Trigger Warning: sexual assault, trauma responses, grief, self-blame. Listen with care!Trigger Warning: sexual assault, trauma responses, grief, self-blame. Listen with care!Trigger Warning: sexual assault, trauma responses, grief, self-blame!

In honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month:

This episode is for the ones who survived and never said a word.
For the ones who went back to their abuser and hated themselves for it.
For the ones carrying shame that was never theirs.

I’m sharing my story — the trauma, the silence, the unbearable grief, and the choices I made in the name of survival. I’m talkin’ about what no one tells you: how sexual trauma impacts your mind, your body, your relationships, and your sense of self.

Some days I forget it happened. Other days, especially around the anniversary, I feel like I’m drowning.

I want you to know that however you’re navigating this — whether you’ve shut down, gone numb, become hypersexual, or found yourself going back just to feel powerful again — you are not crazy. You are surviving.

And you are not alone.

It wasn’t your fault. It was never your fault.

Grab your liquor and your bud- shit's about to get real...

Hey yall hey! Let’s clear something up right out the gate: the crowd shouting “Hosanna” on Palm Sunday was not the same crowd yelling “Crucify Him” by Friday. That oversimplified version? It’s cute for a shout cue, but it doesn’t hold up under historical scrutiny.

In this episode, we’re breaking down Holy Week with fresh eyes and raw truth. We’ll explore the political tension between the Jewish people and the Roman Empire, how corrupt religious leaders manipulated the system, and why Jesus’ nighttime trial was illegal under Jewish law.

We’re not just telling the story—you’re getting the why behind every betrayal, every tear, and every act of resistance. This is Jesus in full color: the radical, the disruptor, the one they had to kill because He was a threat to power!

Now this is just my interpretation...Another perspective if you will. Anyway, grab ya stuff and let's unpack this- together.

In a world that tells us to "just have faith" and smile through the pain, what happens to those of us who are barely holding it together? In this episode, we unpack the raw, radical truth of John 11:35—“Jesus wept.”

This ain’t your typical Sunday school lesson.

We’re talking about how the church—and the culture—silences grief, rage, anxiety, and despair in the name of faith. From the grief of Black folks during ongoing civil unrest, to the LGBTQ+ community facing rejection, to parents of neurodivergent kids fighting for basic support—we name it all.

And we ask the hard questions:
✨ What would Jesus do in times like these?
✨ Why does the church shame emotions Jesus Himself felt?
✨ How do we stop over-spiritualizing pain and start showing up for each other?

It’s time we stop silencing pain and start making space for it. Let’s get real. Let’s get free. Grab ya liquor. Grab ya bud- let's ride baby!

Whew… this one right here? It’s personal. We’re closing out the Grieving the Living series and wrapping up this whole church hurt convo—and trust, we’re not holding back.

We’re talking about the kind of hurt that hits different. Hurt from leadership. Hurt from folks in the pews. The shady stuff from “secondary leadership” who swear they’re called but cause more chaos than comfort. And yeah, we’re sharing our own stories—the messy, complicated, still-trying-to-make-sense-of-it stories.

But this ain’t just about pain. We’re talking about where we are now. The healing. The prayers we didn’t wanna pray. The anger we had to admit. The moments we felt like walking away from church and God. And most importantly—where we’re headed next.

If you’ve ever sat in silence thinking, “Why did they do me like that?” this one’s for you. You’re not alone. And you’re not crazy. Healing is messy, but it’s happening. One honest convo at a time. Grab ya liquor. Grab ya bud. Let's talk baby.

Whewwww! This was a conversation we needed to have. In this episode, I dive into the real and raw truth about Black mental health and the Black church—how our faith has been a source of healing but also, at times, a barrier to getting the help we need. We talk about why so many of us avoid therapy, the harm of over-spiritualizing mental health struggles, and, most importantly, how we can do better.

Listen, Jesus and therapy can go hand in hand. Prayer is powerful, but so is professional help. We have to stop telling people to ‘just pray about it’ and start making space for real healing—mind, body, and spirit.

I had so much fun recording this episode, and I hope it blesses you. If it resonates, share it with your church, your family, your friends—anybody who needs to hear this. And if you’re struggling, please know you are not alone, and you deserve to heal. Grab ya liquor and ya bud big baby, and let's talk about it!

Resources to Check Out:
📌 Therapy for Black Girls – A directory of Black female therapists + mental health resources
📌 Therapy for Black Men – Culturally competent therapy resources for Black men
📌 The Loveland Foundation – Therapy scholarships for Black women and girls
📌 Black Mental Health Alliance – Mental health education and support tailored for our community
📌 National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) – Support groups and resources for individuals and families

This ain't your typical "be still and know" episode—this is real talk about one of the hardest things to do when life gets messy: keeping quiet. When your character is under attack, when lies are being spread, when people are questioning your integrity, everything in you wants to defend yourself, clap back, and set the record straight. But what if the real test isn’t in proving your point but in trusting that God already sees and knows?

It’s easy to be quiet when things are good, but when you’re being misunderstood, lied on, or flat-out disrespected, silence feels like weakness. The truth is, though, that shutting up takes more strength than speaking sometimes. It takes faith to believe that God will fight for you when your name is being dragged through the mud. It takes discipline to resist the urge to fix what only He can handle.

In this impromptu episode, we’re diving into why silence is often the loudest statement you can make. If you’re in a season where you want to defend yourself but feel like God is telling you to be still, this one’s for you. Let’s talk about the weight of waiting, the power of restraint, and the faith it takes to let God be your vindicator. No fluff, no sugarcoating—just raw truth.

Get ya liquor. Get ya bud. Tap in.

Grief ain't just for the dead. Sometimes, it's for the ones still walking around, leaving you with a heart full of what-ifs. In this episode, we’re getting real about the gut-wrenching reality of grieving a living mom. Maybe she’s toxic, absent, or just never showed up the way you needed. That pain? It's valid, and it's time we talk about it.

I’ll be sharing my own experience of grieving my womb carrier and the complicated feelings that come with it. Plus, we’ll dive into the heartbreak of my former pastor's role in my story, because grief doesn’t just come from family — sometimes it’s the people we trusted most.

We’re diving into the heartbreak of longing for a mother who couldn't be what you deserved, navigating the resentment, and finding your own version of healing. No sugarcoating here — just raw, unfiltered truth about what it means to mourn the relationship you never had. Whether you're setting boundaries, cutting ties, or just trying to make sense of it all, this one's for you.

Expect some tears, probably some laughs, and a whole lot of real talk. Because healing doesn't mean pretending it didn't hurt — it means owning that pain and finding a way to move forward.

Grab your liquor, grab your bud — we're in for a wild ride.

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Church hurt is one of the deepest wounds a person can experience because it comes from a place that was supposed to be safe, healing, and rooted in love. When that trust is broken—whether through betrayal, hypocrisy, manipulation, or exclusion—it can shake not only your faith in people but sometimes even your faith in God.

Grieving church hurt is real, and it’s necessary. It’s okay to acknowledge the pain. It’s okay to admit that what happened to you wasn’t right. Too often, people are told to just "pray about it" or "forgive and move on," but healing doesn’t work like that. Just like any other form of grief, church hurt requires processing, time, and sometimes even distance from the place or people who caused the harm.

You might go through stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance. Maybe you’ve wrestled with the idea of walking away from church altogether, or maybe you’ve questioned if you even belong in the body of Christ. Let me tell you this: God is not the same as the people who misrepresented Him. His love remains, even when people fail.

So how do we grieve and heal? We start by acknowledging the hurt, not suppressing it. We set boundaries where they’re needed. We allow ourselves to unlearn toxic theology that kept us bound in cycles of shame and guilt. And most importantly, we lean into God, who sees the hurt even when others dismiss it. Healing is possible, but it begins with giving yourself permission to grieve.

If you’ve been hurt by the church, I want you to know—you’re not alone, and your pain is valid. But healing? Healing is also real, and it’s available to you.

Grab ya bud! Grab ya liquor- it’s time…

Listen, being a single mom is not for the weak. You’re out here surviving postpartum hormones, dodging deadbeat dad excuses, and trying to secure a village that actually shows up. It’s giving superhero energy—but even superheroes need a break.

In this episode, we’re talking about the real side of single motherhood. The late nights, the stretch marks, the “Oh, so you just sent that $20?” texts, and the struggle of balancing it all while keeping your sanity (barely). We’re unpacking the importance of community, how to build a village that actually supports you, and why self-care is not just a cute Instagram quote—it’s survival.

If you’ve ever cried in the shower, side-eyed your baby’s father, or Googled “Can I run away for the weekend?”—this one’s for you. Tune in, laugh through the pain, and remember: You got this!

🎧Grab your liquor and your bud- Press play, and send this to a single mom who deserves all the love!

Have you ever been ghosted? I mean talking today and they disappear tomorrow? In this episode, I’m talking about being ghosted by my best friend. We were tight, locked in, sharing dreams, secrets, and way too many inside jokes. And then? Vanished. No explanation, no closure—just radio silence. I’m breaking down the shock, the confusion, and the emotional rollercoaster of losing someone who was supposed to be forever. But more than that, we’re talking about how to heal, how to let go, and how to move forward with your peace intact. If you’ve ever been left wondering what the hell happened?—this one's for you. Grab your drinks and your bud (and maybe a piece of tissue) and ride this wave with ya girl...