Dialoguing with Resh Podcast

It crystallised for me was that Covid-19 has created a lot of turbulence and devastation in the lives of many. Our lives have changed since the outbreak. Whether it being learning a new skill, doing things differently or changing of routine, there is a degree of acceptance within us rendering new ways of thinking and doing. The pandemic has inculcate the importance of appreciating the little things in life that does not cost us a thing. Like kindness and generosity. We will see many more future disasters in our time. But when we remain connected and innovative in our approach, we can combat any challenge that comes our way with courage and determination.

As Nelson Mandala eloquently asserted "There is no passion to be found playing small in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living”. Being a non-conformist can be hard especially, when your ideologies and rituals are incongruent with the mindsets and behaviours of the majority populace. Every criticism and disparaging comment however has fuelled me to dream bigger, to think harder, to enact firmer and to behave better. By upholding an oppositional stance, I realised conformity is unhelpful. It doesn’t teach you

to be authentic and transformative. Do not be reduced by other people’s affairs and agendas. Rather lead the way with courage and expansiveness.

This podcast is dedicated to my late attah (grandmother) and late fur baby Rusty. I am grateful to have been loved, to be loved and to be able to love. Rusty and my grandma taught me the importance and magic of unconditional love. They showed me what love looked like in a pragmatic form. I am yet to meet someone like my grandma. I don’t think anyone can live up to her standards. Not even me. But I will continue to do my best to live by her teachings and Rusty’s to liberate myself and others around me.

Stop being the prisoner of your past affairs. Ameliorate yourself for what awaits you. The best revenge is to move on and let it go. The best ego is to be brave enough to let it go. The best life is to forgive and let it go. Commit and invest in your future not your past. If you hold onto resentment, only you will suffer. If you hold on to hatred, only you will suffer. If you hold on to anger, only you will suffer. Centre and channel the divine light within you and you shall be blessed and served abundantly.

Episode 8 pertains to ‘Engage or Disengage: You Decide’. We have a choice to either engage or disengage with and from people, no matter the circumstances. When I choose to engage even with the slyest of people is because, I realise they need light. When you radiate light, people will be drawn to you. We must however enact caution and diligence when dealing with parasites. Those that I remain engaged with, are typically ones that are genuine and are fundamentally good people. I use the word fundamentally as no one is perfect but when one is ‘fundamentally good’, they are likely to uphold rudimentary human virtues that will ameliorate others and themselves. As Maya Angelou eloquently posited, “You know what’s right. Just do right. You don’t really have to ask anybody. Right might not be expedient. Right might not be profitable. But it will satisfy your soul”. This quote inspires and informs my conduct in how I engage and disengage with others. Do your magic. And leave when you see it as fit.

Episode 7 pertains to ‘choices’ and ‘controls’. We live in a world surrounded by unending chaos and turbulence. No matter how much we question and try to make sense out of it, we only have control with what’s in our control. This is where choices come in. The choices we make determines the outcomes we experience. Fundamentally we have a choice to either be reduced or to be enhanced. Our choices dictate our controls. Our controls inform our mindsets and deportments. Get your choices and controls right darling ones.

Episode 6 is devoted towards unpacking meaning, momentum and magic. Three distinct ideas yet intersecting in nature. Meaning pertains to the canvassing of perspectives to aid with momentum. With that in mind, magic is experienced. Magic to me is the state of being enlightened. This precept derives from Buddhism. A thought-provoking episode indeed which informs and guides my very life conduct. Enjoy.

Episode 5 is devoted towards being enough. We all have those ‘never enough’ feelings. This never enough feeling can manifest as debilitation and devastation. This sense of being not enough is indicative of our internalised losses. But do we continue living like this? Or do we validate our authentic selves through honesty and transformation. What you seek for is, what you receive. If you quest for growth, it will eventuate. If you quest for shortcuts, you become a shortcut. Take control. Be in control. Aim to be a better version of yourself every single day.

Episode 4 is devoted towards change. I unpack on change by illuminating on the transtheoretical model of behavioural change and offer recommendations in terms of supporting change promotion. As Maya Angelou eloquently asserted, “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty”. A quote that informs and guides my life conduct pertaining to change.

Episode 3 is devoted towards gratitude. Gratitude can be traced back to animals where they have been known to engage in reciprocal altruism. For me personally, gratitude is an attitude which is enacted and deployed in my actions, behaviours and reasoning. I have offered some practical examples in how we can use gratitude to support positive wellbeing. Rather than fixate and preoccupy one’s self on how bad life is, revolutionise yourself to challenge dated perceptions and myopic reasonings. Most importantly, celebrate champion and ameliorate yourself.