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In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick M.D. we discuss the similarities of a dysfunctional marriage and the dysfunction of our federal government.

Like opposing spouses in a bitter divorce, both parties claim the exclusive ability of knowing the “right thing to do.” After all, they “care” more about those in their charge. Each one also wants to get the better of the other, even if it means maligning or making ugly accusations – and, in the end, getting nowhere.

It is part of being human. But in a healthy relationship, whether a good marriage, a reasonable divorce or a functioning Congress, the conflict usually transforms into a collaborative effort rather than a combative one.

Though power struggles are inevitable, they don’t have to be destructive. Granted, it may be easier to be a single parent or to govern as a single party — but it is almost always better to have two points of view.

Like the children caught between two parents in this unpleasant divorce, the American public is left to wonder and to fear the results of this dysfunctional marriage. They see the posturing and feel anxious, but can do little.

In the second episode of Sex after Divorce - Reconnecting with our Sexual Selves, sex therapist, Juliana Neiman, explains how our "sexual script" may have played a role in past unhealthy sexual relationships.

In this program, you'll learn how what you were told, taught or experienced early on in your life defined your "sexual script," or, said another way, your feelings toward sex.

Were you raised to think of sex as something you don't talk about, or something that is natural and healthy? Did your parents discuss sex with you, or were they the type to not mention it at all? Did religion play a role in making you feel sex was wrong? Was your first sexual experience a good or bad one?

All these situations early in life define our sexual scripts, and sometimes, these beliefs and feelings are quite negative and prevent us from living a healthy sexual life.

In this ten-part series, Juliana will talk about sex and help us understand our sexuality in the context of dealing with the emotional turmoil and aftermath of divorce. Her insights will help us to understand how we can change and improve our sexual lives for healthier relationships.

Have you ever stopped to ponder why the divorce rate has risen so dramatically over the past 50 years? Divorce was a rare event previous to the first world war with a rate of less than one per 1,000 of the yearly number of marriages.

There has been significant progress in divorce reform making it easier and fairer to obtain. Researchers would most likely agree that not only has divorce become more socially acceptable, but divorce laws have also changed to provide a more equitable resolution for many since the late 1960s. The amendment to the Divorce Act to permit the reason for divorce as no-fault (in other words, no-blame divorce) has radically altered the factors influencing the decision to divorce.

In this Program, Divorce Consultant, Deborah Moskovitch discusses the evolution of the divorce rate and it's impact on the family.

Thousands of kids experience the stress of divorce each year. How they'll react depends on their age, personality, and the particular circumstances of the separation and divorce process.

Every divorce will have an effect on the kids involved — and many times the initial reaction is one of shock, sadness, frustration, anger, or worry. But kids can also come out of it better able to cope with stress, and many become more flexible, tolerant young adults.

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., we'll discuss signs to look for that may indicate your kids are having a problem. Dr. Banschick breaks down each age group from very young children through their twenties.

In this first episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we begin the journey of looking at our sexual selves. Wherever you are in your step of the journey, we'll talk more specifically about Sex remembering that we cannot completely separate sexuality from our emotions- our psychology and unique personality traits- and where we come from.

In this series, Juliana will talk about sex and help us understand our sexuality in the context of dealing with the emotional turmoil and aftermath of their divorce and help us to understand how we can change and improve our sexual life with the next partner?

We'll start at the beginning: what is the beginning? For us to understand what is happening with our sexuality- what happened while we were married- and what insights we want to gain- and thus make some changes if we realize we have to in order to enjoy a more satisfying fulfilling sexual life- for ourselves and with our new partners whenever that happens.

Topics include:

• Who first talked to you about sex and what were they presenting it as a positive experience?
• What were you taught about masturbation?
• Were you brought up to think sex was wrong?
• Do you have a negative self image of your body?
• Were there unresolved sex issues you brought into your marriage?
• How to move on to healthly new sexual relationships
• And much more

DSR Host, Steve Peck provides an update of what's new at Divorce Source Radio.

Thousands of kids experience the stress of divorce each year. How they'll react depends on their age, personality, and the particular circumstances of the separation and divorce process.

Every divorce will have an effect on the kids involved — and many times the initial reaction is one of shock, sadness, frustration, anger, or worry. But kids can also come out of it better able to cope with stress, and many become more flexible, tolerant young adults.

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce Radio Program, Dr. Mark Banschick MD helps us recognize if your kid are in trouble and what to do to set it right. You will learn how to parent constructively with your ex spouse or how to raise a healthy child alone. You'll be able to chart your kids progress and feel reassured that things are going to be okay. You don't want your child to be a statistic.

This episode of Beyond Divorce with Susan Pease Gadoua, Discusses the challenge and rewards of co-parenting post divorce.

How co-parenting goes post divorce depends to a large degree on how it was during the marriage: if it was difficult, it may be more difficult post divorce, and if it was good, it may be better. Often, the parenting dynamics are exaggerated so, even though the amount of contact with your ex is less, the intensity of the contact may be greater.

Challenges to overcome include being fearful that the other parent has less regard for the health and safety or your child, disapproving or your ex's parenting style, feeling a sense of competition with your ex and using your children as pawns.

In divorce, there are often feelings of anger, sadness and hurt - co-parenting is no exception. It's important to get adequate emotional support as well as co-parenting education. Learning effective communication styles can be crucial in having a better working experience.

Part of a divorce is the division of property. The marital home used to be one of a couple’s major assets but due to the current economy, the equity in many homes has been turned upside down leaving couples with little or no equity and in some cases, the couples owe more than their house is worth.

In this "Best of DSR"program featuring attorney Henry Gornbein, we discuss the difference between Real Property and Personal Property; we’ll look at residential and commercial real estate holdings. And if you own a business, you’ll learn how businesses are valued and dealt with during a divorce.

We’ll also discuss how Boats, planes, cars, furnishings, Stock Assets, Pensions, collectibles, and Inheritance come into play when dividing property.

In the first episode of The Intelligent Divorce, Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D. discusses how to tell your children about divorce.

Truth is a great value, but it is not the only value by which we live. When it comes to kids, their health and well-being trumps everything else. We bring them into the world fresh and innocent. Your children were probably born into an intact family. This is what they know – a solid, caring team who loves them.

Much will change with a divorce. A child is no longer able to be with both of their parents at the same time, under the same roof. Their sense of security can be lessened and they must adapt to a new way of life.

Do you really want to tell them the truth? Should they know that their father had an affair and left their mother (and them)? Do you want them to know about their mother’s alcoholism? I’m not so sure.

There is a lot in life that’s private. Kids need to have their innocence. This means that they need not know everything – explicit details are better left unsaid. In my mind, their mental health trumps truth.

This opinion is not always embraced by parents, particularly a parent who feels wronged or defamed. That parent wants the child to carry the same opinion about the other parent that they carry. Here’s something to remember: your children are not you. They are entitled to their own opinions.

In this program learn the essential Do's and Don'ts when it comes to breaking the news to your children.