Claire and Michelle discuss divorce as an adversarial, one person versus the other, process in Louisiana and how to deal with the challenges that consequently emerge, especially emotionally. Because of it's adversarial nature, divorce can have an underlying tone of hostility right off the bat. This might leave a gap between the way we want things to be and how they have to be, because that is just the process that we have no choice but to accept and follow. Claire and Michelle highlight the importance of extinguishing that hostile tone from the start, leaping off (and staying on) the right foot, and most importantly, remembering to be soft with yourself, even when the legislature feels harsh.