Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast

No research drops. No homework. Just a game — and a surprisingly revealing one.

In Episode 30, Scott and Brittney play Would You Rather: Couples Intimacy Edition. Fifteen questions, real-time answers, zero prep — and more than a few moments where one of them surprises the other.

Would you rather have amazing sex once a month or good sex three times a week? Would you rather know every fantasy your partner has ever had — or have them know all of yours? Would you rather spend the rest of your relationship never talking about sex — or talking about it so openly it occasionally gets uncomfortable?

This one is meant to be listened to together. Pause after each question. Answer out loud. See what comes up.

In this episode:

• 15 Would You Rather questions across four rounds — warm up, spicy, revealing, and the final three
• Scott & Brittney's live, unscripted answers — including the ones that actually surprised each other
• Why forced-choice questions surface preferences that open-ended ones never do
• The one thing to do after the episode ends

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here: 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

The orgasm gap is one of the most documented — and least honestly discussed — realities in sexual research. In heterosexual sex, men orgasm 95% of the time. Women? 65%. And that gap isn't a body problem. It's an information and attention problem.

In Episode 29, Scott and Brittney tackle the female orgasm head-on — covering the anatomy most couples were never taught, the research on what actually works, and the conversation most heterosexual couples have never had. Scott shares what changed when he actually understood the anatomy. Brittney shares what it felt like before and after those conversations happened.

This is the episode for every man who thought he understood this — and every woman who has spent years feeling like her pleasure was optional.

In this episode:

• The orgasm gap by the numbers — and why the lesbian orgasm rate reveals everything
• The full anatomy of the clitoris — why it's nothing like what most people were taught
• Less than 10% of women orgasm from penetration alone — what that means for your sex life
• The four research-identified clitoral stimulation techniques most couples have never tried
• Why faking orgasm guarantees the gap continues — and what to do instead
• The specific behaviors most strongly associated with female orgasm
• The conversation every couple needs to have — and how to start it tonight

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here: 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

We made our actual Intimacy Bucket List. Then we told you which ones we've done.

In Episode 28, Scott and Brittney get personal with 10 sexual experiences every couple should try at least once — and instead of keeping it theoretical, they share exactly where each item lands for them personally. Done it? Haven't gotten there yet? One of them more into it than the other? You're getting the real answers.

From outdoor sex and blindfold and temperature play, to restraint, anal play, mirror sex, a nude getaway, and the one experience that should belong only to the two of you — this list is spicy, honest, and built for couples who want to keep their sex life genuinely alive, not just functional.

Fair warning: you're going to want to pause this episode and text your partner at least twice.

In this episode:

• Why long-term couples stop exploring — and what novelty actually does to attraction
• 10 bucket list experiences ranging from vulnerable to bold
• Scott & Brittney's honest, specific answers for each one — done it or not, and what the story is
• How to share this list with your partner without making it feel like a performance review
• Why finding the "easiest yes" together is the smartest starting point

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here: 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

Where did you learn about sex and intimacy? Movies? Church? A locker room? A well-meaning friend who was just as clueless as you?

Most of us absorbed our earliest beliefs about intimacy from sources that were wrong, incomplete, or actively harmful — and we've been quietly running on those beliefs ever since.

In Episode 27, Scott and Brittney get personal and a little vulnerable as they walk through the top 10 intimacy myths they actually believed — and what it took to unlearn them. From the spontaneous passion myth and the mind-reading expectation, to performance pressure, purity culture messaging, and the idea that wanting more means something is wrong with you — this episode names the scripts most couples are still running on without realizing it.

It's lighter than it sounds. There's humor, honesty, and more than a few moments where Scott and Brittney share the personal cost of believing something that was never true.

In this episode:

• Why unconscious myths do more damage than obvious ones
• The spontaneous passion myth — and what responsive desire actually looks like
• Performance myths about duration and frequency that were never based in reality
• How purity culture messaging shows up in adult relationships long after you've left the church
• The movie version of sex vs. the real, awkward, actually intimate version
• The common thread across all 10 myths: they were all designed to make you smaller

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here:
 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

One of the most searched, least honestly discussed topics in couples' intimacy — and we're going there.

In this episode, Scott and Brittney tackle anal sex for beginners: the real statistics, the anatomy you actually need to understand, a practical step-by-step guide for couples who want to explore it safely, and the emotional conversation that most how-to guides skip entirely.

Whether you're curious and don't know where to start, one partner has brought it up and the other isn't sure how to respond, or you've tried it and felt like something was off — this episode gives you the honest, judgment-free information and perspective most people never get.

In this episode:

• The actual prevalence data — it's more common than the silence around it suggests
• Anatomy basics: why the anus requires different preparation than vaginal sex
• The prostate and why anal pleasure is an anatomy thing, not an orientation thing
• A practical step-by-step guide: lube, pacing, prep, safety, and what "go slow" actually means
• How to bring it up with your partner — and how not to
• What to do if one partner is interested and the other isn't
• The trust component — and why that's the real prerequisite

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here: 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

How connected are you — really?

Not how connected you used to be. Not how connected you intend to be. Right now, today — how well do you actually know what your partner is carrying, what they need, and how satisfied they are?

In Episode 25, Scott and Brittney do something a little different: they walk through a 7-question Intimacy Audit live — answering each question honestly, reacting to each other's answers in real time, and inviting you to sit with your own answers as you listen.

These aren't trick questions. They're the ones most couples never think to ask — until the drift has already happened. Questions about initiation, laughter, the things you haven't said, how seen your partner feels, and whether you actually know the answers or just think you do.

This is a lighter episode — fun, honest, a little revealing — but don't be surprised if it opens a conversation you didn't know you needed.

In this episode:

• Why slow drift is more dangerous than a big fight — and how to catch it early
• 7 audit questions that reveal more than you expect
• Scott and Brittney answer live — including the ones that hit hardest
• What to do with what you discover — without turning it into a grievance list
• How the audit connects back to the daily practices from Episode 24

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here: 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

You don't need a weekend retreat to feel close again. You need six seconds.

In Episode 24, Scott and Brittney break down the research-backed micro-rituals that keep connected couples close — and that disconnected couples have quietly stopped doing. These aren't elaborate date nights or weekend getaways. They're small, repeatable practices that take ten minutes or less, and the science behind them is hard to argue with.

From Dr. John Gottman's famous 6-second kiss (built from 30 years of research on over 3,000 couples) to the 20-second hug that actually lowers your blood pressure, the daily appreciation practice that predicts next-day satisfaction, and the non-sexual touch reset most couples have forgotten — this episode gives you a practical toolkit you can start using tonight.

Scott and Brittney also get honest about why couples stop doing these things — and it's rarely about being too busy. They talk about how emotional distance makes small rituals feel awkward, why that's the exact moment to lean in anyway, and how consistency is what turns a simple practice into real intimacy.

In this episode:

• The science behind why small moments matter more than big gestures
• The 6-second kiss — what it is, why 6 seconds, and what it does to your brain
• The 20-second hug and its measurable effects on stress and connection
• The daily appreciation practice that boosts next-day satisfaction for both partners
• A no-phone check-in ritual and why "how was your day?" is the wrong question
• The sensory slow-down: non-sexual touch that actually rebuilds desire
• Why couples stop doing these things — and how to start again even when it feels awkward

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here: 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

What if the reason your sex life feels stuck has nothing to do with what you're doing — and everything to do with what you're feeling?

In Episode 23, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most powerful frameworks in intimacy: Core Desires. These are the emotional experiences you're actually craving during sex and closeness — and most people have never once named them out loud.

They walk through the major Core Desire feeling states (from Adored and Desired to Wild, Surrendered, Powerful, and Free), break down a practical three-step method for discovering your own, and tackle what to do when you and your partner want to feel completely different things in bed.

And then they get personal. Scott and Brittney each share their own Core Desires — what they are, when they finally recognized them, and what changed in their relationship the moment they named them honestly.

This episode is for anyone who's ever felt vaguely unsatisfied in intimacy without being able to explain why. The answer might be simpler than you think.

In this episode:

• Why talking about acts keeps couples stuck — and what to focus on instead
• A tour of the most common Core Desires and how to recognize yours
• The 3-step method to translate your turn-ons into feelings
• Scott & Brittney share their personal Core Desires
• What to do when your desires don't match your partner's
• Micro-intimacy: how small moments can meet big desires
• How to start this conversation with your partner tonight

Learn more about core desires here: https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/blog/what-are-core-desires/

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here: 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

It's one of the most Googled questions in the history of relationships — and one of the least talked about honestly. In this episode, Scott and Brittney tackle the penis size conversation head-on, cutting through cultural myths, porn-fueled distortions, and the silent insecurities that quietly affect men and their partners every day.

They break down what peer-reviewed research actually says — including a landmark clinical study of over 15,000 men that reveals the average size is significantly smaller than most people believe — and why the gap between how men feel about themselves and how their partners actually feel is one of the most striking disconnects in sexual relationships.

Scott and Brittney also get real about why size anxiety is a legitimate psychological issue that can damage confidence, create performance problems, and show up as a barrier to true intimacy — and what partners can do or say to help. Plus, they explore what the research consistently says matters more than size: girth vs. length, emotional connection, sexual technique, confidence, and communication.

Whether you've had this conversation with your partner or have been quietly avoiding it — this episode gives you the facts, the honest takes, and the tools to talk about it.

In this episode:

• What clinical research says the actual average is (it's not what you think)
• Why 85% of partners report satisfaction — but nearly half of men don't
• Girth vs. length: what the research actually says matters more
• The psychological toll of size anxiety — and why it's more common than anyone admits
• The conversation most couples are not having — and why they should be
• Myths vs. facts: rapid-fire debunking of the most common size beliefs

Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here: 

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download 

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

Most couples don’t struggle with intimacy because they don’t love each other — they struggle because they’re making common mistakes without realizing it.

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we break down the top 10 intimacy mistakes couples make in long-term relationships and marriage — and what to do instead.

We talk about:

• Why waiting for spontaneous desire doesn’t work
• How resentment quietly kills attraction
• Why performance pressure shuts down pleasure
• The role of curiosity in keeping sex alive
• How confidence changes everything in the bedroom
• And why shifts in desire don’t mean something is wrong

If you want to improve your sex life, deepen emotional connection, and strengthen intimacy in your marriage, this episode gives you practical, honest insight into what may be holding you back.

Couples Intimacy Resources

Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?

Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.

For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.

Explore both here:

Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download

Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching