dining with nadiva Ep. 75 Guest Host: Michael and Delise Diva’s Table Topic: How do you walk away from a friendship that is unevenly yolk? / Do you walk away from a friendship that no longer serves you? Word of the day/ Definition: Parse; To make sense of something by closely examining the details or breaking down its components.  Example Sentence: “I asked a couple of students to parse these sentences for me.” Featured Restaurant: Exodus Real Estate Owners: Samantha Lamptey  Address: Based in New Jersey Contact: Through website… samanthalamptey.com Bio:  Samantha Lamptey is the Broker/ CEO of Exodus Real Estate, a residential and commercial real estate agency, and co-owner of Exodus Development, a real estate development firm which is based in New Jersey. She graduated from St. John’s University located in Queens, NY in 2011 and earned a Bachelor's in Communications. Following graduation, Samantha worked for Sirius/XM radio while she pursued a career in real estate.  Currently, Samantha is expanding the Exodus brand with Real Estate together with her husband, Sellasie Lamptey, Managing Partner of Exodus Architecture & Engineering. Samantha specializes in contemporary, luxury, smart homes in Livingston community. Samantha takes pride and honor in providing the finest service to clients ranging from first time home buyers to seasoned developers and builders. She is the recipient of 2015, 2016 and 2017, 2018 and 2019 NJ Realtors® Circle of Excellence Sales Award®  Diva’s Table Topic: How do you walk away from a friendship that is unevenly yolk? / Do you walk away from a friendship that no longer serves you? Stats:  https://thoughtcatalog.com • Let Go Of The Friendships That No Longer Serve You  • It doesn’t matter how long you have known someone, how many great memories you share, how many values you have in common, or how many things you’ve experienced together — sometimes you just have to let go.  • You have to let go, because you’re the one always texting first. You have to let go, because you’re the one making plans to meet up for breakfast or lunch, just for them to cancel on you at the last minute. You have to let go, because you’re the one doing all the visiting when they won’t even take 30 minutes out of their not-so-busy schedule to come and see your new apartment and it’s been six months since you’ve moved in. You have to let go, because they never pitch in to celebrate your little victories with you or even the big ones, like when you graduated from university. You have to let go, because you’re only good enough when they need something from you. You have to let go, because you cannot be the only one making all the effort.  • Word of the Day/ Definition: Parse; To make sense of something by closely examining the details or breaking down its components.  • Scripture: Proverbs 13:19-21 A fulfilled desire is sweet to the soul, but turning from evil is disgusting to fools. Whoever walks with wise people will be wise, but whoever associates with fools will suffer. Disaster hunts down sinners, but righteous people are rewarded with good

dining with nadiva Ep. 74 Guest Host: Michael and Delise  Diva’s Table Topic: Do you involve yourself with someone who has a history? Word of the day/ Definition:    Example Sentence: “She was an instant celebrity, feted by the media.” Featured Restaurant: GoodeLiving Owners: Simone Address: 321 Glenwood Ave, Bloomfield, NJ 07003  Hours: Wed- Sun 10am-5pm Phone: (973) 337-5339 Bio: GoodeLiving, LLC is New Jersey’s only full service Herbal store & Yoni Studio. This allows them to provide a 100% focus on you and your holistic health & wellness! They provide herbal products for both men & women. Our Yoni Studio is a Women Only facility that provides a sacred space for women to safely convene.  GoodeLiving is dedicated to breaking down the taboo associated with a woman’s vaginal health. With this in mind, they offer an assortment of herbal, natural and organic treatments and products dedicated to your needs. Them are very proud to have been in business since 2016, providing services in the NJ, NY, PA and surrounding areas with ways for everyone to heal themselves with natural herbal treatments without the effects of traditional western medicine. Featured Dishes: Moon Ease:  The gentle flavors of raspberry and spearmint compliment the more earthy notes of marshmallow, valerian, and skullcap.  Peace Tea:  With a smooth floral and mint flavor with just a hint of spice, this uplifting blend provides a delightful way to unwind. Happy Man: Sweet and sunny aroma with a lively and uplifting linger, and an initially bold, earthy flavor with a honey-like finish. Diva’s Table Topic: Do you involve yourself with someone who has a history? Stats: In some instances, your partner's past might be of concern: Everyone has a past. What you really want to make a note of is how your partner talks about theirs, and if it seems like they've changed after making mistakes or bad decisions in their past. "Your biggest concern is in seeing: Have they learned from their past or are they repeating the same patterns?" "That's hard to tell in the beginning, but you can pay attention to how they speak about their past partners and respond when asked about their past." One major thing to look out for is how they talk about their exes. But some things in their past have no bearing on your relationship at all. Some things should never impact your trust in your partner? How many people they've dated or slept with before you. "How many sexual partners they have had," "Don't ask if you don't want to know. And they are with you now, so focus on that. [Also,] how many people they've dated casually. You just want to know about their major relationships — if they haven't had any, that could also be a red flag that they have intimacy issues." So, how should you handle concerns or jealousy issues? Wondering or having concerns about your partner's past is pretty normal, so what should you do if you're feeling that way? Honesty with a touch of diplomacy" is the way to go. "Why do you want to know?" you should ask yourself. "Why are you concerned? Is it a gut feeling or are you feeling insecure? It's important to check in with yourself before you have the conversation." "Or better yet, you can lead with sharing something personal about your past and then invite them to share back," "The key is to never make them feel like they have to be on the defensive." Word of the Day/ Definition: Feted; to be honored or celebrated. Scripture: Ephesians 1:7 In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace.

DINING WITH NADIVA Ep. 72 PART 2 CALL – IN SHOW Call I #862-621-9536 GUEST HOSTS:                 Michael and Christina DIVA’S TABLE TOPIC: Disaster Dates that turn into Divine Diva Encounters WORD OF THE DAY / DEFINITION: Fervency – Passion and intensity; a strong intense emotion. EXAMPLE SENTENCE: Normally, Charles is such a quiet person with not much to say, but if you talk to him about the 19th century literature, he’ll suddenly talk with great fervency. SCRIPTURE:  1 Peter 3:4; 1 Peter 3:7 Amplified Biblebut let it be [the inner beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, [one that is calm and self-controlled, not overanxio

DINING WITH NADIVA Ep. 72 GUEST HOSTS:                 Michael and Christina DIVA’S TABLE TOPIC: Disaster Dates that turn into Divine Diva Encounters WORD OF THE DAY / DEFINITION:   EXAMPLE SENTENCE: Normally, Charles is such a quiet person with not much to say, but if you talk to him about the 19th century literature, he’ll suddenly talk with great fervency. FEATURED RESTAURANT: Restaurant: Sit’n Pretty Cuisine Owner: Pretty Lily IG Info: @sitnprettycuisine Online Business page on Instagram:  BIO:   Owner:  Pretty Lily  Caterer, Private Chef, Special event, Pop up events and corporate meetings. DISHES:  TBD DIVA’S TABLE TOPIC: Disaster Dates that turn into Divine Diva Encounters WORD OF THE DAY / DEFINITION: : Fervency – Passion and intensity; a strong intense emotion. EXAMPLE SENTENCE: Normally, Charles is such a quiet person with not much to say, but if you talk to him about the 19th century literature, he’ll suddenly talk with great fervency SCRIPTURE:  1 Peter 3:4; 1 Peter 3:7 Amplified Biblebut let it be [the inner beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, [one that is calm and self-controlled, not overanxious, but serene and spiritually mature] which is very precious in the sight of God.

GUEST HOSTS:                 Serena and Christina DIVA’S TABLE TOPIC: Southern Men vs. Northern Men  WORD OF THE DAY / DEFINITION: Titular – Existing in Title only. Having the title without the duties or responsibilities of the title. EXAMPLE SENTENCE: It’s not secret that Mr. Butterlocks is the Titular director of the company, and it’s really his wife that makes all the decisions. FEATURED RESTAURANT: Restaurant: The Lomo Truck (Peruvian Cuisine) Owner: Cesar IG Info: the_lomos_truck 952 McBride Ave Woodland Park, NJ  Tel: 678-670-0315Website: www.lomotruck.com Online Business page on Instagram:  BIO:   Owner:  Cesar Valdivia  In 2016, The Lomo Truck got its first permanent spot on the corner of Madison and Getty avenues in Paterson. Since 2016, Valdivia has bought a second truck, a brand-new van dedicated to deliveries and the crown jewel: The Lomo Truck HQ, his first brick-and-mortar location. And he has eyes on expanding and franchising. The Lomo Truck HQ, on McBride Avenue in Woodland Park, opened the last week of December, and business is booming. The takeout-only spot follows the same color scheme as the trucks — white and red, to symbolize the Peruvian flag — and on one wall, a mural of the corner of Madison and Getty avenues as a tribute to where it all started.  Valdivia's father and his brother, Victor Ortega, are now both partners. His father helped provide the capital for the expansion, and Valdivia described Ortega as the "backbone" of the operation. It isn't just Peruvians who stop by. People from a multitude of backgrounds come to fill up on lomo saltado, chicken and beef chaufa (Peruvian fried rice), and salchipapa (french fries with sliced hot dogs, drizzled with a ketchup and mayonnaise mix).  "I can adapt to the Peruvian, to the non-Peruvian, to the businessman, to the street kid," Valdivia said. "Just come enjoy a good meal." DISHES:  Tripleta - The triple sandwich is a Peruvian classic, consisting of three slices of bread, avocado, tomatoes, and chicken or egg salad. Civiche Fritura - Fritters  DIVA’S TABLE TOPIC: Southern men vs. Northern Men.   WORD OF THE DAY / DEFINITION: Titular – Existing in Title only. Having the title without the duties or responsibilities of the title.

DIVA’S TABLE TOPIC: When your In-Laws live too close.  WORD OF THE DAY / DEFINITION: Citified – Anything related to the urban lifestyle of living. SOURCE: www.womenshealthmag.com Researchers followed 373 couples since they were first wed in 1986. In each couple, both the husband and wife rated how close they felt to their in-laws on a scale of one to four. Marriages in which the wife reported having a close relationship with her in-laws had a 20 percent higher risk of divorce than couples where the wife didn’t report a close relationship. Conversely, marriages where the husband reported being close with his in-laws had a 20 percent lower probability of separation than couples where the husband reported a relationship that wasn’t as close 1. 1. Draw the Lines (with Your Spouse) Beforehand Make sure to discuss with your spouse what makes you uncomfortable and how much interaction with his folks you would prefer. 1. 2. Let Him Do the Dirty Work  If there’s an issue with his parents, ask your husband to handle it first. This strategy has a dual benefit: It guarantees that he’s the primary guardian of the relationship with them, rather than you; and also, it helps avoid unnecessary additional conflict due to misunderstandings—he knows them best, after all 1. 3. Never Badmouth Him to His Folks Avoid talking about your marriage with your in-laws, Orbuch says. Especially avoid talking about troubles between you and their son, because it can open up a line of communication (either critical or “helpful”) that isn’t appropriate. 1. 4. Prepare Your Responses If your in-laws frequently say offensive things, or make you feel as if they’re meddling or judging your lifestyle, prepare responses to their common quips in advance of seeing them. “Instead of being defensive, respond with a simple answer and move on to another topic, or shift focus to someone else at the table,” Syrtash says. SCRIPTURE:   Romans 12:9-10 says, “Love must be completely sincere. Hate what is evil, hold on to what is good. Love one another warmly as Christians, and be eager to show respect for one another”

DINING WITH NADIVA Ep. 68-69 ( Call-In ) Guest Host: Serena and Midday Brown Diva’s Table Topic: When is it okay for a woman to pay? / And how do men feel about it? Word of the day/ Definition: Lithe; Easy to bend, flexible and graceful. Example Sentence: "she lay gazing up at his tall, lithe figure" Featured Restaurant: Fork and Spoon Owner: Shaikil Grisham Phone: Website: Bio: After her husband having type 2 diabetes. Shaikil Grisham started to prepare meals that would allow healthy options for an extremely long workday. Shaikil decided to share this service with individuals who feel like cooking is impossible or there is “no way” to eat healthy daily. Shaikil left her office Manager job after 10 years of service because of stress, poor sleep, and bad eating habits. Meal prep/ catering has given her a chance to combine her love of food with her desire to help others. Cooking has been the “calm after the storm”. Shaikil offers private chef services, and catering. Food is a language we all speak, some better than others but it always brings us together. Fork and Spoon LLC is healthy eating allowing the consumer to count caloric intake and meet health and fitness goals” one meal or dessert at a time”. Featured Dishes:        Address | City, St Zip Code Diva’s Table Topic: When is it okay for a woman to pay? / And how do men feel about it? Stats:  A commonly raised piece of dating etiquette is that women want men to pay for the first date. However, a surprising revelation from the study is that it’s the men who are more likely to think that men should pay. As you can see in the chart above, nearly two-thirds of men (63%) think that the man should take care of the check on a first date. Women don’t agree. Less than half of the women in the study (46%) think that paying for the date is the guy’s responsibility. Men and women also disagree on whether women should foot the bill instead. Just 2% of men want women to pay when they’re on a first date. However, women themselves are more likely to want to pick up the tab, with 5% saying they’re the ones who should pay for a date. Scripture: 1 Corinthians 11-12 2

SHOULD WOMEN PAY FOR DATES?

Guest Host: Serena and Michael Diva’s Table Topic: Have the standards for parenting changed? Word of the day/ Definition: Cherub; a winged angelic being described in biblical tradition as attending on God. It is represented in Christian angelology as an angel of the second highest order of the ninefold celestial hierarchy. Example Sentence: A wistful cherub of eighteen months, photographed at her playgroup.  Featured Restaurant: True Food Kitchen  Location: 390 Hackensack Ave Ste 186, Hackensack, NJ 07601 Phone: (551) 295-7401Hours: Sun-Sat 11:30-9PM Bio: Founded in Phoenix, Ariz. in 2008, True Food Kitchen is a restaurant and lifestyle brand inspired by the philosophy that food should make you feel better, not worse, and that great tasting food and thoughtfully crafted beverages can serve as the foundation for a life well lived.  The restaurant brand is driven by a passionate collective of accomplished chefs, visionary restauranteurs, and a renowned doctor of integrative medicine – who believe delicious dining and conscious nutrition can go hand in hand, without sacrificing flavor, creativity, or indulgence. True Food’s seasonal menu is guided by the principles of Dr. Andrew Weil’s anti-inflammatory food pyramid.  True Food Kitchen emphasizes wholesome, simple ingredients with simple preparations to highlight the natural health benefits and flavors of each ingredient. From nutrient-dense staples and carefully sourced proteins to little-known superfoods, True Food Kitchen is committed to sourcing the most responsible, most creative, freshest in-season ingredients. * S/O Alyssa Sierra Gen. Manager* Featured Dishes: Ancient Grains Bowl, Lasagna Bolognese, Grass fed Burger, Charred Cauliflower, and Vegan Strawberry Cheesecake     Diva’s Table Topic: Have the standards for parenting changed? Stats: Social scientists have documented a substantial increase in both mothers’ and fathers’ time spent with children since the 1960s in the United States. To understand rising parental investments in children and persistent class and gender differences in parenting, popular accounts and academic studies have pointed to an apparent cultural shift toward norms of time-intensive, child-centered parenting, particularly for mothers and among middle-class parents. However, prior research has produced inconclusive evidence relating to social class, gender, and contemporary parenting norms. Using data from an original vignette survey experiment conducted with a nationally representative sample of more than 3,600 parents, this study examines cultural norms related to parenting elementary school-aged children, considering how both social class and gender shape views about good parenting. Results indicate that parents of different social classes express remarkably similar support for intensive mothering and fathering across a range of situations, whether sons or daughters are involved. These findings suggest that cultural norms of child-centered, time-intensive mothering and fathering are now pervasive, pointing to high contemporary standards for parental investments in children. Word of the Day/ Definition: Cherub; a winged angelic being described in biblical tradition as attending on God. It is represented in Christian angelology as an angel of the second highest order of the ninefold celestial hierarchy. Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Guest Host: Michael and Serena Diva’s Table Topic: Is Chivalry dead? Word of the day/ Definition: Lulu; An outstanding example of a particular type of person or thing. Example Sentence: “ As far as nightmares went, this one was a lulu. “ Featured Restaurant: WingoTogo Location: 336 Main Street Suite B, Hackensack, NJ 07601 Phone: 201-820-1111 Website: www.wingotogo.com Bio: Wing Togo Korean Fried Chicken is brand created by three former colleagues that entered New Jersey and opened its flagship restaurant in Hackensack. They are focused on perfecting a technique for Korean’s favorite comfort foods and contributing to the establishment of K-Food culture through endless research. Wing Togo has developed a variety of sauces through research and development for a long period of time, providing the finest quality & most unique sauce to match perfectly with Korean fried chicken. They hand brush every piece of chicken individually and their chicken is the crispiest chicken you’ve ever tasted with premium-quality fresh ingredients, providing the best flavor that never compromises on quality. They use fresh chicken and all chicken raised without the use of antibiotics and hormones. They have been engaged in the food & beverage industry for over 20 years (especially in Fried Chicken chains and Cafe & Bakery chains), and successfully settled in the United States market. Their goal is to make the most delicious Korean fried Chicken in NJ and provide the finest quality & most unique sauce to match perfectly flavored Korean fried chicken and other Korean American fusion food like hotdogs, chicken sandwiches, and more. Now, it’s time to enjoy the best quality & taste of WingoTogo Korean Fried Chicken! View their menu online at www.wingotogo.com Facebook: @wingotogo Instagram: @wingotogo       Featured Dishes: • 24 pcs  Fried Chicken Wings with (6 Flavors) / you may find the description of 6 flavors of sauces • 24 pcs  Fried Chicken Strips with (6 Flavors)  / you may find the description of 6 flavors of sauces • 4 pcs Mini Slider • 4 pcs Hotdog 12 pcs Mandoo (beef pot stickers)       Diva’s Table Topic: Is Chivalry dead? Stats: Nearly three quarters of single women say that chivalry is dead, based on their experiences of modern men, according to dating website Match.com. Now, we all know that we’re not exactly living in an age of knights and princesses. But when we talk about chivalry, we’re not actually going for white horses and turrets. According to Match’s research, which quizzed 504 single women, all we’re really asking for is a gesture of courtesy. In fat’ the number one thing women wished the men would do is call when they say they will (84%), which hardly seems like much to ask.   Word of the Day/ Definition: Lulu; An outstanding example of a particular type of person or thing. Scripture: Philippians 2:3 (ESV) 3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.