.