Divorce Source Radio

What would you do if you realized that your own most fundamental assumptions about yourself were wrong? How would you reinvent yourself in your forties if you began to suspect that much of your life had been built on a lie – or at least a critical misperception? These are the questions that Dr. Loren A. Olson, a prominent Midwestern psychiatrist, faced when he finally confronted the fact that despite almost two decades of marriage to a loving and emotionally compatible woman, he was sexually and romantically attracted to men.

Dr. Olson is author of Finally Out - Letting Go of Living Straight and provides insight and wisdom to others experiencing the same situation. Whether it be a husband or wife that finds themselves questioning their own sexuality or a family member or children dealing with accepting their new reality. Dr. Olson help us understand the journey not just from someone who has lived it, but also as a professional psychiatrist.

In this Episode of “Ask Henry” with Attorney, Henry Gornbein, Henry answers the questions: How Can I Protect my Credit During Divorce and Who Gets Possession of the Family Pet?

If you would like to ask Henry a question for an upcoming show, send your question to [email protected] or phone your question into our Voicemail Listener Line at (248) 686-2256.

For more on attorney, Henry Gornbein, visit www.FamilyLawOfMichigan.com

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce, Mark Banschick, M.D. takes a look at divorce and family adversity in the movies.

Dr. Banschick believes there are powerful messages in movies that relate to divorce and single parenting that provide wisdom and insight to what might be going on in our lives.

Many children's movies have situations with divorced parents, the death of a parent, or being raised by extended family . Going to one of these well-done movies with your children provides a great opportunity for dialog afterwards and can be a great way of helping your children better understand divorce. Dr. Banschick tells the tale of The Wizard of Oz like you have never heard it before and provides other examples from ET and The Lion King.

For more movie recommendations for your children as well as yourself, pick up a copy of Dr. Banschick's Intelligent Divorce book, "Because Your Kids Come First," available in the Recommended Reading section of www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.

In this episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we discuss finding a new partner and falling in love again.

We need to make sure we're not selecting the wrong partner based on our unconscious past decisions. The way to do this is to recognize your psychological make-up by examining past relationships, making adjustments and moving forward to create healthier emotional and sexual relationships.

Juliana discusses the five important things when choosing a new partner including:

• Unconscious Motivations
• Being realistic in your expectations - Don't expect your partner to be perfect, we all have flaws
• Understand our emotional needs
• Improving communication skills and conflict resolution
• Being aware of your need for love and worthiness

In this episode of Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck, we speak with the author of the book, Fishing by Moonlight - The Art of Enhancing Intimate Relationship, Colene Sawyer, Ph.D..

A licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. Sawyer has worked for nearly three decades in private practice with parents, children, and singles, as a divorce counselor, and with couples and families.

This is a program for anyone going through divorce who's looking for a better understanding of their past relationship choices in an effort to construct healthier relationships in the future.

Dr. Sawyer explains that a new love affair can set off a "feel good" chemical similar to an amphetamine reaction in our brain. This is responsible for the euphoria of passionate infatuation that guides us into believing we have found Mr. or Ms. Right. Unfortunately, we don't always make the smart choices during this state, and like all drug-induced states, the feeling dissipates in time. This program helps us gain a better understanding for how relationships work.

Topics in the program include:

• Understand why and how we fall in love
• How you may attract a partner that reenacts negative situations from your childhood
• Understanding the hidden logic of love
• How to identify your ideal partner
• How you can learn from your past and become the optimal partner
• And much more.

To receive a free E-copy of Fishing by Moonlight, visit www.FishingByMoonlight.com

The holidays can be a challenging time for families going through divorce. We have these images of perfect family holidays, yet your own family is coping with a situation that is anything but perfect. In this program, psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg, provides advice to help get you through the holidays.

This Program Covers:

• Dealing with ALL holidays including: Christmas, Hanukkah , Easter, Birthdays, Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, Graduations
• How to deal with your feelings and emotions during this trying time
• Understanding issues your children may be dealing with during the holiday season
• Dividing parenting time between you and your ex
• Tips for holiday parties and gatherings to ease the stress
• Is it proper to begin dating around the holidays

Our guest, Sharon Zarozny of Brilliant Exits (http://www. brilliantexits.com/) shares her personal story of overcoming the trauma she experienced as a victim of Domestic Violence and abuse. Domestic Violence can happen to anyone, and Sharon was hard pressed to believe that this was happening to her. Fact was, as an educated woman who'd traded in a successful career to be a stay at home mom, there was no way she and her daughters were the "victims" of that ugly phrase "domestic violence." Sharon’s family had the trappings of a privileged life thanks to her husband’s thriving surgical practice. He was a brilliant Ivy League grad. It just didn't add up.

If you can identify, get a copy of Susan Weitzman's book Not To People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages or check out nottopeoplelikeus.com. Knowing you are not alone is so crucial to getting out. In your world that swirls with "unreals” and craziness, you'll find this book/site a gift of validation. You'll know you are not crazy.

Also visit The Weitzman Center and download the free Care Kit provided. It too will help you understand and safely plan for when you are ready to get out. And plan you must. When you leave a high earning, narcissistic professional you can be in for quite a rough ride through the legal system. Often the upscale abuser has the means, power and leverage to hire a legal dream team and use the courts to further the abuse.

On this episode of The Pecking Order, with Divorce Source Radio founder, Steve Peck, we discuss the forthcoming Detroit Divorce Expo that will be held on March 24 - 25 2012 at the Suburban Collection Showcase in Novi, Michigan.

Event senior produce, Joost Allard, joins Steve to discuss the two day event which is designed to provide help and support for those contemplating or going through divorce. The two-day event features keynote speakers addressing the legal, emotional and financial needs one faces as they navigate their divorce.

If you or someone you know is in the process of divorce, this is a Must Attend event. For more information, visit: www.TheDivorceExpo.com.

In this holiday edition of Divorce Source Radio, divorce coach Jeanie Rule, of www.SoloMama.com, presents The Holiday Survival Guide for Divorcing or Divorced Moms.

The holidays can be a stressful time for anyone, but for a mother going through a divorce, this season can be even more challenging. Beyond financial issues, many moms face the isolation of being left out of events they used to attend, as well as facing their ex at social or school events.

Jeanie speaks of the need to be as prepared as possible for the holidays, both from a legal custody point of view and preparing for circumstances you may encounter with friends, family, and co-workers during the holiday season.

Jeanie teaches us how we can create new holiday traditions for our children and helps us understand the true meaning of the holiday season: spending time with family and friends and sharing love. The first holiday season apart from your family is always the toughest, but we learn that, in time, things will get better, and, if handled correctly, the way we go through the trials of this season can be something our kids will come to admire.

In this powerful episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banshick, M.D., we discuss how children can become wounded during a divorce. Our guest is Ditta M. Oliker, Ph.D., author of Hide & Seek: Reclaiming Childhood’s Lost Potential.

After the personal tragedy of losing one of her sons, Ditta began to develop her ideas about psychological survival and the lasting effects of the experiences and hidden messages of childhood. She continued to develop these themes after beginning her practice and incorporated them into her concept of survival systems.

Ditta draws a parallel between the death of a loved one to divorce, which is the death of a marriage and the death of a family as it existed, and explains why how we deal with the loss makes a huge difference for all involved, especially the children.

In the program we learn:

• How children become wounded during divorce and how the wounds can carry over into their adult relationships
• How some children take on the role of caretaker to a parent or sibling and how harmful that can be
• How children adapt to the demands of their situation
• And you'll hear the original version of the fairy tale, Snow White, and see how it captures the conflict of childhood.