Decision Ease

Happy Holidays! ...Or ARE they, though...😱

Obviously I want you to feel in charge of your choices 365 days a year, but this particular season is one where it can feel particularly challenging to make powerful, authentic decisions. So can any season with charged importance, right? Weddings...summer break...take your pick!

So let's make it easy to make choices you love, no matter how *important* this time of year is coming up (no matter when you're listening)!

Listen in for the top 3 problems that lead peole to make decisions they don't feel super in charge of (and often feel bitter about later)...and my 3 PRO TIPS to solve for them.

Plus, you'll get all of Kenny's and my most personal examples of how we keep making decisions based on what WE want (Wedding, Thanksgiving, Christmas...check!) 🎄

If you're facing any of these challenges right now (or you anticipate you WILL soon enough)...this episode is a must-listen:

I promise - I've been there, I get it, and you do NOT have to keep feeling this way.

Let's make this year the LAST year you don't feel 100% in charge of (and in love with) your choices!

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Oooo we're in for a treat today, friend! 🎉

Coach Sara Fisk is in the house and she's here to make not people pleasing a doable, easy, best-gift-to-yourself-ever thing.

Listen in as we geek out on:

About Sara Bybee Fisk:

Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from their lives. She is an anxious optimist and born again feminist who listens to more books than she actually sits down to read. She loves a good hike, good dark chocolate and good conversations. Her big dreams include learning to sail and to sing and dance like JLo and helping thousands of women create the big, juicy lives they want to be living. She is a wife and mom of 5 and she enjoys those roles most of the time.  

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Happy Halloween Week! 🎃

Halloween is a super meaningful holiday in my family, so *meaning* is on my mind.

This week, I invite you to focus on just how POWERFUL you are when it comes to choosing what's meaningful in your life!

Here's what we get into:

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At a business retreat in beautiful Jackson Hole, WY last week, I realized I've done some "mis-hires" lately!

I was there to work with my new business coach, alongside 20 other female entrepreneurs (so fun).

And getting such specific help, to provide specific solutions in my business, revealed the help I wasn't getting before.

The emotional guidance, the business strategy, the likeminded community...it turns out, I was actually relying on my poor sweet husband for a lotta that stuff...😬

And while we genuinely enjoy talking about our work with each other, he is not the best person for THAT job.

This prompted me to consider...what else might I be hiring out in less-than-optimal ways?

I encourage you to ask the same question. And to make it easy, think about it this way:

Am I getting everything I need?

The thing is, Kenny is amazing at listening, giving thoughtful feedback & being generally enthusiastic about my business (he's the best!)

But his amazingness notwithstanding - I wasn't getting everything I need from him, when it comes to professional guidance & human connection. 

And that's ok.

It's not a knock on him. And it's not even a failure on my part.

It's just really good DATA to have, that I'm using to make GREAT DECISIONS going forward.

So take this question and run with it. Are you getting everything you need: in the emotional, physical, professional, financial, joyful arenas of your life? 

Check in, if you've subconsciously hired a friend to be your therapist...or a mentor to be your life coach!

I promise: When you start identifying the help you really need, and start hiring the BEST people for those jobs, your relationships AND your success will thrive!

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If you want to make decisions without drama — and be confident enough in them that you don't self-sabotage or second-guess...this is the episode for you.

Let's break down what EXACTLY makes me (and my clients!) good at decisions.

Notice what YOU'RE aready good at, and what would make a difference in your own decision making!

P.S. Make sure to check out the Decision Masters Program, because that's exactly where you'll turn these skills into habits. With accountability & guidance, we make it easy!

👉https://kirstenparker.com/dmp👈 

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Head's up: You need a Logline!

Why? 'Cause whether you're selling a service, product or project...looking for your next career move...or even inviting someone to attend your event or read your blog post — guess what: you're PITCHING! 

Which just happens to be the Zone of Genius of this week's interviewee: Laura Brennan, the Pitch & Development Consultant 🙌

In this interview, Laura tells you what a LOGLINE is (and how powerful it can be!):

Bottom line: If you want to make your own decisions easier, and help the right people get jazzed about what you're up to, you need a Logline.

Laura tells you exactly how to create one and how to use it to make clear decisions — in your business, networking, and even pursuit of answers!

She also wants to change the world's mind about the icky awkwardness of networking.

"Networking and sharing what you're up to...That's how we have great lives!" (She gives you a brand new way of thinking about this so it's something you actually look forward to - YES)

Plus, the 3 Interviewee Questions!

1. How has coaching helped you? You follow me along with other coaches, you've done my paid and free workshops, you have your own coach...How do you get value from it?

One of the things I found early on with you is that, you have a way of looking at coaching and thought work that was a little different from the way my brain worked — and I loved that. It gave me a new lens, a new way of looking at things.

One of the things you said that blew my mind was: You can make a decision, and then practice making those decisions in a low-stakes environment. You can practice being the person you want to be in "low stakes"...so that when the stakes are high, it's there — You don't have to reach for it.

And I was like, "Hold the phone, what! You can just practice this!?" That gave me so much clarity. Because it allowed me to not have to think about high stakes. It allowed me to just look for the possibility of showing up the way I wanted to show up, in low stakes environments. 

2. What kind of decision maker do you consider yourself to be?

Oh, I'm a pretty good decision maker...I tend to make decisions out of who I want to be in the world. 

[Laura also shares a personal story here, about a big life choice her family made when her mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, and how this reflects her opinion of her own deicision making!]

3. What's the most self-honoring decision from this week you want to share with us?

Listen in for Laura's vulnerable & inspiring answer involving — what else — her Clown Class!

ENJOY!

Ready to end overthinking & make fast, easy, clean decisions ever day? The Decision Masters Program starts Nov 1, 2022! Book your free consult now: https://kirstenparker.com/schedule

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YOU GUYS, Life Coach & Marriage Mentor Maggie Reyes is in the Podcast House today, whaaaat!?

Refill your coffee & get ready to talk about:

Did we basically fit 5 entire episodes' worth a' JUICE into a single interview? YES.

Besides those bullet points, we get into why Type A smarty pants people like us have difficulty with things being EASY. (Ever start a fight out of nowhere for no reason...? Listen up.)

We dig into a Core Value of mine that I talk about all the time - Happy Open-Hearted Marriage - and she explains exactly what "open-heartedness" is:

And you know we couldn't not talk about our collective bad habit of All or Nothing Thinking:

And she shares the quote that SHOOK ME when she offered it to me in one of our group coaching sessions earlier this year.

ENJOY!

Ready to stop living in Overthinking agony? Let's make every decision EASIER.

The Decision Masters Program starts NOV 1 - Book your free consult now!

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Feeling pressure about big QUESTIONS?...Doing it ALL?...Choosing RIGHT...? This interview is for you!

If you've ever been curious about what coaching helps people with, my client & friend Nina's answer is a brilliant summary: "I stopped worrying about all the things I'm not doing, and I just kept doing the next, best thing."

That mentality (GOLD!) is what allowed her to take the insane pressure off herself to know - and do - ALL the things , and STILL set her life up in an intentional way, so she gets to do work AND art that she enjoys AND parent (etc...) on her terms!

In this conversation, you get to hear: 

Nina's favorite tools from coaching?

Plus: The 3 Interviewee Questions!

1. What would you say to someone considering getting coaching? 

Well, the fact that you know about coaching, and that it exists, means this is a thing that you've looked into and are thinking about...I would say: do it. Do it! Because you're the type of person who would do coaching.

2. What kind of decision maker would you call yourself today? Ok, I used to be really indecisive. That's like, Past Self, "used to be." And I feel pretty proud of myself that, now, I'm a clearer decsion maker. 

I'm not someone who's like, "Oh, I know right away." But I am someone who's done enough of the work, and has enough of the tools, that I can say, "Oh I know what I can do to be clear and feel good about the next decision."

3. What's the most self-honoring decision you've made in the last week, that you want to share with us?

Listen to Nina's PURE GOLD answer, which she prefaces with "...this is gonna sound so stupid." I swear: the little things ARE the big things.

When your decision making is more authentic & self-honoring in the SMALL (..."stupid"...) stuff, you're 500x more likely to be inclined to authentic decisions when it comes to the the BIG stuff.

Nina Harada is a writer, artist, parent, fellow podcast host, and digital editor at LA Parent Magazine. She wears a lot of hats, both in life and in work, and she's realized that's where she thrives. (She's also a Gemini, if that explains anything).

Nina's coaching story summed up:

"When I first sought out coaching, those multiple hats were confusing to me. I wanted all the things and at the same time thought I didn't know what I wanted. But one of the many takeaways from coaching is realizing there's time for it all. If it's meant for me, it will be. This eased my anxiety. Now I'm not worried about all the things I'm not doing — I'm focused on what I am doing and just keep doing the next best thing."

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Ever get scared things are going TOO well for comfort?

Want an insider's look at how coaching really works?

This episode's for you!

In Part 2 of my conversation with client & friend Ariell Ilunga (Part 1 was Ep 18), we "clean out a cobweb" happening in her mind: This thought that "Something terrible has got to happen to balance the scales. You can't be happy for very long."

We give her space to explore what she's thinking & feeling honestly — no judging / avoiding / rushing away (how we do, in coaching 😉)...and we explore what she wants to do with that. How does she want to use it for her growth, how can she engage with it on purpose, going forward. De-lish!

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This interview was so jam-packed I HAD to make it a two-parter...buckle up!

In this episode, my client Ariell gets totally honest about:

"I'm not forecasting, and I'm not living in the past, and I'm living true to myself for the first time ever."

Plus: The 3 Interviewee Questions!

 Short answer: Do it.

Even if you have no goals, you're still gonna have to be a human. Your fears will still show up, indecisiveness, cloudiness...joy, abundance, all of these things are still gonna show up. 

I think the best part about having worked with you and continuing to work with you is: Having tools to manage all of that. For me...I didn't know I could ask my Fear a question, a year ago. I didn't know I could talk with my Fear. 

You're still a human, and you're gonna have a lot of feelings. They're not going away — that's not the goal. This whole stupidness around "Don't make an emotional decision"...ALL decisions are emotional! And the problem is, we don't know how to process our feelings, and turn them into powerful tools to make decisions. 

2. What kind of decision maker would you call yourself today? 

Clear. Grounded. Tethered, in a good way, to something.

You know Tetherball? That pole? I have that. If you root it to something, you can sway the course of  your life. I don't think I'm a perfect decision maker, whatever that is, but I have this root thing I can keep coming back to, that helps me stay rooted & grounded.

3. What's the most self-honoring decision you've made in the last week, that you want to share with us?

 Ariell's multi-point answer includes celebrations about parenting, boundaries, money choices, vacation, a margarita and a well-deserved lounge chair nap - SO GOOD!!

Ariell Ilunga is the Founder and CEO of Carla's Fresh Market, a reimagined neighborhood grocery store. They'll be opening their first brick & mortar in early 2023 and are currently selling elevated pantry staples online at Also have a Pop-Up Pantry that pops up all over Los Angeles, selling curated pantry items.

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