Designed Resilience

Not all situations that require resilience are negative. Sometimes, resilience can provide the foundation for some of the best changes of your life. That's what we'll talk about in this video - how establishing a positive self concept, financial stability, physical well being, community, and personal growth and development can make even the most exciting things a little easier. I'm so grateful for this move and how it will change my life. I got to enjoy it more because I'd already designed my resilience.

I think I've had an apostrophe...I mean an epiphany! I think consumerism and people pleasing are linked! I think they both aim to achieve the same goals and they reinforce each other in people who have an external locus of validation. Take a listen and tell me what you think.

I read a lot of personal development books. I was lucky enough to have been turned on to Villain Era Goddess by my husband, who is part of The Fiction Lab, an incubator and think tank for authors. I am so honored to spotlight the authentic, revelation-heavy, and expletive-laced book's author, Ashley Kim, in this episode of Designed Resilience.

Where most self-help books are like The Real Housewives "Glam Squads", sent to make whatever you're working with look and feel better, this book - which I will spend more time with - is more like that scene in Temple of Doom where the ritual leader reaches into someone's chest, chanting Kali Ma, and pulls the beating heart out of the person and holds it up in front of the crowd. It gets to the heart of the matter, shows it to you in all its messiness, then brings you to the next level of your evolution as you walk with your new best friend.

Website: https://villaineragoddess.substack.com/p/villain-era-goddess-book

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Two of my favorite phrases related to personal growth and development are "You can learn ANYTHING" and "You can't beat someone who doesn't quit." I have found these ideals to be true through personal experience, which is why I believe they are fundamental to designing resilience.

Taina Rodrigues-Wells is a personal and professional powerhouse who followed her then-fiance, now-husband to the United States. She has flourished in her new country thanks to her planning, conviction, and resilience. If you'd like to connect with Taina, find her on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tainardrgs/.

As a recovering codependent people pleaser, understanding and setting boundaries for my emotional wellbeing within my community has been something I had to learn and continue to practice. In this episode, I share my understanding of boundaries and how I ease myself into setting them with important people in my life.

Though I didn't know it at the time, these 5 itty bitty habits helped me take care of myself through one of the hardest experiences of my life - the loss of my Mom. You can start implementing any or all of these today and have the confidence that they'll ground you in times of challenge.

Many of us begin new years with the resolution to stabilize our finances. But, if you're like me, no one taught you how to do this. After much reading, listening, and research, these are the 4 steps that helped me move out of the paycheck-to-paycheck life.

A positive self concept is the belief that you can navigate life successfully. It's different than self esteem or self confidence. The 3 steps to begin building a positive self concept will help you build a daily habit that will sustain you in times of difficulty.

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2025! To kick off the year, I wanted to revisit the 5 pillars of Designed Resilience: Positive Self Concept, Financial Stability, Physical Well Being, Community, and Personal Growth & Development. Building habits and practices daily in these 5 areas can sustain you through times of difficulty.