// DEEPER with Sjors Boelaars: Tantra, Schaduwwerk & het pad naar Conscious Relationships

Je houdt van je vrouw, maar het vuur lijkt langzaam te doven?Je hebt je leven goed op de rit — carrière, sport, de kinderen, alles loopt. Maar... hoe breng je meer diepgang in je relatie? Hoe maak je het weer sprankelend, écht levend?

In mijn ervaring begint het vuur in je relatie met het vuur in jezelf.Wil je je relatie nieuw leven inblazen? Begin dan vandaag met je eigen binnenwereld opschonen.

Hoe? Daar duiken we in deze podcast in.

We verkennen:

🔥 Numbing vs. Nourishing behaviours – Waar voed je jezelf, en waar verdoof je je eigenlijk?

🔥 Hell Yes / Hell No – Hoe creëer je radicale helderheid in wat je wél en niet meer wilt?

🔥 Concrete stappen om je leven – en daarmee je relatie – op te schonen.

Dit is Stap 1 in een reeks van 5.

👉 Wil je alle vijf de stappen ontdekken?

Meld je dan aan voor de gratis masterclass:⁠⁠"Het Vuur Terug in je Relatie" ⁠

Jorn Vetter is een man die het leven met volle teugen geproefd heeft. Als onbesuisde twintiger opzoek naar een vol leven kwam hij als zanger van een hardrock band in contact met drugs. Hij was jaren verslaafd tot hij zijn weg terug naar zichzelf begon te vinden via zweethut ceremonies. 

Na 10 jaar studie met verschillende leraren geeft hij nu wildernis tochten, ceremonies en coaching aan de hand van het medicijn wiel en de zweethut.

Over Sjors

In mijn werk als coach, schaduwwerktherapeut en wildernisgids begeleid ik bewuste leiders naar meer diepgang in hun seksualiteit, emoties en relaties. De centrale vraag die ik stel is: wie ben je in je kern? Los van de façade, voorbij je conditioneringen. De programma's die ik ontwikkel brengen je in contact met die kern en geven je de tools om je leven vanuit deze authentieke plek vorm te geven.

Ik werk 1-op-1 met diepgaande schaduwwerkcoaching, ben mede-oprichter van de wildernisretreats ⁠The Heroes Journey⁠ en geef leiderschapstrainingen aan executive teams.

Voor meer informatie over mijn werk, bezoek: ⁠www.sjorsboelaars.nl⁠.

WIL JE ZELF ERVAREN HOE HET MEDICIJNWIEL VOOR JOU KAN WERKEN?

Je kan nu mee op reis met Jorn en Sjors:

4 - 9 Mei 2025 // SHADOW ISLAND 

kayak expeditie in de Zweedse archipelago

Een week lang trekken we met kayaks de zweedse archipel in.

Reserveringen zijn nu open.

How your trauma isn’t a problem to be solved, but your accesspiont to your particular way of loving the world.

A poetry infused exploration of two therapist diving into the beauty and limitations of trauma work.

Topics in this interview:

About Daniel Rosenberg

Daniel has pursued an unconventional education by immersing himself in the natural world, spending thousands of hours wandering through wild landscapes. He views trauma healing as a necessary step towards exploring the deeper levels of the self, rather than an end in itself. He draws inspiration from Bill Plotkin's Soulcraft™ practices and is committed to guiding modern folks back to soul. In addition to the SE™ training, Daniel has also been trained in dreamwork as well as deep imagination work and utilizes these modalities to help folks connect with Self.

With personal experience that includes spending 40 days in solitary ceremony in the wilderness, enacting multiple solo wilderness fasts, and living off the land with only basic equipment in the jungle, Daniel seeks to apprentice himself to all that is wild, authentic, and free. He believes in the potential of Somatic Experiencing® to help people rediscover their human birthright of wild authenticity.

To work with Daniel in therapeutic context (also online):

For his writings, see: https://danielrosenberg.substack.com

About Sjors Boelaars

In my work as a coach and therapist I guide conscious leaders to deepen their sex, emotions, purpose and relationships. See here for more info about my signature 1:1 Program 'Deeper'.

I hold a master in Philosophy and am a certified 'Feeding your Demons' therapist (by Lama Tsultrim Allione). I combine modern tantric methods (based on Osho as though by Centre for Tantra in Amsterdam) with classical linneage practices (mainly Kaula Trika linneague) as thought by my main teacher Hareesh Christopher Wallis.

More info about me and my work:

⁠www.sjorsboelaars.nl⁠

Insta: ⁠@sjorsboelaars⁠

In this episode we discover the multifaceted spiritual journey of an experienced teacher who will always be a scholar. An inspiringly optimistic soul despite his comprehensive awareness of darkness and chaos. We discuss his journey becoming the one giving spiritual direction through many years of practice, study, formation, and ascetical discipline as well as his callings on disparate steps on his way. We dive deeper into the differences and similarities between Indian, Tibetan and the Catholic Christian disciplines where we discover the fullness of authenticity of contemporary practice with nuanced cultural context of ancient practice. A deeply motivational acquaintance.

“If I didn’t take the radical leap, then I probably wouldn’t make it all the way. I felt that strongly from early adolescence. I felt this drive. If I don’t really discipline myself and don’t really make sacrifices and push myself, I’m not gonna get there” - Father Brendan Ellis Williams, CMR

About Father Brendan Ellis Williams, CMR

Father Brendan Ellis Williams, CMR is a priest, monastic, yogī, spiritual director, writer, artisan, scholar and teacher of religion, Eastern and Western esoteric traditions, meditation and contemplative spirituality: chanting old rebel tales; tracing back song-streams of ancient wisdom; ferrying souls on the mythic riverways of human transformation; guiding folk from all walks of life back to their birthright of wholeness and freedom in unitive awareness.

The central aim of his work, in all its iterations, is to help restore individuals and communities to wholeness: to facilitate a felt experience of reciprocal blessing and conscious interbeing in the great family of Nature, toward the one most needful end of the liberative awakening of all sentient beings.

If you are seeking real depth and transformation in this life, It’s his honor and calling to share this knowledge with you.

Read more and get in touch with him through his website:

www.brendanelliswilliams.com

And Father Brendan shares beautiful musings on Instagram. @brendan.ellis.williams

About Sjors Boelaars

In my work as a coach and therapist I guide conscious leaders to deepen their sex, emotions, purpose and relationships. See here for more info about my signature 1:1 Program 'Deeper'.

I hold a master in Philosophy and am a certified 'Feeding your Demons' therapist (by Lama Tsultrim Allione). I combine modern tantric methods (based on Osho as though by Centre for Tantra in Amsterdam) with classical linneage practices (mainly Kaula Trika linneague) as thought by my main teacher Hareesh Christopher Wallis.

More info about me and my work:

www.sjorsboelaars.nl

Insta: @sjorsboelaars

Tibbe is een van de centrale mannen van De Bosbeweging, een school waar je kunt ervaren hoe het is om op een primitieve, inheemse manier te leven. 

Tibbe is door en door een bos man. Hij woont met zijn vrouw en dochter in een yurt in de achterhoek, en onderzoekt hoe hij door een simpel leven dicht bij de natuur voller in contact kan staan met dat wat waardevol voor hem is. Een van de dingen die ik van Tibbe geleerd heb is hoe ik echt in verbinding kan zijn met de natuur, ver weg in de wildernis, maar vooral gewoon hier in Nederland.

In dit gesprek hebben we het over zijn pad.

Vragen die aan bod komen:

Tibbe en ik geven 5 - 9 juli ‘De Kracht van de Schaduw’ een 5 daagse deepdive in jezelf met daarin een mini quest (1 nacht alleen in het bos). Wat zijn je schaduwkanten en wat is je rol in de tribe? Wat heb jij van het bos te leren? Welke kanten vind je lastig te accepteren in jezelf? 

Over Sjors Boelaars
In my work as a coach and therapist I guide conscious leaders to deepen their sex, emotions, purpose and relationships. See here for more info about my signature 1:1 Program 'Deeper'.

I hold a master in Philosophy and am a certified 'Feeding your Demons' therapist (by Lama Tsultrim Allione). I combine modern tantric methods (based on Osho as though by Centre for Tantra in Amsterdam) with classical linneage practices (mainly Kaula Trika linneague) as thought by my main teacher Hareesh Christopher Wallis.

More info about me and my work:

⁠www.sjorsboelaars.nl⁠

Insta: ⁠@sjorsboelaars⁠

“In de natuur zijn is thuiskomen voor me. Alle complexiteit valt van me af en even ben ik in heel direct contact met het leven om me heen.
Het leven wordt even heel simpel: we zoeken een plek om te slapen, maken vuur, zorgen dat er te eten is. In deze simpliciteit krijgt het leven de kans zich in haar volle schoonheid te laten zien.”

— SJORS

Over Tibbe

Zie De Bosbeweging

#naturequest 

#visionquest

#nativewisdom

#bushcraft 

#soulcraft  

In this deep and powerful conversation with Lama Rigdzin Yudron we discuss the benefits and potential pitfalls on the path of meditation. How is it possible that so many people meditate, but we don't process process the all dark stuff? In her 30 years of Buddhist practice she has encountered many of the pitfalls you will encounter when you engage a meditation practice. Lama Rigdzin is a resident lama (priest) at the Tibetan Buddhist monestary Dag Shang Kaygu in the Spanish Pyrenees. She went through a rigorous ten year meditation training in Nepal to become a lama. Her experience includes an individual meditation retreat of 3 years, 3 months and 3 days, in which, for the record, she did not sleep.

Questions covered in this interview:

“Meditation is not about trying to feel better”

-- Lama Rigdzin

About Lama Rigdzin

Lama Rigdzin got on the spiritual path by accident. She and her newly wed husband didn't know where to go and ended up in India. There she met an Indian sage, a holy man, who asked her the question: are you really happy? This question rattled her bones and got her on the path of searching for true liberation. 30 years of dedicated Buddhist practice later she is now one of the resident lama's Tibetan Buddhist monestary Dag Shang Kaygu in the Spanish Pyrenees. She went through a rigorous ten year meditation training in Nepal to become a lama.

If you have any questions about your meditation practice, you can contact lama Rigdzin here.

About Sjors Boelaars

In my work as a coach and therapist I guide conscious leaders to deepen their sex, emotions, purpose and relationships. See here for more info about my signature ⁠1:1 Program 'Deeper⁠'. 

I hold a master in Philosophy and am a certified 'Feeding your Demons' therapist (by Lama Tsultrim Allione). I combine modern tantric methods (based on Osho as though by ⁠Centre for Tantra in Amsterdam⁠) with classical linneage practices (mainly Kaula Trika linneague) as thought by my main teacher ⁠Hareesh Christopher Wallis⁠. 

More info about me and my work:

⁠www.sjorsboelaars.nl⁠

Insta: ⁠@sjorsboelaars⁠

Feeding your Demons

Both Lama Rigdzin and me, Sjors, are certified Feeding your Demons counsellors. Feeding your demons is a shadow work practice in which you invite a part that is in pain (like a part of yourself that is afraid, angry, jealous etc) to explain what it really needs. Feeding your Demons combines ancient buddhist wisdom with contemporay western psychotherapy (Gestalt Therapy).

We both give Feeding your Demons sessions, if you are curious, please reach out.

By: Sjors Boelaars  

Everybody has his or her obstacles blocking direct access you your essence. For some it's fear, anger, resentment, sadness, for others it's a sense of elevation or feeling superior. All these elements can be blocking your ability to live your full radiant loving essence into the world. 

The core of the 'Feeding your Demons' practice (and of tantric shadow work in general) is that we don't repress or deny these obstacles, but we use their energy for transformation. How? By not pushing away these parts of ourselves but inviting them to show their underlying need. 

The core of ‘Feeding your Demons’ is that you don’t repress your dark sides, but invite them to unveil what they actually need. ‘We invite them for tea’, so to say.” — SJORS BOELAARS  

What is Feeding your Demons? 

In Feeding your Demons an ancient tantric method called Chöd is combined with the modern psychotherapeutic method of Gestalt therapy. The practice is devised by my teacher Lama Tsultrim Allione. 

In the visualisation you will be invited to dialogue with subconscious parts of your psyche to learn what wisdom they carry and what they need for healing. You will investigate where the pain is held in your body, what the pain needs, and you will get access to the underlying wisdom. 

NOTE: please don't do this visualisation without proper in person guidance if you easily disassociate (disconnect from the body) 

About Sjors Boelaars

Sjors is the founder of Tara Academy (www.tara.academy) and a certified Feeding your Demons therapist by Lama Tsultrim Allione. One of Sjors' specialisms is Shadow Work, which aims to transform reconnect us with the parts of our psyche that we sometimes are not proud of (eg. our anger, lust, fear).

Mindful masturbation. Jep, it's a thing. 

In this practice you will learn maybe one of the most difficult things in life: going to the edge of an orgasm without giving in (for men that would mean ejaculation).

Well... it is and it isn't. 

By training our body to be able to hover on the edge of orgasm without sliding into release two things happen:

For who?

This practice was originally recorded for men but it works beautifully for women too. 

Enjoy!

Hey friends,

Why you want to do this practice:

How to do the 'Inner flute' breathing:

Optional extras to stimulate the energy flow:

Best practices:

Deeper Dialogues // Shadow work & Tantra - How to not get addicted to peak experiences?

I like the spiritual path. I like the tantric path. I like to see how my body opens up and how I am able to experience life more fully. But over the years I see more and more pitfalls that come with spiritual practice. I do things that feel good, but how do I know they render structural, real life improvement of my day to day life quality? I see myself getting attached to peak experiences (in a sexual and in a spiritual sense). I see how my growing capacity for deep meditation get's highjacked by the ego to feel myself just a little bit better than the 'normal' people. For me, this is where why Shadow Work is so important in any spiritual practice, because it prevents me falling into these traps.

In this conversation I talk with tantrica and men's empowerment coach Isabell Froe about the beauty and the risks of walking the tantric path. 

Questions covered

About Isabell Froe 

Isabel is an experienced tantrica and works with men to step into their authentic masculine power. She holds a  MA degree in Indian Studies, completed various Tantra Trainings, studied Yoga Therapy, Ayurveda Medicine & Stress Management and runs workshops & retreats all over the world.

Insta: @isabell.froe

About Sjors Boelaars

In my work as a coach and therapist I guide conscious leaders to deepen their sex, emotions, purpose and relationships. See here for more info about my signature 1:1 Program 'Deeper'. 

I hold a master in Philosophy and am a certified 'Feeding your Demons' therapist (by Lama Tsultrim Allione). I combine modern tantric methods (based on Osho as though by Centre for Tantra in Amsterdam) with classical linneage practices (mainly Kaula Trika linneague) as thought by my main teacher Hareesh Christopher Wallis. 

More info about me and my work:

⁠www.sjorsboelaars.nl⁠

Insta: ⁠@sjorsboelaars⁠