What happens when women stop trying to make pleasure happen??!

In this episode, I explore what shifts when pressure and performance fall away and why forcing pleasure often disconnects us from it. We look at the difference between chasing sensation and allowing the body to respond naturally, and how receptivity and relaxation play a central role in women's pleasure systems.

This conversation offers a gentler, more intelligent approach to pleasure....one rooted in presence, safety, and self-trust.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

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If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

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Keywords:

women’s pleasure, feminine embodiment, orgasm gap, pleasure, healing, female sexuality education, sex education, embodiment practices, desire and receptivity, intimacy and presence,

In this episode, we explore an important distinction many women were never taught: being physically aroused does not always mean being fully present or ready for a deeply satisfying sexual experience. Get in here....

I share why getting wet is only one small part of the conditions for great sex, and how pressure, effort, and performance can disconnect us from true pleasure. I also reflect on my own journey and how my early understanding of sex was shaped by masculine-centered scripts, and how relearning pleasure transformed my relationship with my body and orgasm.

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

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Keywords:

arousal without connection, arousal story, arousal, sexual presence, embodied connection, feminine arousal, emotional connection in sex, pleasure without fulfillment, activation vs integration, sexual awareness

Okay, in this one....I introduce a distinction most women were never given and once you see it, you’ll start noticing it everywhere in your sex life! Literally!

We explore the difference between surface pleasure and deeper pleasure. And why stimulation and "short arousal" don’t always lead to fulfillment. Pleasure isn’t just a physical response, it’s an internal cascade. And when women don’t know that that cascade exists, they often assume the first layer is the whole experience. No, no, no baby....get in here!! 😝

That’s how so many of us end up thinking,

“This feels good… but is this it?”

(Which is a very specific kind of confusion no one prepares you for 😂)

If this conversation makes you curious, good....that curiosity is intelligent. There’s a listeners page linked if you’d like to stay connected or explore further. Deeper education coming in January! ☺️

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: surface pleasure, deeper pleasure, pleasure layers, arousal vs depth, sexual presence, embodied pleasure, nervous system and pleasure, feminine pleasure experience

In this episode, we explore one of the most common and most misunderstood challenges women face: difficulty reaching orgasm!! Bruhhhhhhhhh…

I share why wanting orgasm is natural, not a sign that something is wrong with you, and how pressure, effort, and performance can actually shut down the body’s natural pleasure response. We talk about why pleasure unfolds more easily when you shift from trying to allowing, and why safety and relaxation are essential for deeper sensation.

I also share how I went through my own journey of relearning pleasure without effort or performance and how it actually is possible!

If you're curious, or LOVING this...I invite you to join the email list to be informed when my January deep pleasure dive series becomes available!

A free place to start for pleasure education:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords:

orgasm, pleasure, pleasure literacy, women’s pleasure, low libido, difficulty reaching orgasm, relearning pleasure, personal journey, feminine embodiment, nervous system safety, relaxation and arousal, women’s sexual health, big O

In this episode, I explore the number one reason so many women struggle to feel pleasure and why it has nothing to do with being broken. (Because girl, you are not f***** broken!!!) 🧚🏽‍♀️

When the body is under chronic stress, emotional pressure, or constant demand, the nervous system shifts into survival mode. In this state, pleasure is basically "muted". This episode breaks down how survival mode impacts women's arousal, why presence and slowness matter, and how the body can relearn pleasure when safety is restored.

This conversation is an entry point into pleasure literacy and the foundation for an upcoming educational series exploring how pleasure actually works inside the woman's nervous system! Eeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkkkk!!! 😆💃🏽

Ladies.....Your body isn’t broken. It’s responding intelligently and it can continue with a new intelligent response, this time with pleasure as a priority! 😏

Want to go deeper?

Free starting point for pleasure education:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords 

women’s pleasure, nervous system and pleasure, female arousal explained, survival mode and intimacy, pleasure and safety, pleasure literacy for women, embodiment and pleasure, somatic pleasure, relearning pleasure, emotional safety and arousal, Desire Different Podcast

If you’ve ever thought “I hate sex,” this episode is for you. Many women don’t hate sex, they hate the pressure, expectation, and performance wrapped around it. When the body doesn’t feel safe, pleasure can’t open, no matter how much desire is there.

This is a re-framing, not a how-to. Nothing is wrong with you, your body has been protecting you bbg! Ahhhh 🤣 , that means babygirl (I blame my seventeen year old 😆)

As we move through December, these episodes are designed to help you slow down, soften, and reconnect with pleasure in a way that feels grounded and honest.

A free starting point for the pleasure education you’ve been missing:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-sensation-error

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: why I hate sex, I hate sex, don’t like sex anymore, dislike sex, dead bedroom, women’s desire, low desire in women, pleasure and nervous system, stress and intimacy, embodiment and pleasure, reconnecting to pleasure, low libido

This episode is a beautiful starting point for reconnecting to your orgasmic pleasure, as we continue our December Soft Reset Arc. I'll tell you all about why....people often ask me what changed in my pleasure story when I became more receptive to orgasm, and I tell them....when I stopped having sex the way a man taught me….and started becoming literate in my own pleasure….everything about my orgasmic potential changed!!

Pleasure literacy is how you de-armor, how you wake your body back up, and how you begin the real journey into deeper, fuller, more orgasmic connection with yourself. It low-key erases the brainwashed BS. We don't have sex like men ladies......we have better sex, women sex 😝🤣

In this episode, we explore what it means to understand the language of your own body....the subtle signals, the quiet openings, the truth beneath the performance. I talk about how false arousal falls away once you become pleasure-literate, and why redefining pleasure on your own terms is essential for real connection.

This conversation lays the foundation for the deeper embodiment work coming in January, where awareness becomes activation.

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords:

feminine embodiment, sensual self-awareness, orgasmic potential, somatic literacy, embodied pleasure, nervous system awakening, authentic arousal, body-based wisdom, inner connection, pleasure education, sensual awakening,

de-armoring practices, feminine nervous system, embodiment journey

In this episode we are sitting inside the start of our December soft reset arc...a month designed to bring you back into alignment before the new year begins! New alignment, new thought, clarity....all of the lady-like things that make us truly bling...."wait what?!" 🤭🤣

Okay so….this one is all about reclaiming yourself: your energy, your identity, your inner voice, your essence. Not by doing more…but by returning inward. *whispers* inward like the way we were before life's fangs got this deep

I talk about how easy it is, especially for women, to scatter ourselves across responsibilities, people, roles, expectations, and emotional labor...and how that leaves us feeling disconnected from our true center. This episode guides you into a gentle internal homecoming. A reminder that the most powerful version of you has never left…she just needs space to breathe again.

December is the month of wonder + reset and this episode is your starting doorway! You’re not reinventing yourself. You’re returning to yourself.

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: reclamation, energy reclamation, realignment, reconnecting to self, women’s empowerment, personal reset, soft reset, December reset, self-return, grounding, inner clarity, emotional realignment, feminine healing, intentional living, new year new me

What if an alien asked you to explain human habits…and you realized none of it makes sense? In this episode, I dive into a wild thought experiment, how would we explain human pleasure, habits, and intimacy to extraterrestrials? And why does our pleasure system feel…wildly unbalanced?

This episode is funny, honest, and a little unhinged in the best way. If you’ve ever felt like something about how we experience pleasure doesn’t add up, this one will have you thinking!

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: human behavior podcast, pleasure gap, female pleasure, sexual inequality, women’s sexuality, modern intimacy, modern relationships, embodiment work, feminine power, nervous system healing, alien thought experiment, why humans are weird, women reclaiming pleasure

(EXPLICIT: Yeah if you’re new here, this one is spicy! 😜🤣) So have you ever bragged about sex but forgot to mention if it actually felt good?! Well....this episode is equal parts funny and food for thought. I’m talking about women who brag, “He fcked the sht outta me,” but never mention if they actually felt pleasure or orgasm.  

We’re unpacking why fast, hard, performance-based sex is holding strong as a weird “flex” but why slowing down is the real power move. Listen....we're finally admitting the actually silliness of speed kissing, rabbit-style sex, and what happens when your foreplay speed hits 94 mph instead of the human default of 7 mph. (Spoiler: you literally blow right past the stop sign where her orgasm was waiting.)

This one is your reminder to read the room, match the energy, and turn your sex stories from smut comedy skits into something closer to orgasmic poetry, that's actually relatable and holding the truth about the sex and pleasure you actually want! Come hereeeeeeee!!!!

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: pleasure education, slow sex, sensual connection, feminine embodiment, orgasmic awareness, sex flex