A question often asked in domestic abuse situations is “Didn’t anyone see the signs?” In this episode we tackle this issue of abuse and warning signs. Executive Director of DASAS, Rose Ludwick and Deborah Hackworth, Director of Advocacy Services recently sat down to explore warning signs we see at DASAS and how to recognize domestic violence.

First Deb and Rose define "What is domestic violence?"

Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.​

Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.​

Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. ​ Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

Signs of domestic violence isn't always broken bones and bruises. More often, abuse begins quietly and unobserved. A few of the red flag warning signs Deborah mentioned include*:

*Each warning sign on its own may not be a red flag. Romance isn't so bad. Knowing quickly that you love someone deeply isn't inherently wrong. It's all about being aware of intent and the holistic view of the relationship.

Visit https://www.dasasmi.org/ for resources or call our 24-hour hotline at 800-828-2023.

National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800-799-7233 (800-799-SAFE)