In this episode, Lori Hawkins interviews Irene King, an attorney specializing in collaborative divorce. They discuss the shift from traditional litigation to collaborative processes, the importance of communication, and the benefits of collaborative divorce for families. Irene shares her unique background as a classically trained singer and her passion for helping families navigate divorce in a healthier way. The conversation also addresses common misconceptions about collaborative divorce and the role of attorneys in this process.Takeaways*Irene King transitioned from litigation to collaborative divorce in 2015.*Collaborative divorce allows families to maintain control over their decisions.*The court system often exacerbates conflict rather than resolving it.*Communication is key in collaborative divorce processes.*Irene emphasizes the importance of educating clients about their options.*Collaborative divorce can be a healthier alternative to traditional litigation.*Irene's background in music informs her approach to conflict resolution.*The collaborative process involves a team of professionals to support families.*Misconceptions about trust in collaborative divorce can hinder its adoption.*Irene encourages open-mindedness about the divorce process. Chapters00:00 Introduction to Collaborative Divorce02:58 The Role of a Collaborative Attorney05:31 Understanding the Collaborative Process08:27 Challenges in Collaborative Divorce11:17 The Importance of Communication14:12 A Unique Perspective on Divorce16:49 The Crazy Divorce Story19:26 The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce22:25 Navigating Mistrust in Divorce25:06 The Structure of Collaborative Divorce27:59 Choosing the Right Attorney30:29 Final Thoughts and Resources

Meet Suzanne Cavanaugh, Partner with Cavanaugh Hamrick McCarthy, PLLC. I am excited to have her as my guest this week on Dodging Divorce Disasters. In this conversation, I interview Suzanne, a family law attorney and certified divorce financial analyst. We discuss the unique approach of her law firm, the emotional and financial aspects of divorce, common pitfalls to avoid, and the importance of legal consultation. Suzanne shares her expertise in handling high equity divorces and emphasizes the need for clients to understand their rights and options before making decisions. The conversation concludes with advice on choosing the right attorney and the significance of personal rapport in the attorney-client relationship.Takeaways from the podcast:*Clients benefit from collaborative input from the entire CHM Law Firm.*Having a Family Law Attorney that is also a CDFA can streamline financial aspects of divorce.*Consulting an attorney before signing documents is crucial.*High equity divorces require specialized knowledge and experience.*Avoiding common pitfalls can save clients from future legal issues.*Choosing the right attorney involves assessing personality fit.*Legal consultations can clarify misconceptions about divorce laws.*Clients should be proactive in understanding their rights and options.Thank you Suzanne for being my guest and taking the time to share your expertise, not only as a Family Law Attorney but a CDFA as well.Chapters00:00Introduction to Family Law and Unique Expertise05:36The Role of a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst10:06Emotional and Financial Aspects of Divorce15:55Common Divorce Pitfalls and Legal Advice20:21Choosing the Right Attorney for Your Divorce25:11Practical Advice for Starting the Divorce Process27:45Final Thoughts and Contact Information

In this conversation, Lori Hawkins interviews Katrina Reese Newton, a licensed clinical social worker and divorce coach, about the complexities of navigating divorce, especially in high-conflict situations. Katrina shares her insights on the importance of divorce coaching, advocating for children, and creating effective parenting plans. She emphasizes the need for clear communication and boundaries in high-conflict divorces and discusses the role of therapists in court. The conversation also touches on the impact of technology in divorce and the importance of emotional health during this challenging time.Takeaways:*Divorce coaching fills a significant gap in the divorce process.*Advocating for children is crucial during divorce.*High conflict divorces require specialized strategies.*Therapists can play a vital role in court cases.*Technology can be misused during divorce, requiring caution.*Effective parenting plans must be detailed and specific.*Communication strategies are essential in high conflict situations.*Setting clear boundaries helps manage stress and conflict.*Emotional health is critical for both parents and children during divorce.*Support systems are vital for navigating the divorce process.Chapters00:00Introduction to Divorce Coaching and Therapy02:56The Importance of Child Advocacy in Divorce05:44Navigating Divorce: Personal Experiences and Insights09:11Working with Both Men and Women in Divorce11:54The Role of Therapists in Court Testimonies15:04Avoiding Divorce Disasters: Technology and Emotional Preparedness17:54Creating Effective Parenting Plans21:06Developing Communication Skills in High Conflict Situations23:59The Importance of Boundaries in Divorce27:05Conclusion and Resources for Support

In this engaging conversation, Lori Hawkins interviews Hilary Porta, a life architect and coach who specializes in helping individuals navigate the complexities of divorce and personal transformation. Hilary shares her journey of rebuilding her life after a high-conflict divorce, emphasizing the importance of generational shifting and soul recalibration. She discusses her work with clients, including men and women, and the significance of having a support system during challenging times. The conversation also highlights Hilary's Freedom Tour, an eight-week program designed to help individuals rediscover themselves and architect a fulfilling life post-divorce. Listeners are encouraged to reach out to Hilary for support and guidance on their own journeys.Takeaways*Hilary's journey began after a high-conflict divorce, leading her to rebuild her life.*She emphasizes the importance of generational shifting to break cycles of shame and guilt.*Hilary's work combines strategy with emotional healing, referred to as 'soul surgery.'*The Freedom Tour is an eight-week program designed for personal transformation.*Hilary works with a diverse clientele, including men, to address their unique challenges.*Being still in chaos is crucial for making better decisions during divorce.*Support systems are essential to avoid making detrimental decisions during divorce.*Hilary's approach is about helping clients remember their true selves.*The Freedom Tour is accessible globally and can be done at one's own pace.*Hilary encourages individuals to reach out for help and not face their challenges alone.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Hilary Porta01:14 Hilary's Journey of Rebuilding Life04:36 The Importance of Generational Shifting06:28 The Concept of Soul Recalibration11:30 Dodging Divorce Disasters18:10 The Freedom Tour and Its Impact27:25 Connecting with Hilary

*SummaryIn this conversation, Lori Hawkins interviews Robyn Hazel, a forensic accountant, who shares insights into the role of forensic accountants in divorce cases. Robyn discusses the importance of documentation, common financial mistakes to avoid during divorce, and how business valuations are conducted. She also shares personal anecdotes and advice for both business owners and their spouses navigating the divorce process. The conversation emphasizes the need for transparency and proper financial planning during divorce, highlighting that financial lives will change post-divorce.Takeaways*Forensic accountants help uncover hidden financial issues during divorce.*Documentation is crucial in divorce cases to support claims and decisions.*Ignoring tax implications can lead to costly mistakes in divorce settlements.*Co-mingling funds can complicate asset division and require forensic analysis.*Cash flow is more important than net worth when considering divorce settlements.*Future modifications in child support and alimony should be anticipated and planned for.*It's essential to gather as much financial documentation as possible before divorce proceedings.*Legal fees can escalate quickly; pick your battles wisely during divorce negotiations.*Be honest about business expenses to avoid complications during valuations.*Consulting with an attorney early in the process can provide valuable guidance.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Forensic Accounting02:46 Understanding the Role of Forensic Accountants05:54 Personal Insights and Fun Facts09:00 Navigating Divorce: Crazy Stories and Lessons Learned11:15 The Importance of Documentation in Divorce14:07 Financial Mistakes to Avoid During Divorce17:00 Preparing for Business Valuations in Divorce19:40 Advice for Non-Business Spouses22:35 What Every Divorcing Client Should Know About Money

In this engaging conversation, Lori Hawkins interviews Andrew Hatherley, a financial advisor specializing in gray divorce. They discuss the complexities of navigating divorce, particularly for those over 50, and the importance of having a knowledgeable support team. Andrew shares his personal experiences and insights on the financial implications of divorce, the significance of education in the process, and the resources available for individuals considering divorce. The episode emphasizes the need for proper planning and the benefits of seeking help from various professionals, including financial advisors, divorce coaches, and attorneys.Takeaways:*Divorce is often the largest financial transaction in a person's life.*Education about the divorce process is crucial for making informed decisions.*Gray divorce is increasingly common, affecting financial stability for those over 50.*Women often face a greater financial impact post-divorce compared to men.*It's essential to have a supportive team during the divorce process.*Procrastination in divorce can lead to costly financial mistakes.*Alternative divorce processes like mediation can reduce stress and costs.*Getting finances organized before consulting an attorney can save time and money.*The Gray Divorce Podcast aims to educate and support individuals going through divorce.*Building a positive future after divorce is possible with the right guidance.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background04:47 Navigating Divorce: Lessons Learned12:22 Understanding Gray Divorce16:37 When to Seek Help: The Right Order20:21 The Great Divorce Podcast: Purpose and Insights25:18 Resources and Final Thoughts

In this conversation, Lori Hawkins interviews family law attorney Bethany Mulhern, discussing her background, the intricacies of family law, and practical advice for navigating custody and school decisions. They delve into the differences between arbitration and mediation, emphasizing the importance of effective communication between co-parents to minimize conflict and ensure the best outcomes for children.Takeaways:*Bethany has been a family law attorney since 2018.*Her firm exclusively practices family law in North Carolina.*Arbitration is a binding decision made by a neutral third party.*Mediation helps parties come to an agreement without a binding decision.*Effective communication is crucial for co-parents to avoid conflict.*Parents should check their custody orders for school transitions.*Planning ahead for school schedules can alleviate stress.*Both parents should be included in school communications.*Arbitration can be a less formal and more comfortable process than court.*The school year brings more holidays and scheduling complexities.Chapters00:00Introduction and Background10:04Navigating Custody and School Decisions19:51Understanding Arbitration vs. Mediation29:57Effective Communication for Co-Parents

Meet Deb Dilman, a Family Law Attorney and Court Appointed Mediator in Charlotte, NC. Attorney Dilman is also trained in the Collaborative Divorce Process.

Learn as Atty Deb Dilman explains:

The difference between a Separation Agreement vs a Court Order.

What is Mediation and how can you best prepared beforehand?

What is meant by the phrase "Uncoupling"?

Listen to the advice she gives on how to Dodge the Divorce Disaster of overpaying spousal support so this won't happen to you.

Lots of good information being dished out!

In this engaging conversation, Lori Hawkins interviews Kathy Broom, a private investigator with over 15 years of experience in handling domestic cases, including divorce and child custody. Kathy shares fascinating stories from her career, including the challenges of gathering evidence, the emotional toll of her work, and the importance of trusting one's instincts in relationships. The discussion also covers practical advice for those considering hiring a private investigator, the signs of infidelity, and the realities of working in the field. Kathy emphasizes the need for thorough vetting of clients and the importance of having a good attorney during divorce proceedings.

*Kathy Broom has over 15 years of experience as a private investigator.*Private investigators often work on domestic cases like divorce and child custody.*It's crucial to trust your gut feelings in relationships.*Kathy emphasizes the importance of thorough vetting of clients.*Evidence gathering can be emotionally challenging for investigators.*Private investigators may need to go undercover in certain cases.*The job of a private investigator is not glamorous and often involves long hours.*Choosing the right attorney is essential during divorce proceedings.*Kathy shares a memorable story about a cheating spouse case.*Communication with clients is key to successful investigations.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Private Investigation and Personal Stories04:55 Crazy Divorce Stories and Lessons Learned10:27 The Role of Private Investigators in Divorce Cases15:14 Identifying Cheating Behaviors17:45 Child Custody Cases and Investigative Techniques22:50 Undercover Operations and Real-Life Challenges28:31 Choosing the Right Private Investigator34:44 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

In this conversation, Lori Hawkins and Erin Egan discuss the critical aspects of health insurance, particularly in the context of divorce. Erin, an agency owner and health insurance broker, shares insights on the importance of understanding health insurance options during divorce proceedings, especially for children. They explore various insurance plans, the implications of choosing the right coverage, and the emotional factors that can influence decision-making. The discussion emphasizes the need for individuals going through a divorce to be informed and proactive about their health insurance choices, ensuring the best outcomes for their families.Takeaways*Health insurance is crucial during divorce proceedings.*Emotions can cloud judgment in insurance decisions.*It's essential to compare insurance options thoroughly.*Divorce is a qualifying event for insurance changes.*Children's health coverage should be prioritized.*Insurance options can vary significantly based on circumstances.*Choosing the right insurance agent is vital.*Understanding maximum out-of-pocket costs is essential.*Proactive planning can prevent future financial strain.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Health Insurance and Divorce06:57 Understanding Health Insurance Options During Divorce16:25 Navigating Insurance Choices for Children21:46 The Importance of Choosing the Right Insurance Agent