Some of us are still "emotionally" present in our past and only "physically" present in real time. It's understandable to want to keep alive the memory of a former spouse that passed away, but for a former living ex, what is the motive for tagging them your soulmate? Maybe if we're all in into our present spouses, we could see that they too could be our soulmate.

From the moment a relationship becomes

exclusive, or even before this point, many women

treat their boyfriends like they are their

husbands. Unless there is a ring on your finger,

you should never treat your boyfriend as if he is

your husband!

Most women would leave you emotionally before they begin to cheat. Affairs are typically more than sexual, and I don't think women are doing it because they want to have more sex. I also don't think they mind if they get it along the way. It is not really about sex per se as much as the experience of BEING with somebody who shows them more affection. People have affairs because they are looking for something, no matter how little that thing is.

Treat her the way you wish to be treated. Value and Respect her, then watch her build an empire with you. Culture and peer pressure will not take you far in a relationship or marriage. Honoring your vows to her will give you a happy and peaceful life. If you want her to treat you like a king, you must first make her feel like a queen.

This episode is about CHEATING ONLY. Not all other domestic problems. "If a man only cheats and can buy me private plane and island, i will take a private trip to go and cry expensive tears". But CHEATING in addition to all other forms of abuse is not a relationship/marriage worth saving.

FORGIVENESS DOESN'T

EXCUSE THEIR BEHAVIOR.

FORGIVENESS PREVENTS

THEIR BEHAVIOR FROM

DESTROYING YOUR HEART.

2 things make Forgiveness hard. The kind of people that hurt you and the kind of memory you have (long-term memory saves all the painful details). People often listen to respond to you, but never listen to understand you, so it'll be difficult to get their apology or grant you forgiveness. After you apologize, their preceeding judgment is BEYOND you. Don't sweat it.

It seems we have been conditioned to hide the way we feel from the outside world for many reasons. However, if can you open up to the people who relentlessly care to ask you how you really feel, they might just be able to help you feel better, or we can just tell them how you wish to be supported in your silence.

It's also not about testing your partner's  love for you or doing something in order to analyze their  reaction. These type of "tests" may actually be manipulative and they can lead to toxicity in your relationship over time.

The way we often carefully select a job, a house or process a business proposal should be the exact way we search for and acquire peace. You need to validate yourself FIRST before anyone else can validate you. You must prioritize your happiness, peace and sanity above everything else. Do not seek approval of anyone to start anything. Just do it because it's for you and YOU'RE AMAZINGLY ALL THAT!

.... Often times, women put themselves in situations they can't get themselves out of, for the sake of dating. Dating is not marriage, hence it needs to be handled with a lot of caution to avoid long term suffering. We make messiahs out of men that might not stay in our lives permanently, and when they leave... IT REALLY HURTS.