What do girls expect after marriage ? Equality. But beyond that. Respect. Gone are the days where the families of the Boys are treated deferentially than those of the girls. Today, the circumstances determine that both families garner equal respect and dignity. Just as the partners do. When asked if love superseded respect, the panel was unanimous in their voice. Nothing was more important than respect. They were willing to walk out of a relationship if it falls short on the respect side of things even if they loved the man. 
Such are the women of today.
Manushi Shah and Nayantara Dewan speak about this and more.
This is the last episode of this Season for the #SAAKK series. We will be back with Season 2 soon. Till then, keep watching #shauryaauranokhikikahani. 

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#StateofSiege - Temple Attack is the story of the terrorist attack on Akshardham temple in 2002 in Gandhinagar in Gujarat captured through the eyes of worshippers, NSG commandos, politicians, the affected families, and the terrorists themselves.

Four armed men killed 33 people, including a National Security Guard (NSG) commando and two Gujarat police officers, and injured 80 people. Innocent people were held hostage and ended up as collateral damage before NSG could barge in to save lives. Pressure built up as lawmakers were forced to take a tough call — whether to exchange dreaded terrorists in return for the lives of innocent hostages. We review this movie playing on @zee5.
We also review another hostage thriller #CollarBomb starring Jimmy Shergill and Asha Negi streaming on @hotstarusa.
So all in all a week of hostage drama plots. Enjoy the reviews and of course a little excerpt of our conversation with the Shaurya Anokhi Fandom speaking about the issues that a woman must navigate as she steps into her in-laws home as the Indian system of patriarchy makes her a lower person in relationship than the man she is married to. How would you like to see this change ?

Tell us. 

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The Indian Son in law is akin to God whereas the Indian Daughter in Law is  All thanks to vicious prejudices, the term, ‘in laws’ is seen by most women in India as scary. Young women dreaming of a happy life getting married are often worried about their freedom. The fault lies in the mentality at large that is responsible for depicting people in a certain way. Also, for people to think that they are entitled.

Our society isn’t very balanced when it comes to marriage. Right from the outset, it is the man who gets the unfair privilege, and the woman is expected to follow the stereotypes. This is why the parents of the man become entitled whereas the parents of the woman get ignored. A woman is expected to leave everything and not follow her dreams. 
The fandom talks about how they see this inequity play out in their lives. 

Shreya says that that the Indian marriage whether it is arranged or love, is like "Russian Roulette" but she is going into her arranged relationship not like the mommy she is expected to be but as an equal. 

Manushi has the same expectations. She is friends with her Mother in law, who was apprehensive in her Son's choice initially and now supports her. She feels communication is primary in establishing not only her place but also her space in the household that may be her home of the future. 

How will these new age daughter in laws redefine the "daughter-in-law" relationship of the Indian patriarchy.

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What's more fun on a July 4 weekend than a jump off a fully functional airplane , walk into a pool, eat amazing food, hang out with friends, that cannabis cookie and then watch Haseen Dillruba. Cuz, you know - you need your brains right there......

Hahaha
No- serious. We also watched Skater Girl. 
Hear our reviews.
Have fun with our takes and the crazies that come with it....
hehehehehe.

Happy Friyayaay
SMS

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In most eastern cultures, filial piety is not a choice, but rather as an unconditional obligation of the child. Respect and obedience are therefore expected of the children by the parents in this codification of patriarchy.

“Respect” – that oft-repeated, irrationally understood mommy of all goddamn family ideals. It surpasses logic and debates and substitutes rational disagreements with excellent old-fashioned subservience.

So many of us grow up trusting that this is how it must be; that only “badtameez bachche” contend, query, and dissent. The good, sanskaari kids? 

There is nothing wrong, per se, with parental approval. In fact, I easily believe that our families do want the best for us.

And when we listen to their tattered risk-averse opinion, it often works out simply fine.

The problem, though, arises when things take an irrational and totalitarian route. When we can spot moral cracks in the directives and beliefs and principles passed on to us, and instead of flagging concerns or asking questions, we swallow them in a swig of quiet obedience.

The dictum of blind, absolute respect is almost dictatorial. It is, in fact, turning us into a society that has lost its ability to think on its own. 

When Shaurya and Anokhi question the norm, they are labeled as detractors because we are, as brown people born under the shadow of expectation. 
The Shaurya and Anokhi Fandom speak about this and more in this week's podcast.
Hear Supriya and Shreya in this episode. 

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Manushi, Shreya, Sumi, and Supriya talk about the antiquated customs surrounding marriages and how no one has ever done an intelligent exploration of the reason why we do the weeks of long wedding festivities rich with food and drink, dance, and Bollywood. Why the bastion that these traditions have governed over years and ages is robust enough to go unimpeded.

And mostly – for whatever it is worth to quote Mr. Bachchan in Mohabatein parampara, pratishtha, anushaasan. 

Hear them debate the customs and rituals that definitely need to be rooted out. Which ones do you want to abolish? Do you agree with them?

Let's hear your voice. 
This episode was recorded before the telecast of the content of the episode where Anokhi questions the custom of repaying the debt of the parents. And Devi speaks about riwaaj.
Man-Made Riwaaj is just the means people use to control the behavior of their families. The real reason is that people like Devi and Tej fear change.
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As Anokhi hurts her relationship with Shaurya by lying to him in the whole Indian tradition of sacrifice, he questions her rights to donate him and take decisions on his behalf as if he did not matter to the relationship or his desires does not. He walks out of her life. What she thinks is sacrifice, we think is selfish and self-centered thought. The fandom discusses how the entire idea of sacrifice and mental health impacts the thinking of women in the patriarchy in South Asian societies. 

Hear Sumi, Supriya, Manushi go deeper into the issues this brings out. 

ShauryaAurAnokhiKiKahani telecasts on @starplus at 7p Monday to Saturday week in India and anytime on Hotstar 

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Oppression in lesser-privileged families where women are always silenced cannot be wished away by a few privileged speeches. The savior complex becomes more pronounced when Sasha says, “Hum jaise auratein ladte hain taaki ap jaisi auraton ko apni duniya mein ladaai na karni pade.”
Shaadistan on Hotstar is a story of three women who are facing their own demons of empowerment in their own chasms.
Scott and Miraal have a go at it.
Love and  Shukla Review is Next and Miraal is the one who has watched this movie so she tells us about this endearing story of Shukla a newly-married rickshaw driver, who struggles to connect with his painfully shy bride Lakshmi (Taneea Rajawat). Their woes are compounded by his friends’ bad advice and his family’s inability to understand the concept of personal space.
We then speak to the fandom of Shaurya Anokhi ki Kahani, Supriya, Sumi, Shreya and Manushi about the concept of Sacrifice so deeply embedded in the core of the Indian way of life. We also speak to Karanvir Sharma and Debattama Sharma about their popular show. 
What a fun show- Hope you enjoy listening in. 
Xx

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In the sacrificial context of the early period of the Vedas, an act (karman) ensured the stability of the deity and the world order governed by that deity but could also fulfill one’s personal desires. In the period of the Brahmanas, the act of sacrifice came to take on an autonomous role in creating and sustaining the cosmos. The deity loses importance and the priest who offers the sacrifice grows in importance; the priest has the ability to release the power of brahman—the sacred word that makes the sacrifice efficacious. Speculation thus arose as to the self of the brahman performing the sacrifice. Who was the real performer who held this power of brahman? Thus, the individual self (atman) of the priest was identified with this universal brahman power. 

In a lot of psychology studies over the years, participating couples have found a deeper sense of relationship satisfaction if they would sacrifice for each other. But love should not drain us, it should nurture us.

 If it is love that is making Anokhi want the best for Shaurya, should she not be happy for him? Why is she feeling all this pain? Why is she crying for something she herself orchestrated? After all, did she not want the best for him more than the best for her own self? That is because Shaurya and Anokhi can disassociate each other from themselves but can they separate their emotions from each other? Is this a sacrifice then?

In our Vedic culture, sacrifice is extremely glorified. We raise our children by sacrificing for them, we educate them by sacrificing for them. We teach our families the tradition of sacrifice before self. And we tell them that this is the way to achieve glory. 

We teach them that it is a sacrifice that is the secret of progressing in virtue. We are told that it is the stepping stone to the highest powers of glorified divinity.

Hear Supriya, Sumi, Manushi, and Shreya from #ShakhiFanTeam of the #ShauryaAurAnokhiKiKahani Fandom speak about Anokhi's behavior with Shaurya and how the culture of sacrifice needs to be replaced by love.

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The fandom of Shaurya Aur Anokhi ki Kahani has been making waves by creating a pathway for themselves in taking the issues that the series deals with in terms of social content to the next level.
The fans not only discuss these issues in highly animated panels but also create dialogue, engage in meaningful conversation, and build a plan for their communities to embrace change in thoughts and actions.
We at Desis.LIVE are so grateful to be the catalysts for this movement of advocacy that we have helped these fans create and we hope to help them become bearers of change for the communities that they represent as Influencers.
#AgentsofChange

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