DISIRability ALT

The time has come for me to say goodbye to the podcasting world. This is just a very short note to say “Thank you and Farewell”. I hope you have enjoyed the podcast and you have another week to listen to/read any of the episodes you may have missed. The podcast will be live up until Thursday, May 13, 2021. Below are some links to other creators whose work have inspired me.

Ignixia, https://www.kink-positive.com/

Hannah The Scribe, https://serviceslavesecrets.com/

UnrulyNerdGirl, http://unrulynerdgirl.com/

Thank you for joining me! Stay well!

 

A Full transcript of this episode can be found at:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1naggK4uWy2ewsjBXzRD5Dwcmjx5S9ZT73RxOYvz_TNY/edit?usp=sharing

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I’m excited to welcome my guest, Dave Bahr (He/him) in Episode 24. Dave Bahr is an author, speaker and comedian focused on demystifying the public's perception of how to interact with people with disabilities. As founder of In-Sightful Living, Dave works as an accessibility consultant, aiding organizations to enhance their systems, environments, events, and cultures to be supportive of people with disabilities. Blind from birth, he teaches that having a disability is not a hindrance, but an asset. I’m excited to get the chance to talk with him today about communication in the vanilla world as well as around kink topics.

Dave will share with us some of his kinks and his experiences attending parties and dungeons as a blind man. He also shares about his first time going to a dungeon and we both share our experiences around being educators today. I can’t wait for you to hear what he has to share!

Dave’s work can be found at:

In-sightfulliving.com

Where you can also buy his book called “PRAVE. The Adventures of the Blind and the Brittle.”

Dave also wrote an article on accessibility in a dungeon for Lustery, which can be found here:

https://lustery.com/pov/people-describe-sex-to-me

Dave can be reached by email at: [email protected]

 

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" and the text “Episode 24” are written underneath. In a dark green background on the left, there is the following text “Safeword for a Foot Rub. A Chat with Dave Bahr (He/him) of In-Sightful Living, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+)”. On the right, there is a photo of Dave sitting in a director’s chair.”

A Full transcript of this episode can be found at:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uELyD69mfev1d7fyknJqzrtn-yPCazGreakMAc913pc/edit?usp=sharing

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Welcome to Series 2, Let’s Talk Books, Episode 2. Today, we talk about The Handi Book of Love, Lust and Disability. Andrew Gurza, who hosts the Disability After Dark podcast started the Handi organization with his sister. If you haven’t gotten your copy yet, please do so soon! Proceeds go to helping them design accessible sex toys for everyone.

In this episode, I talk about some of my favorite topics and questions from the book and discuss how I would address the questions. Be sure to tell me your favorite parts of the book too. 

Order your book by visiting the “That’s Handi” website here:

http://Thatshandi.co

and check out the Disability After Dark podcast if you haven’t already.

 Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" and the text “Series 2 Episode 2” are written underneath. In a teal blue background, there is the following text “Let’s Talk Books: The Handi Book of Love, Lust and Disability”. Then the text at the bottom “with Angela Car (she/her) 18+)”. On the right, there is a photo of Angela reading the Handi Book of Love, Lust and Disability on a red reclining chair.

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1F3V7G68hgeV3w0H2-Eqpy1Y-30w7RF-UrYGWTu1B4ck/edit?usp=sharing

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In Episode 22, I have the opportunity to interview Lorraine Stanley. Lorraine Stanley, formerly a fitness instructor, woke up paralysed in 2007, after a flu-type bug developed into M.E. and forced her to stop trading. Based in the UK, she hunted for support on sex and disability, and found very little accessible help.  She discovered that there are often only a handful of sessions covering the subject of sex and intimacy across several years of formal training for health care and social care professionals. Lorraine decided to be pro-active, and ran several sex and disability discussion groups at her local independent living centre.

Fast forward to 2021, and her not-for-profit training organisation SWAD has been featured in a book, she has launched her web-based training services, won business awards for innovative and progressive work, and has been an invited speaker at events local, national and international. 

Lorraine's lived experience of being bisexual and a swinger, combined with her professional background in training and development, makes for some interesting conversations!

Lorraine’s organization can be reached at www.swaddorset.org. Her email is [email protected].

 Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" and the text “Episode 22” are written underneath. In a teal blue background, there is the following text “Swimming, Sex and Swinging. A Chat with Lorraine Stanley, CEO of” and the logo of “SWAD” in purple and yellow colors, which states “where disability and sex come together. Then the text at the bottom “with Angela Car (she/her) 18+)”. On the right, there is a photo of Lorraine Stanley wearing a scarf with teal butterflies.

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1X6Dw41flaERUBOlCdzCKAS9VDES6zJ8xdXrH68hjSJ0/edit?usp=sharing

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Episode 21 is all about Disabled Threesomes and Moresomes. I hear a lot of people saying that they want to have a threesome. This is more in the vanilla world, than in the kink world, but I hear a lot of folks saying “I wanna have a threesome” or “My partner wants to have a threesome and I’m not so sure.” So, this episode is for folks who are considering a threesome, or are curious about it and want to know how to have a safe, consensual, positive and sexy experience.

I personally have had some amazing experiences and not so good experiences. I’m not an expert on it, but I thought I’d share my personal perspective on it, and just give you some things that I’ve learned over the years when it comes to threesomes and moresomes.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a black background, there is the following text “Disabled Threesomes and Moresomes with angela car (she/her) 18+”. On the right, there is a stock photo of a hotel room with a large bed and a couch]

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/10fOoMU-VU7Mz24Wv9eQ3OaJgqFWrnsi2l8TNnl_AQxI/edit?usp=sharing

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In Episode 20, I have the opportunity to interview Master Don. Master Don, also known as Dai Bando, is a Dominant in the Philadelphia area, the Head of Household of the House of Dai Bando, as well as an active member of the Lifestyle Community, He is a graduate of MTTA, Masters Academy, academy class XXI from 2013, the Foundations in Mastery program and has attended the esteemed Master/slave Development Center. Master Don holds membership in many Lifestyle-related associations and groups throughout the Philadelphia/central New Jersey area such as MAsT: Philadelphia, MAsT: Cherry Hill, Bucks County Power Exchange and the Gate munch and is a former member of the Executive Board of the Master-Dominant Consortium.

Today, we talk about being in a power exchange dynamic with a disability, specifically with hearing loss. We talk about BDSM negotiations. We talk about tradition in M/s circles and how we fit in, or how we make the community work for us.

Content warning: Master Don uses the term “handicapped” to refer to himself and uses it in general terms. We will have a discuss on language and the use of the term handicapped towards the end of the episode.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a black background, there is the following text in white” Episode 20”, in grey text “As a Service to Me, They Become My Ears. A Chat with Master Don, Dai Bando” and in white text “with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is an emblem, which Master Don chose to share that includes an outer circle of white tiles on a black background, with red lines bordering it on the inside and outside, following by a second circle with a red background with white roots, following by a third inner circle, again of the white tiles in background, bordered by two thin white circles. The center is a black background with an eagle in the center surrounded by a wreath of Holly clutching a plague with the letters SPQR that has crossed lightning bolts behind it. SPQR stands for Senatus Populusque Romanus (the Senate and the Roman people).

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1s-h-0d_9bAGdp6ni9DHr4hCb_szb-0zJlogijhScs2M/edit?usp=sharing

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In Episode 19, I wanted to talk about Surviving a Neurotypical Munch. So, I got the idea for this because I always had a hard time with social skills. I am learning more as an adult about neurodivergence and understanding why I have some learning, social and communication difficulties. I’m going to spend some time today talking about Spina Bifida and Neurodivergence, and then I’m going to move into talking about conversation skills. I will discuss a book that gives really good advice on communication and could even be helpful when you find yourself at a neurotypical munch.

Some resources/other folks mentioned in the show:

Spina Bifida Association, SBADV.org

Follow Master_Dylan_ on Fetlife 

Book: The Art of Talking to Anyone, Rosalie Maggio

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”Surviving the Neurotypical Munch”, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a stock photo of a person’s hand using a piece of chalk to draw stick figures of people with lines connecting them in a diagram on a chalk board]

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1it80aChCLUAijTHnZB-jK38k-rmpLeIajWp88o6L9VY/edit?usp=sharing

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In Episode 18, we are talking about Twelve-step recovery and submission in a power exchange dynamic. Over the years, I’ve come to realize that these two separate worlds of mine, 12 step programs and M/s were really not all that different. They both have helped me to become a better person. They both helped me to become, not necessarily religious but spiritual. They both teach me about humility, obedience and service. They both teach me about power and powerlessness. My Higher Power that I chose today, is a nurturing, Loving God, not a punishing, judgement God. My Sir is a loving, nurturing Master. As I humble myself in service, to my Higher Power, and to my Sir, my anxiety and fears are removed on a daily basis.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a yellow background, there is the following text ”12-Step Submission, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a stock photo of a staircase with yellow steps and wooden railing.]

Some resources mentioned in the show:

Recovery In the Lifestyle: ritl.org

AA.org

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous can be found at AA.org, bookstore

OA.org

CODA.org

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/188NXDUIjmNMfxC3nnTprX2a4asa12jLhneC3wgCvwcM/edit?usp=sharing

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On today’s episode, I thought we’d talk about our power-exchange relationships, getting through 2020 and getting through the holiday season especially if you have experienced depression or grief during this time of year. I also wanted to talk about how we are all struggling with social distancing now as we’re coming into the holidays in 2020 with the pandemic. We will talk about the importance of maintaining your D/s dynamic at this time and how to do so. 

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”D/s, Holiday Blues and a Pandemic, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a stock photo of a snowman with a sad face.]

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uFx5d2ILcbBR0MNtsh-dRmHnVoheQQres9pU4pDoLXk/edit?usp=sharing

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In episode 16, I have the opportunity to interview Pup Star Orion.

Pup Star Orion (he/his/him) is queer trans genderfluid disabled switch and leather bull terrier puppy. Originally born in Santa Ana, El Salvador, Orion was raised in East Hollywood. 

 He is the Social Outreach Coordinator for Obsidian LA, a qtbipoc volunteer run kink and education group.

 Orion is the LA Pup 2020-21, happily living as an ambassador for not just human pets but trans and gender variant human pets as well. 

 An educator, Orion teaches everything pet play, including dark pet play, and how intersectional identities affect pet spaces. He also teaches how to navigate sex and kink with disabled and chronically ill bodies through his lens as someone who lives with chronic pain. 

 A well-known exhibitionist, when he isn’t volunteering, it’s common to find him under the boots of or attempting to take the fist of your local queer cutie. 

 In today’s episode, Orion talks about his experiences as a QTBIPOC disabled pup, and what lead him to his identity as a puppy. He talks about accessibility in the scene for QTBIPOC and disabled folx. He’ll describe some heavy impact scenes he has enjoyed and also discusses the beauty and strength of kinky disabled folx. I cant wait for you to hear this episode.

PupStarOrion can be found on Facebook, Instagram, FetLife and PuppySpace @PupStarOrion. His twitter is NSFW. Follow him to find out about his class and new social/support group called “Chronically Kinky”.

If you are QTBIPOC, follow Obsidian_LA on social media or visit their website Obsidian-LA.com

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”A Chat with PupStarOrion,(he/him/his) a disabled QTBIPOC and LA Pup 2020-21, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a photo of PupStarOrion in a leather harness with a red bandana and his collar around his neck, holding his pup mask.]

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1dty0-RKk8_QEXqFTTbTjg9tHib4iB-Fn7-VsaR4IAH0/edit?usp=sharing

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020