In Episode 15, I thought we could talk about some Communication Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to alternative lifestyles. We are going to talk about Do’s and Don’t’s from the beginning of messaging someone on social media, to negotiating a BDSM scene, to entering a D/s relationship and lastly how to handle a D/s breakup. The television series I mention in the show is called “Love on the Spectrum” and is available on Netflix.

 

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a light brown background, there is the following text “Episode 15 Communication Do’s and Don’ts” Underneath is a photo of a Do and Don’ts checklist with lightbulbs surrounding it. The text “with angela car (she/her) 18+ is on the left]

 

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1i5x2BbRuK0XNl4uhjqEqXUb_XPA1L7RCURPfvs2pT-Y/edit?usp=sharing

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In episode 14, I start off by talking openly about my feelings around being a disabled woman who has to wear adult diapers due to neurogenic bladder and bowel. Then we will focus on the topic of disability fetishes, devoteeism and disability. I will explain my thoughts and feelings on fetishes and devotees and hope you will share your thoughts about them with me.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a light orange background, there is the following text in white letters “My Diaper is Not Sexy, but I Still Am” Underneath is a photo of a pink pair of panties next to a diaper in a dark blue background. Underneath is the text “with angela car (she/her) 18+.]

 

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sa4GUN30twFnwwrYRFzUP9_KXQKlWSJvNkcM-5h1LQc/edit?usp=sharing

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Welcome to a new series on the podcast "Let’s talk Books!" These can be books on BDSM. These can be books on sexuality. These could be books on disability. Today’s book is going to be about all three.

In this episode, I am going to discuss my favorite book on this subject. I’ve mentioned this book a few times on this show already. It is called “Kneeling in Spirit.  Disabled Submissives” and it is edited by Raven Kaldera. Raven Kaldera has authored 42 books on many topics including M/s and Power Exchange, Spirituality and Disabilities. Links are below for Raven's author page on Amazon and his disability focused books through Alfred Press. 

 

Amazon link for Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3ARaven+Kaldera&s=relevancerank&text=Raven+Kaldera&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1

 https://alfredpress.com/category/disability/

 

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a blue background on the left, there is the following text in white letters “Let’s Talk Books “Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives”. On the right, there is a photo of Angela sitting in a red chair reading with a purple background, with her face covered by the book cover of Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives.]

 

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Fj2z_4c4I-Yv4XONhQU5n3hczOOVETOWofvfxeY-xvQ/edit?usp=sharing

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Welcome to a new series on the podcast "Let’s talk Books!" These can be books on BDSM. These can be books on sexuality. These could be books on disability. Today’s book is going to be about all three.

In this episode, I am going to discus my favorite book on this subject. I’ve mentioned this book a few times on this show already. It is called “Kneeling in Spirit.  Disabled Submissives” and it is edited by Raven Kaldera. Raven Kaldera has authored 42 books on many topics including M/s and Power Exchange, Spirituality and Disabilities. Links are below for Raven's author page on Amazon and his disability focused books through Alfred Press. 

 

Amazon link for Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3ARaven+Kaldera&s=relevancerank&text=Raven+Kaldera&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1

 https://alfredpress.com/category/disability/

 

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a blue background on the left, there is the following text in white letters “Let’s Talk Books “Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives”. On the right, there is a photo of Angela sitting in a red chair reading with a purple background, with her face covered by the book cover of Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives.]

 

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Fj2z_4c4I-Yv4XONhQU5n3hczOOVETOWofvfxeY-xvQ/edit?usp=sharing

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Today I want to talk about mental health and alternative relationships, particularly talking about kink, polyamory and mental health.  I will share some of the history and changes made by the American Psychological Association regarding BDSM. I will also share my thoughts and experiences around my own mental health with you and how kink and my power exchange dynamic have actually helped improve my mental health.

Referenced article “BDSM versus the DSM”

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/bdsm-versus-the-dsm/384138/

 

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a purple/blue background, there is the following text in white letters “Episode 12. Are Kinky People Mentally Ill, Angela Car, 18+”. On the right, there is a photo of a few eggs in a dish with faces painted on them showing different emotions, smiling, sad, angry, confused, shocked.]

 

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZ-XaEUxIBW29-4y5P1vr3ue56uJBXlMoB3iUugf-Jw/edit?usp=sharing

 

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In Episode 11, we’re going to focus on Coming Out Kinky with Medical Professionals. We’re going to discuss the following questions. Why do we want to come out with Medical Professionals? Which Medical Professionals do we want to come out to? What are our fears or concerns about coming out? How do we go about coming out? And then What happens next? Dealing with the aftermath or what happens after we come out to our Medical Professionals. I will share my experiences of coming out with Medical Professionals with you. Please share your thoughts about this topic with me by visiting www.DISIRability.com.

Here are some resources mentioned in this episode:

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

https://ncsfreedom.org

The Kink Aware Professional List

https://www.kapprofessionals.org/

Book recommendation: Elizabeth Ann Wood's book called Bound. 

https://www.amazon.com/Bound-Daughter-Domme-End-Life-ebook/dp/B07L97RMVD/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=bound+elizabeth+anne+wood&qid=1600617856&sr=8-1

Episode Cover Image: [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text in white letters “Episode 11. Coming Out Kinky with Medical Professionals”. On the right, there is a photo of  two hands holding a EKG graph with a heart in the middle. Underneath is the 18+ symbol and text, Angela Car (she/her]

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/19Dbg7azMm3327G-_9UMWiBzYL46tA-KtHEqd47clq7E/edit?usp=sharing

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In this episode, I had a great discussion with Amin Lakhani (He/Him). Amin is a comedian, writer, and disabled anti-hero. He was born with a neuromuscular condition called Charcot-Marie-Tooth syndrome, which causes his muscles to atrophy. He has used a power chair since the age of 15. He gained internet notoriety as The Dating Coach on Wheels. He now shares his life lessons & dark humor online, on podcasts and other places. He also mentions the movie “Secretary” from 2002 directed by Steven Shainberg and written by Erin Cressida Wilson, which is a must see for anyone interested in BDSM!

Amin Lakhani can be found at datingcoachonwheels.com or on Instagram or Youtube at datingcoachonwheels.  You will want to check out his Youtube videos. He is hilarious!

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a dark green background, there is the following text in white letters “A Chat with Amin Lakhani, (He/Him), Comedian and Disabled Anti-Hero. 18+”. On the right, there is a photo of Amin, a man in a power wheelchair and green in shirt in front of French chateau with green shutters.]

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1KdqYTBBsSeGXxcCuzD4onaQmFW-oNh3t8lDsiBYfnss/edit?usp=sharing 

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Episode 9 Description

For today’s episode, we’re going to talk about a difficult topic. Most shows on alternative relationships talk about the fun aspects. Today, we are going to talk about something that many long-term alternative relationships will face at some point. Today, we are going to address caretaking, grief and loss. Join Angela Car as she shares her story of changing caretaking roles, and shares her experience with grief and anticipatory grief.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a tan background, there is the writing “Caretaking, Grief and Loss”. On the left-hand side, there is the text: in Alt relationships. With angela car [she/her] 18+.  On the right, there is a photo of Angela’s memorial tattoo which states “In this life and all hereafter”, which were in her husband’s wedding vows to her.]

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1u0aBV1z9sLQhawuhfDY5zHeAkhmWvZyUoLBHqxM9UMA/edit?usp=sharing

  ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Welcome back! For today’s episode, we’re going to talk about vulnerability and transparency in alternative relationships. We’ll talk about communication, opening up to new partners, or “peeling back the layers of the onion”. We’ll share about baggage that we bring with us to our relationships, and we explore the question “How do we talk with our partners about our disability and our medical issues?”. I mention the author Brene Brown in this podcast and I highly suggest reading her work on vulnerability. You can find her Ted Talk on the Power of Vulnerability and numerous books on the topic including Dare to Lead which is mentioned in this episode.

Episode Cover Image [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a light purple background, there is the writing “Peeling Back Your Layers. On the left-hand side, there is the text: Transparency and Vulnerability in ALT Relationships. 18+.  On the right, there is a photo of the layers on an onion in the shape of a human head. Under the photo it states “Angela Car (she/her)”.]

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1L_OQNbuY_kugBNYAE0quP3YSK_P2gCLzLhi-v2ajfWg/edit?usp=sharing

  ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Join me in this episode where I will discuss my journey into a 24/7 total power exchange dynamic on the right side of the slash. I will discuss rituals and protocols that have made me feel safe in my dynamic with my Sir. Content warning: The terms Master and slave will be used in this episode. I will explain what they mean to me in my power exchange dynamic.

Full transcript of this episode can be found at this link:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PoCSXg1qUF0RGLMnkzYVwxn4RirRsJ4ZUfzzjv9teao/edit?usp=sharing

  [Image description: DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. "ALT" written in black underneath. In a black background, there is the writing “He leads and i follow, M/s, TPE and Disability.  There is a photo of a scarf I crocheted of the M/s flag. Under the photo it states “Angela Car [she/her] 18+".

  ©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020