In this episode of "Ask Henry," attorney Henry Gornbein, answers the questions:  Should I move out of our home or stay? and When is The Right Time to Introduce a New Flame to Your Children.

It used to be that keeping a marital home was the best thing to do for the sake of your children and finances, and this property was routinely a bargaining tool when dividing assets.  Today, with the downfall of the economy, many homeowners are "underwater," meaning the owners owe more than the house is worth.  Henry helps us make sense of when staying is the proper thing to do, and when it's best to cut our losses and move on.

The second part of this program is dedicated to when to tell your children that you have a new love interest.  This decision is sometime rushed and not in the best interest of the children.  This is a subject that should be handled with care, and Henry provides his advice on what he feels is in the best interest of the entire family.

If you would like to ask Henry Gornbein a question to be answered on an upcoming show, email:  [email protected], or phone your question in to our listener line, at (248) 686-2256. Your question will be answered on a future program.

In episode #8 of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., we take a look at the celebration of Halloween.

Halloween can be a great time of fantasy and fun for most, but if you are in the process of divorce, you may be having a hard time enjoying the season that once provided so much enjoyment.

In this program, Dr. Banschick takes a look at what should be, and could be, a time of enjoyment and fun.  Dr. Mark helps you understand the natural grieving process that could be stealing your joy and helps you to redefine this once happy holiday.

Our guest, Matt Hamel (http://www.virginiadivorceattorney.com/bio/matthew-r-hamel.cfm) is a family law lawyer who understands military divorce.  With legal skills forged in the crucible of the Military Justice System, Matt is an unyielding advocate for military wives, female service members and the children of military families.

Recognizing the lack of easily available information about military divorces and Virginia law, Matt joined forces with the Hofheimer/Ferrebee law firm to co-author an informative book about Virginia family law and it's impact on military families. Equally important, the book discusses entitlements due military wives as a result of their marriage to military members.

Armed with knowledge as a former Navy JAG officer and motivated with an advocate's passion to help women through the family crisis of divorce, Matt also wanted to honor female military spouses who often serve their nation in quiet desperation as their family life unravels. Thus, he not only co-authored this book, but he also joined the Hofheimer/Ferrebee firm in order to represent women exclusively in divorce and custody matters. Matt's not just "talking the talk," he's "walking the walk."

Topics in this program include:

In this 6th episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we continue our exploration into our sexual selves.

Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman discusses:

This program touches on how to feel if your child in their teens or twenties has never experienced sex or a relationship with the opposite sex.  Since so many "tweens" are in relationships and having intimate relations, should you be concerned that because your child hasn't expressed an interest in going on dates that your child may be gay?

Finally, we discuss Oral Sex and break down the taboo and myths surrounding it.  Juliana shares some helpful resources for those looking to expand their "sexual menu".

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D. on Divorce Source Radio, Dr. Banschick explores the definition of forgiveness and helps us better understand how we might get to this important point in our divorce process.

You'll learn that forgiveness is not allowing your past to become your future.  Dr. Banschick's thoughts on this subject are both entertaining and powerful as he is passionate about helping couples work through the madness of their divorce for the sanity of their children and themselves.

A word of caution to listeners:  Dr. Mark makes his singing debut at the beginning of this program.  After the show, co-host Steve Peck told Dr. Banschick that after hearing him sing, he thought he should go to Hollywood... the walk would do him good.  ;)

This is a must hear program for anyone going through divorce and coming to grips with forgiveness.

At some point after divorce, mom will start to feel sexual again. That’s a good sign. It means she’s healing and on her way to wholeness. Unfortunately, because there’s so much sexual shaming and mixed messages in our society about sex and divorced moms, divorced moms will often distort their sexuality (meaning inappropriate and risky sex), or limit themselves to unloving relationships or shut down their sexual sides all together. This doesn’t serve anybody. We are meant to be whole, and sex is a part of that wholeness. Divorced, not dead.

There’s a better way. In this program, Divorce Coach, Jeanie Rule explains that when a mother can understand, embrace and integrate her unique sexual self into her divorced-mom life, then she’s able to tap into the special sparks that good sexuality brings to all of us – better health, emotional well-being, creativity, connection to others, confidence, vitality.

Our guest, Bruce Sallan shares his story of becoming a first-time dad, to a son, four days after his 40th birthday, less than 9 months after getting married (they got pregnant on the honeymoon). His second son was born three years later. When Bruce’s sons were still quite young, he left show biz to become a full-time dad and to care for his ailing parents, the classic “sandwich” situation.

Shortly thereafter, his marriage ended and his wife abandoned their children, leaving the state. He became a full-time single dad, in his late-forties. Hear Bruce share his lessons and musings on being a single dad. 

Topics in this program include:

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In Episode #5 of Sex after Divorce with sex therapist, Juliana Neiman, we discuss masturbation.

Masturbation is looked at as taboo by some and others were raised to believe that it's wrong to pleasure yourself.

In addition to feeling good, masturbation is a good way of relieving the sexual tension that can build up over time, especially for people without partners or whose partners are not willing or available for sex. Masturbation also is a safe sexual alternative for people who wish to avoid pregnancy and the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases.

Medically, It relieves stress and keeps everything about your body—your heart rate, blood pressure, reproductive system, brain chemistry—in very good shape .A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Regularly flushing your system, so to speak, keeps your semen healthy and prevents the build up of cancer-causing chemicals.

So why all the hush hush?  Juliana breaks down the myths associated with masturbation and helps us understand how to live a more fulfilling life in future relationships.

It's the question you might be asking yourself right now, should I get a divorce?, and it's a question worth asking.

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., Dr. Banschick helps us understand the process of evaluating these life changing questions and helps us take a look at our values.

Many divorced people have said if they would have known how hard divorce was going to be, that they would have reconsidered getting a divorce and worked harder on saving their marriage.

Other topics in the program include:

The forgiveness journey – how to make it happen

Our guest, Mark Rye is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Skidmore College. Mark's research interests are in the field of positive psychology. He has studied the impact of forgiveness on post-divorce adjustment and has developed and evaluated interventions designed to help divorced individuals forgive their ex-spouse.  Recently, he has become interested in how forgiveness of an ex-spouse relates to parenting approach.

In this informative and thought provoking interview we discuss what is forgiveness, and how to achieve it – so that angry thoughts do not hold you back from moving on.  We explore how forgiveness is a journey and how your thoughts, feelings and behavior can transform you. 

This is a very powerful and forgiving program! If you have any questions about this topic, please email Mark Rye at [email protected]

More information and resources may also be found at the Fetzer Institute http://www.fetzer.org/resources