Divorce Source Radio

At some point after divorce, mom will start to feel sexual again. That’s a good sign. It means she’s healing and on her way to wholeness. Unfortunately, because there’s so much sexual shaming and mixed messages in our society about sex and divorced moms, divorced moms will often distort their sexuality (meaning inappropriate and risky sex), or limit themselves to unloving relationships or shut down their sexual sides all together. This doesn’t serve anybody. We are meant to be whole, and sex is a part of that wholeness. Divorced, not dead.

There’s a better way. In this program, Divorce Coach, Jeanie Rule explains that when a mother can understand, embrace and integrate her unique sexual self into her divorced-mom life, then she’s able to tap into the special sparks that good sexuality brings to all of us – better health, emotional well-being, creativity, connection to others, confidence, vitality.

Our guest, Bruce Sallan shares his story of becoming a first-time dad, to a son, four days after his 40th birthday, less than 9 months after getting married (they got pregnant on the honeymoon). His second son was born three years later. When Bruce’s sons were still quite young, he left show biz to become a full-time dad and to care for his ailing parents, the classic “sandwich” situation.

Shortly thereafter, his marriage ended and his wife abandoned their children, leaving the state. He became a full-time single dad, in his late-forties. Hear Bruce share his lessons and musings on being a single dad.

Topics in this program include:

• Reactions from friends and acquaintances about being a single stay at home dad
• The inherent differences in the parenting styles of mothers and fathers
• How gender differences affecting parenting, friendships and dating
• A single dad’s view on custody and the children’s best interests
• Triumph over heartbreak; new ventures and lessons learned
• The real importance of being a single parent

(http://www.brucesallan.com/)

In Episode #5 of Sex after Divorce with sex therapist, Juliana Neiman, we discuss masturbation.

Masturbation is looked at as taboo by some and others were raised to believe that it's wrong to pleasure yourself.

In addition to feeling good, masturbation is a good way of relieving the sexual tension that can build up over time, especially for people without partners or whose partners are not willing or available for sex. Masturbation also is a safe sexual alternative for people who wish to avoid pregnancy and the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases.

Medically, It relieves stress and keeps everything about your body—your heart rate, blood pressure, reproductive system, brain chemistry—in very good shape .A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Regularly flushing your system, so to speak, keeps your semen healthy and prevents the build up of cancer-causing chemicals.

So why all the hush hush? Juliana breaks down the myths associated with masturbation and helps us understand how to live a more fulfilling life in future relationships.

It's the question you might be asking yourself right now, should I get a divorce?, and it's a question worth asking.

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., Dr. Banschick helps us understand the process of evaluating these life changing questions and helps us take a look at our values.

Many divorced people have said if they would have known how hard divorce was going to be, that they would have reconsidered getting a divorce and worked harder on saving their marriage.

Other topics in the program include:

• The mortality rates of divorced individuals - Who's dying sooner men or women?
• What role stress plays the break-up of marriage
• How divorce affects your kids
• How marriages become like a business,
• How marriage can drive a relationship farther apart
• And much more

The forgiveness journey – how to make it happen

Our guest, Mark Rye is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Skidmore College. Mark's research interests are in the field of positive psychology. He has studied the impact of forgiveness on post-divorce adjustment and has developed and evaluated interventions designed to help divorced individuals forgive their ex-spouse. Recently, he has become interested in how forgiveness of an ex-spouse relates to parenting approach.

In this informative and thought provoking interview we discuss what is forgiveness, and how to achieve it – so that angry thoughts do not hold you back from moving on. We explore how forgiveness is a journey and how your thoughts, feelings and behavior can transform you.

This is a very powerful and forgiving program! If you have any questions about this topic, please email Mark Rye at [email protected]

More information and resources may also be found at the Fetzer Institute http://www.fetzer.org/resources

• Topics in this program include:
• Strategies for letting go of your anger
• What is forgiveness
• Understanding the forgiveness journey
• What does research show about the relationship between forgiveness of an ex-spouse and post-divorce adjustment?
• Forgiveness interventions
• What are some of the unique challenges that divorced individuals face with respect to forgiveness?

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., we look at a less confrontational form of divorce that is gaining in popularity, Collaborative Law.

Our guest is Attorney Rita Pollak, an expert in the field of collaborative law. Rita has helped designed training programs for other professionals with a desire to provide a peaceful alternative to the traditional divorce and mediation, and promotes www.CollaborativePractice.com for individuals looking for more information on Collaborative Law.

DIVORCE CAN BE MORE PEACEFUL. "Anyone entering the divorce process owes it to themselves and family to look into seeking a collaborative attorney". - Steve Peck

In the program you'll learn:

• The benefits of collaborative solutions for marriage dissolution, child custody and co-parenting issues, division of assets, and more.
• How Collaborative Divorce/Collaborative Practice offers guidance, information, and respectful problem solving.
• Understand how to better manage the effects of divorce on your children.
• Locate collaborative legal, financial, and emotional support resources for family and civil disputes.

Episode #4 of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman helps us to reflect on our past emotional and sexual relationship(s) so that we can discover what role we may have played in the demise of our relationship.

Juliana helps us understand our past with acceptance and shows how to move to a place of forgiveness. And once we've reached a new place of calm and understanding, we can then move on to future healthy relationships.

Is there a proper time to get back into the dating world? How should you approach future relationships sexually and how to better communicate your needs to your partner as discussed as well.

For more on Juliana Neiman Click Here.

The dissolution of a marriage is a major life transition that entails having to make some of the toughest decisions of your life at a time when you are least able to.

Not knowing what to do -- and not being able to learn or take in information about these areas of your life that could potentially impact you and your kids for years to come -- means that you have to depend on others for help.

Finding the right professionals early on may be easier said than done, but all you need is one professional you like and trust to get started. You can then ask her for assistance in getting the other team members together. If you're lucky, a divorce network will already exist in your area.

In this episode of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua provides answers to commonly asked questions from people going through divorce. These answers are provided by the Divorce Dream Team, a group who has come together to provide "one-stop-shopping" resources for women going through divorce.

In this program, The Smart Divorce radio show with Deborah Moskovitch features Elliott Katz, author of seven nonfiction books. He teaches the principles he shares in his book: Being a Strong Man a Woman Wants

After the end of a relationship, Elliott sought to learn about being a man in a relationship. He found books on marriage and relationships said little to him. He found powerful timeless insights in the lessons that fathers and other older male role models taught younger men. People started seeking his advice and would say, “Why didn’t someone tell me this before?”

Moving beyond the trendy ideas about a man’s role – that just don’t seem to work – Elliott shares insights on being a man that have withstood the test of time. Interestingly, these insights are the traits that he heard many women complain were lacking in men today – showing leadership, making decisions and taking responsibility.

Topics in this program include:

• Why are women so frustrated with today's men?
• How does growing up without strong male role models affect men today?
• The lack of "quality" men is a common complaint from women today. What happened to today’s men?
• Does today's strong woman today want a strong man?
• What are the traits of a strong man?

If you are considering filing for divorce or recently done so, this program is for you!

Attorney, Henry Gornbein, discuss the Top Ten things to Consider Prior to Filing or Just After Filing for Divorce. Many people during this emotional time in their lives don't slow down enough to think things through and as a result, make mistakes that cost them thousands of dollars and enormous emotional suffering.

Topics in the program include:

• Seeing a Marriage Counselor First
• Family Finances to consider
• Thoughts on Child Custody
• Understanding the Budget you will require to live your new life
• Building your Support System
• And much more