Luke Wesley initially appeared on Episode 109, but our conversation felt unfinished in a lot of ways.

We've hung out a couple of times in the year since recording, and finally got it together to press the record button. What came out is a really transparent, sometimes funny, sometimes dark conversation about loss--loss of connection (due to the pandemic and loved ones moving away), loss of income (struggling to make ends meet as a New Yorker without a stable, corporate job), and the loss of his mom last year, and all of the complicated feelings that can dredge up.

Hope you enjoy the episode.

I've had a few coaches and mental health practitioners on the show over the years, but few have seemed as genuine as Gregory Flynn. Based in Seattle, Greg is the host of a podcast called "The Bind" and co-founded The Seattle Men's Circle, which started right as the COVID-19 pandemic took hold in 2020 and continues to this day.

Greg and I talk about his journey and how it continues to this day, we discuss surviving and thriving in middle age. We talk about how cisgendered white men can handle the guilt and shame they feel in their own bodies and how they can show up best for others--and there's much more.

Enjoy the conversation, check out more of Greg's work here. And you can follow him on IG here.

I say this all the time, I know: this is a good one!

Micah R is the host and creator of a YouTube series called Realistically Free. 

He and I initially connected for an episode of his podcast, and we talked for two hours and change. Then the internet ate it. I hate the internet sometimes.

We then talked for almost two hours for Detox. Thankfully a) the internet didn't eat it this time and b) I was able to edit our conversation down to about 80 super interesting minutes.

One thing that never occurred to me before is the perspective that many of our transmasculine friends have, similar in a lot of ways that racial minorities or gay people have-where your ability to be empathic can be magnified due to being socialized in a way that runs counter to who you are. I mean, we live in a very white, heteronormative, cisgender, male-dominated society, right? Anyone that runs counter to that has the benefit (and the curse, because this shit ain't easy) of essentially living two (or more) life experiences simultaneously.

Anyway, Micah and I talk about everything from his bout with homelessness to losing his father at a young age to shopping for a penis. I hope you enjoy this conversation--hit me up and let me know what you think!

Our latest conversation is with actor, writer and author Edward Miskie, who is based in New York City.

Edward hightailed it out of his rural Pennsylvania town almost immediately after graduating from high school not only because he wanted to pursue a career in theater, but because he was outed by a church elder when he was still a teenager. He never looked back, and has sustained a career as an actor, voice over artist and author with a book entitled "Cancer, Musical Theater and Other Chronic Illnesses". 

As you may infer from the book title, Edward is also a survivor of a rare form of lymphoma, which put his career and life on hold and also revealed some not-so-great truths about people he considered close.

Listen to more of Edward's journey in this episode. I hope you enjoy!

CW; descriptions of physical and sexual assault.

This episode features an interview with Tyler Gobble, an artist based in Indiana. Tyler and I chat about his rural upbringing and the positives and negatives that come with that. We go in depth about his experiences with bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder, and we talk about how those experiences have shaped his relationships over the years. There's a lot to unpack in this episode, but this conversation caused me to think a lot about context, nuance, owning your narrative even when your actions reflect badly on you, forgiveness from others, forgiving others, and forgiving yourself.

My guest for this episode is entertainment lawyer Tyrone Scott. We've had this chat on the books probably since late 2020, and I'm glad we were finally able to make this happen.

Tyrone was brought up as a military brat, all over the US. He was inspired to study law by an episode of "The Fresh Prince of Bel Air" and moved to NYC the day after passing the bar to pursue his career. There have been a lot of twists and turns over the course of his story, but now Tyrone is in a position where he can help get others (especially people of color) into spaces that we are normally not prominent in.

Me and Tyrone also discuss his recent marriage, what it was like growing up gay in a military household, his (very pricey) love for Beyoncé, and more. It was a great conversation (as you can tell by the somewhat lengthy running time), and I hope you enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed having it!

Hi Folks!

this episode features coach & creator Ahmad Jooma, who I believe is my first guest from the UK! One of Ahmad's missions is to help young people conquer fear by using art, and one of the ways he does so is via his character "Shook Man". He and I chat about the origins of this character, as well as his own journey to self-confidence. You'll hear a lot of very familiar Detoxpod buzzwords like "authenticity" and "vulnerability". Why? Because those qualities are fucking important (as overused as that terminology is getting).

Enjoy the episode.

This episode finds me chatting with Larry Jaffee, who started and runs an initiative called Making Vinyl, which focuses on the manufacturing and upkeep of vinyl production in the music industry. Larry also wrote a book called Record Store Day: The Most Improbable Comeback of the 21st Century, about the re-emergence of vinyl records over the course of the last fifteen years or so (something I, as a major music nerd, have been keeping a keen eye on).

Larry goes deep for this one. We discuss their growing up in the racially fraught Sixties, busing and being a part of "white flight" out of NYC into Long Island, we talk about relationships, parenthood and divorce, and we talk about Larry's ongoing quest to come to terms with their non-binary gender identity. 

Anyway, our assigned hour went super fast and we had to do a hard stop because we both had other commitments, but rest assured, there will be a Part II at some point. In the meantime, enjoy!

Hey Everyone, this week's episode is a chat with musician (and my former co-worker) Sean McNamara. Sean and I talk about culture shock (he grew up in suburban Connecticut and went to college in New Orleans), grief and loss (his mother passed away when he was in his early twenties), dad rock (Sean is a white guy in his early thirties--i feel like that demo splits into three camps: hip-hop fan, Wilco fan, and redneck bro-country fan), therapy, anxiety and more.

Find Sean on Twitter at @listentoseanmc

Find Sean on IG at @seanmcmusic

Johnny Gonzalez is an L.A. based/NYC born multi-disciplinary artist. He is Grammy nominated for his work with H.E.R. and currently co-hosts a podcast called "BIIGGER Than Our Dreams", based on his experiences being a plus-sized queer POC artist. I was fortunate to guest on an episode a few months back.

Johnny and I talk about the masculine/feminine dynamic in queer culture and "signaling"/stereotypes. We, of course, dive deep into intersectional identities and feelings of belonging, finding out what it takes to become comfortable in your own skin. It's a really good conversation, and I hope you enjoy it.

Find YAWNYBLEW here: https://yawnyblew.com/ and on most socials as "YAWNYBLEW".

My appearance on the "BIIGGER Than Our Dreams" podcast can be found here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Va2Hw5s8OyQ&t=41s