Dontbeacrumqueen

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host.

Love bombing.  Whether you’ve experienced it or not, most of you have probably heard the term especially as it relates to a narcissist.  

Although it was a term I was familiar with I had not experienced it….until I did, and now I know.

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I'm your host.  
Today, I want to talk about confidence.

We’ve all met them, men and women who exude confidence and walk with such purpose.  When you are around them, you can’t help but be drawn to them.  You sense they have something you want but how do you get it?  

So, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the word Love or even the words “I Love You” and what they mean.  We all have a different interpretation and it is largely colored by what we did or did not receive growing up.  There are also different kinds of love.  Love for a parent, sibling or family member.  Love for a friend or even a platonic love within a relationship.  None of those are bad, they are just all different.

I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships lately and how they affect us, whether that’s good or bad.

As human beings, I believe we were created to want and enjoy relationships with others.  Relationships are places where we hope to find Everlasting Love, Comfort, Peace, Joy and Acceptance.  However, more often than not, what we find is that relationships are more like sandpaper.  Smoothing out our rough edges and exposing our unhealed wounds.

I wanted to talk today about the story we tell ourselves.  Each one of us has a story and each one of us can absolutely REWRITE the narrative of our story.  

For a lot of us, the stories we’ve held onto began back in childhood.  We heard (or felt) things like we weren’t attractive enough, we were too fat or too skinny, or we weren’t the sharpest tool in the shed.  You fill in the blank.  The thing is that’s NOT our story.  Those were simply opinions of others that we allowed to stick to us throughout our lives.  By allowing those labels to stick, we began to believe they were true and lived our lives as such.  

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host.

I’ve been thinking lately about the phrase “Purpose in the Pain” and how Life changing it can be if we see our experiences through that lens.

Living in this world of ours means at some point in our Life, we will ALL experience some level of pain, loss, or heartache.  I’m sure if we could choose NOT to go through any of that we would, at least I know I would.  Unfortunately, that’s not reality and pain, loss and even heartache are unavoidable.  So how do we make Peace then with those things when they happen to us?  I believe it’s by seeing “the Purpose in the Pain”.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the cycles we tend to repeat especially when it comes to relationships.  I guess it’s because I myself have been enlightened through my own experiences to see how I was repeating patterns in romantic relationships.   

Today I wanted to share some thoughts regarding manipulation when it comes to relationships.  This is something near and dear to my heart, probably because I’ve personally experienced it (in two completely different ways) in my past relationships.

When it comes to manipulation, no one really likes to admit it’s happening to them, especially when it comes to a romantic partner.  We like to believe we’re too smart to be manipulated and we would detect it right away. That would never happen to me, right?  Not necessarily.

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host.

 Whether you want to admit it or not, we all have patterns of behaviors that we established back in our childhood to survive the environment we were living in no matter how good or bad our experiences were.  We ALL played a role in our families growing up.  Problems arise, however, when we enter into relationships and these patterns get exposed.  Dynamics change and break ups occur.  We’re left wondering WHY our relationships never seem to work out for us or WHY we always attract the same type of person. 

I think we can probably all agree that relationships take work.  When you're in the right one, it's probably easier and when you're in the wrong one, it's more challenging.