In this episode, I share my personal pleasure story and the moment I realized I didn’t want anyone else telling me what kind of pleasure I was capable of. I was done with the zero orgasm bit!

For years, I was handed explanations about women's pleasure that felt limiting, confusing, or disconnected from my actual body. Sex could feel good, but something was missing and I knew it wasn’t because I was broken or "messed up".

So, I share with you how misinformation, performance-based sex education, and external expectations pulled my attention out of my body and what changed when I stopped trying to do pleasure and learned how to stay present instead.

I also share how this was a part of the journey that led to my upcoming premium audio series, created for women who feel the pull to understand their bodies more deeply and to learn the conditions that allow orgasm to flow.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: pleasure literacy, female pleasure, women’s pleasure, sexual embodiment, orgasm education, body awareness, sexual self-trust, nervous system, embodied sexuality, women’s orgasm, sexual empowerment for women, pleasure education

Okay, THIS is where the initial error lives...in this episode I talk about the first structural error most women learn in their sex education....the assumption that our pleasure should behave like a man’s.

When women are taught to model their bodies after a linear, goal-based orgasm pattern, pleasure becomes something to monitor and evaluate instead of embody! What often gets labeled as numbness, low desire, or difficulty orgasming is not a personal failure, but a nervous system response to the wrong framework.

This episode is about learning that the map needs correcting and offering a re-orientation that changes how women relate to their bodies, their pleasure, their orgasm and themselves.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords:

female pleasure, women’s sexuality, orgasm education, sex ed, nervous system, sex education for women, orgasm awareness, embodiment and pleasure, female arousal, sexual confidence for women, feminine pleasure, women’s arousal patterns, pleasure and safety, orgasm myths

In this episode, I explore how performance-based sex education trained women to place their attention outside of their bodies and why that’s where disorientation begins. Because....the distraction is real! 😮‍💨

We were taught how sex should look and how to do it “right,” but not how to stay connected to what we’re feeling while it’s happening.

I talk about what traditional sex education left out, how this disconnect impacts pleasure and intimacy, and why so many women feel something is missing even when everything appears fine.

This episode invites you to question the framework you were given and to consider a new way of orienting toward pleasure that begins inside your body. And....inside my new series coming this month! 😆

If you’d like a quiet place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: sex education, new year new me, 2026, women’s pleasure, performance-based sex, embodiment, intimacy, body awareness, somatic connection, nervous system, healing, low libido, libido

EEEEKKKKKKKKK!!!!! 😆 This is episode 100 of Desire Different Podcast!!!!....which feels honestly a little WILD to say out loud!

Okay, so Happy New Year! Happy 2026!!!

So in this milestone episode ☺️ I reflect on how my work with women’s pleasure has evolved over time. Ya'll we have evolved honey! What started as teaching about pleasure/orgasm....turned into something much deeper: helping women orient their bodies toward pleasure in a way that actually feels safe, intelligible, and doable, not performative or confusing.

I discuss what I’ve learned through years of study in sacred sexuality, personal experience, and consistency (lots of consistency), and why chasing orgasm has never been the answer. When pleasure perception shifts, orgasm stops being a fluke. It becomes a natural outcome of alignment….not try this, try that.

There’s reflection, a little perspective, and yeah....a moment where I realize my daughter has quietly witnessed this entire evolution! Which honestly......aaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! 😆😍🥰

This episode is both a marker and an invitation as I prepare to open a new pleasure series and keep walking this path with you.

Visit the listeners page to browse the product suite & free offers or to sign up for email notifications for the new pleasure series coming soon!

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

If you’d like a quiet place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

And if you’re not too busy, as a celebration for us! Please rate the show! It helps my reach 🧸💃🏽

Keywords:

100th episode, 100 episodes, 100, women’s pleasure, orgasm education, pleasure, sex education for women, orgasm, sacred sexuality, sacred sex, female orgasm, Desire Different Podcast, episode 100, women and sexuality, pleasure orientation, orgasm capacity, new year, new years, new year new me, 2026

What happens when women stop trying to make pleasure happen??!

In this episode, I explore what shifts when pressure and performance fall away and why forcing pleasure often disconnects us from it. We look at the difference between chasing sensation and allowing the body to respond naturally, and how receptivity and relaxation play a central role in women's pleasure systems.

This conversation offers a gentler, more intelligent approach to pleasure....one rooted in presence, safety, and self-trust.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords:

women’s pleasure, feminine embodiment, orgasm gap, pleasure, healing, female sexuality education, sex education, embodiment practices, desire and receptivity, intimacy and presence,

In this episode, we explore an important distinction many women were never taught: being physically aroused does not always mean being fully present or ready for a deeply satisfying sexual experience. Get in here....

I share why getting wet is only one small part of the conditions for great sex, and how pressure, effort, and performance can disconnect us from true pleasure. I also reflect on my own journey and how my early understanding of sex was shaped by masculine-centered scripts, and how relearning pleasure transformed my relationship with my body and orgasm.

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Free Offer “Why Sex Can Feel Good & Still Not Lead to Orgasm”:

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Keywords:

arousal without connection, arousal story, arousal, sexual presence, embodied connection, feminine arousal, emotional connection in sex, pleasure without fulfillment, activation vs integration, sexual awareness

Okay, in this one....I introduce a distinction most women were never given and once you see it, you’ll start noticing it everywhere in your sex life! Literally!

We explore the difference between surface pleasure and deeper pleasure. And why stimulation and "short arousal" don’t always lead to fulfillment. Pleasure isn’t just a physical response, it’s an internal cascade. And when women don’t know that that cascade exists, they often assume the first layer is the whole experience. No, no, no baby....get in here!! 😝

That’s how so many of us end up thinking,

“This feels good… but is this it?”

(Which is a very specific kind of confusion no one prepares you for 😂)

If this conversation makes you curious, good....that curiosity is intelligent. There’s a listeners page linked if you’d like to stay connected or explore further. Deeper education coming in January! ☺️

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: surface pleasure, deeper pleasure, pleasure layers, arousal vs depth, sexual presence, embodied pleasure, nervous system and pleasure, feminine pleasure experience

In this episode, we explore one of the most common and most misunderstood challenges women face: difficulty reaching orgasm!! Bruhhhhhhhhh…

I share why wanting orgasm is natural, not a sign that something is wrong with you, and how pressure, effort, and performance can actually shut down the body’s natural pleasure response. We talk about why pleasure unfolds more easily when you shift from trying to allowing, and why safety and relaxation are essential for deeper sensation.

I also share how I went through my own journey of relearning pleasure without effort or performance and how it actually is possible!

If you're curious, or LOVING this...I invite you to join the email list to be informed when my January deep pleasure dive series becomes available!

A free place to start for pleasure education:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords:

orgasm, pleasure, pleasure literacy, women’s pleasure, low libido, difficulty reaching orgasm, relearning pleasure, personal journey, feminine embodiment, nervous system safety, relaxation and arousal, women’s sexual health, big O

In this episode, I explore the number one reason so many women struggle to feel pleasure and why it has nothing to do with being broken. (Because girl, you are not f***** broken!!!) 🧚🏽‍♀️

When the body is under chronic stress, emotional pressure, or constant demand, the nervous system shifts into survival mode. In this state, pleasure is basically "muted". This episode breaks down how survival mode impacts women's arousal, why presence and slowness matter, and how the body can relearn pleasure when safety is restored.

This conversation is an entry point into pleasure literacy and the foundation for an upcoming educational series exploring how pleasure actually works inside the woman's nervous system! Eeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkkkk!!! 😆💃🏽

Ladies.....Your body isn’t broken. It’s responding intelligently and it can continue with a new intelligent response, this time with pleasure as a priority! 😏

Want to go deeper?

Free starting point for pleasure education:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords 

women’s pleasure, nervous system and pleasure, female arousal explained, survival mode and intimacy, pleasure and safety, pleasure literacy for women, embodiment and pleasure, somatic pleasure, relearning pleasure, emotional safety and arousal, Desire Different Podcast

If you’ve ever thought “I hate sex,” this episode is for you. Many women don’t hate sex, they hate the pressure, expectation, and performance wrapped around it. When the body doesn’t feel safe, pleasure can’t open, no matter how much desire is there.

This is a re-framing, not a how-to. Nothing is wrong with you, your body has been protecting you bbg! Ahhhh 🤣 , that means babygirl (I blame my seventeen year old 😆)

As we move through December, these episodes are designed to help you slow down, soften, and reconnect with pleasure in a way that feels grounded and honest.

A free starting point for the pleasure education you’ve been missing:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-sensation-error

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: why I hate sex, I hate sex, don’t like sex anymore, dislike sex, dead bedroom, women’s desire, low desire in women, pleasure and nervous system, stress and intimacy, embodiment and pleasure, reconnecting to pleasure, low libido